how to be gay

greatest hits

how to be gay

breakups

The Best Breakup Advice You’ll Ever Get

“The world is supposed to feel as though it is ending and you are supposed to know only in the most dormant recesses of the backmost corner of your soul…

Riese —

Apr 18, 2024

epic

greatest hits

astrology, tarot & witchcraft

Your Completely Queer Guide To Horoscope Hookups

Welcome to the most in-depth amazing massive guide to queer-girl zodiac horoscope compatibility anywhere in the entire universe. “What’s your sign?” is a totally valid pick-up line, and don’t let…

Kate —

Mar 22, 2021

Autostraddle Reader Data

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lesbian sex

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But it doesn’t happen for the reasons you think it does, and it’s not necessarily the…

Riese —

Jul 28, 2023

advice

how to be gay

lesbian dating apps

A Very Sensible, Queer Guide to Sending the First Message on Dating Apps

14 first messages that will have you burning up your matches list (with queer pop culture references!).

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 13, 2021

greatest hits

how to be gay

love + sex

How to Have Lesbian Sex For the First Time

This is how we do it, it’s Sunday night and I’m feeling right, the party is here on the Lez Side.

the team —

Nov 13, 2019

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scissoring

lesbian sex

You Need Help: What’s The Deal With Scissoring?

I researched scissoring for you. My Google history is awesome right now.

A.E. Osworth —

Jul 1, 2018

autostraddle meet-ups

how to be gay

camp

5 Very Low Key Meet-Ups You Could Host Immediately!

A meet up does not always have to be a whole scenario!

Vanessa —

May 21, 2018

how to be gay

the l word

Watching “The L Word” For The First Time: A Gentle Guide

A guide to watching “The L Word” for first-timers, chock-full of L Word trivia for repeat offenders.

Riese —

Feb 15, 2018

bdsm

how to be gay

lesbian sex

View From The Top: A Short History of What I Learned From Dating

I wish someone had told me sooner that I had been seeking mastery all this time, but I wouldn’t have been ready to hear it. Until r came along.

Sinclair Sexsmith —

Mar 28, 2017

how to be gay

online dating

love + sex

Every Way To Find A Date, Ranked By A Shane

“First comes Twitter, then comes Snapchat, then comes texting nudes to a complete and total stranger.” Patty-cake to that one, kiddos.

Cecelia —

Aug 18, 2016

how to be gay

uhauling

relationships

You Need Help: How Soon Is Too Soon To U-Haul, Get Married, Have Ten Babies, Be Together Forever and Ever and Ever and Ever?

“…there’s a value in extending the period of time in which the way you build a life together is directed only by what’s in your heart and guts and brain,…

Riese —

Aug 10, 2016

how to be gay

Lists/Top 10s

love + sex

10 Tips For Texting About Sex (and Having the Kind You Want)

“You will have the best sex possible when you abandon yourself to pleasure.” The fastest way to find that feeling of abandon? Telling someone what to do to get you…

Lynsey —

Apr 26, 2016