how to be gay

how to be gay

personal essay

relationships

Loving the Women Who Look Like Me: Queer Black Women in Love

I realized that one of the hardest parts about accepting my sexual orientation was that I literally did not believe that Black women were lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals or queer.…

Helen —

May 19, 2014

how to be gay

the color purple

first person

Top Five Tools In My Baby Dyke Survival Kit

“Some days, I really just needed to curl up in a cozy plaid jacket and have all the homo feelings.”

Helen —

Mar 12, 2014

how to be gay

Lists/Top 10s

relationships

13 Ways to Make Your Long-Distance Relationship The Most Awesome Part of Your Life

You want to touch them, smell them and, if you’re me, bite their ear. Why don’t the forces of geography and physics rally to both your cries and fold the…

Morgan M —

Oct 29, 2013

how to be gay

Lists/Top 10s

lesbian sex

The Single Queer’s Guide To Meeting Someone To Have Sex With

Where to go and what to do when you want to ditch that vibrator and find a good helping hand.

Tieara —

Oct 6, 2013

advice

how to be gay

lesbian sex

You Need Help: Telling Someone How To Sex You Up

Fortunately, people DO come with a user manual, you just have to verbally speak it into existence.

A.E. Osworth —

Jul 9, 2013

greatest hits

how to be gay

dating

Listicle: Some Things to Maybe Not Do on a Queer Lady Date

“Apologies to the chica who had to endure a reenactment of my favorite scene from Glitter.”

gabby —

Jun 20, 2013

greatest hits

how to be gay

relationships

To Be A U-Haul Lesbian or Not To Be A U-Haul Lesbian: Almost Definitely Not

As predictable as the seasons themselves, it’s the start of the Annual Dyke Moving Season! Hoooraaaay!

Effing Dykes —

Jun 10, 2013

how to be gay

trans women

dating

Getting With Girls Like Us: A Radical Guide to Dating Trans* Women for Cis Women

Okay ladies, let’s stop right here and get our game together.

Savannah —

Mar 14, 2013

Daily Fix

greatest hits

lesbian sex

You Need Help: Real Talk About Your First Strap-On

“Help! I just got a strap-on and it turns out I’m not so skilled at using it (yet). How do I learn?”

A.E. Osworth —

Feb 1, 2013

how to be gay

i broke up like this

breakups

Holiday Breakups: 10 Reasons to Buck Up And Do It

Sometimes you have to break up with someone to save yourself, no matter what time of the year.

gabby —

Nov 29, 2012

bisexuality

how to be gay

dating

Oh Gay Cupid! True Life: I’m an Equal Opportunity Makeout Artist

“The internet is full of weirdos, and currently when you list yourself as bisexual you’re essentially signing yourself up to meet twice as many of those weirdos.”

Stef —

Nov 14, 2012

how to be gay

oh gay cupid

dating

Oh Gay Cupid! You Met Online, And That’s OK

“Why do I still feel the need to give her the weird side-eye and awkwardly laugh when people ask how we met?”

Hansen —

Nov 5, 2012