gender identity

asia

drag

the scene

The Drag Kings of Taipei

I moved to California from Shanghai at fourteen and threw myself into learning how to be an American. It’s a lot like doing drag.

Alison Tam —

Nov 6, 2019

gender identity

non-binary

gender

You Need Help: A Non-Binary Woman Working Through the Gender Feels

“Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to open a door, to open a possibility, the weight of that possibility and that choice is damn heavy – and overwhelming.”

Archie —

Aug 12, 2019

butch

gender identity

gender

You Need Help: How Do I Tell If I’m a Butch Cis Woman or a Trans Non-Binary Person?

If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also…

A.E. Osworth —

Jan 29, 2019

bisexuality

gender identity

af+

Into The A+ Advice Box #3: Summer Hookups, Bisexual Sadness and Gender Feelings

We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender…

Riese —

Jul 30, 2018

agender

gender identity

first person

We Aren’t Failures: Naming What Was Lost as an Agender Person

“Other people built a gender for me and trusted that I would defend what they built. But what I was handed never made sense.”

(Hill)ary Brown —

Jul 5, 2018

gender identity

you need help

gender

You Need Help: You’re Not Sure If You’re a Boy and Gender Is Hard

“A lot of the narrative about gender questioning at large is about tragedy, about what we lose. I encourage you (even though I know it’s challenging) to think about your…

M —

Jun 18, 2018

Drawn to Comics

gender identity

geekery

Drawn to Comics: “The Prince and the Dressmaker” Is a Stunningly Gorgeous Book About Being Yourself

We’re all lucky enough to see an exclusive preview of this book about dresses, gender, true selves and love right here.

Mey —

Feb 13, 2018

gender identity

how to live with kids

parenting & family

Y’All Need Help #20: First Admit That You Don’t Know Yet

What should you do about a baby’s pronouns, how do you and your girlfriend both propose to each other, and how do you stop holding a candle for an idealized…

Laneia —

Feb 10, 2018

gender identity

you need help

gender

You Need Help: Reacting to Misgendering in Public

“Why can’t I just let it roll off me? And do you think there’s a way to react that might make the situation a little less miserable for me?”

Abbie Jones —

Feb 2, 2018

advice

gender identity

money + work

You Need Help: Coming Out as Non-Binary at Work

Our gender is not a burden, the binary mainstream society is. You are wonderful, I’m so proud of you for reaching out. Take what works from my suggestions, and know…

Araguaney R. Da Silva —

Nov 9, 2017

bdsm

bottoms up

lesbian sex

Bottoms Up: Ch-ch-changes

As my gender expression changes, so does who I’m attracted to.

Ari —

Jan 10, 2017

gender identity

international news

news

Seeds of a Revolution: Malaysian Trans Community Win in High Court’s Landmark Ruling

Malaysia’s High Court allowed a trans man to update his Identity Card to reflect his current name and gender identity. This possibly paradigm-changing ruling on IC changes opens the door…

Creatrix Tiara —

Aug 23, 2016