femmes

femmes

you need help

gender

You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Femme Invisibility Without Changing Who I Am?

“You mention that you don’t want to shout that you are a lesbian from the rooftops, and of course, there are places that would be unsafe to do that —…

Christina Tucker —

Mar 16, 2021

14 Knuckles

femmes

love + sex

14 Knuckles: Femme Top Revolution

There’s a difference between domination as a way to take control or claim power over another person — the way certain lovers have done with me — versus domination as…

Mat —

Aug 27, 2020

femme fashion

femmes

style

The Allure of Chola Femininity

This is precisely what I admire about cholas, and what I wanted to emulate for myself as a femme. These women were highly feminine, but not the dainty kind, the…

Cortez —

Aug 24, 2020

education

femmes

issues

The Public Education System Sucks (Especially for Queer Black Femmes)

If the Dean positions are largely dominated by men, guess who the most punished group in school is.

Syd —

May 12, 2020

but make it fashion

butch

issues

Neither Here Nor There: A BUTCH FEMME Photo Essay

I don’t want to be pigeonholed into a specific category or subject; I want to be seen as everything and nothing. I want to be seen as authentically myself, and…

Katie —

Dec 11, 2018

but make it fashion

fatness

issues

Femme Fashion Is Queer Fashion

“I sat there staring at my laptop screen soaking in the news that my love of flirty summer dresses, brightly hued tights, wine-colored lipstick and smiling radiantly in photos made…

Reneice Charles —

Nov 8, 2018

Ask Your Friendly Neighbourhood Lesbrarian

femmes

book lists

8 Soft Femme Memoirs for Your Femme But Not Too Femmey Needs

The following eight memoirs, which deal with gender, food, writing, relationships and more, reflect soft femmes, tomboy femmes, chapstick femmes, and other femmes who aren’t all that femmey.

Casey —

Dec 14, 2017

butch/femme

femmes

first person

With Gratitude and Struggle: Loving Butch/Femme as a Trans Woman

“Butch/Femme is important to me because butches and femmes writing and discussing what it meant to be who we are shaped my understanding of myself and how I can show…

Jess St. Louis —

Oct 30, 2017

bisexuality

femme fashion

beauty

How Stiletto Nails Helped Me Embrace My Queer High Femme Identity

My nails may contribute to the erasure of my queer identity, but they represent a departure from following other people’s rules — and instead listening to my own voice.

Alysse Dalessandro —

Aug 15, 2017

femme fashion

femmes

queer fashion

Oh, My Plus-Size Femme Heart! Nicolette Mason & Gabi Gregg’s New Clothing Line Is Amazing

There are some adorable outwear options for tomboys, too.

Nora —

Jul 25, 2017

femme fashion

femmes

queer fashion

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 12

Things get weird for this one year anniversary of What I Wore!

Erin —

Jul 6, 2017

femme fashion

femmes

queer fashion

What I Wore: Navigating the Heteronormative Patriarchy, Pt. 11

“This was going to be my last interaction with the heterosexual agenda for an entire week and I needed to keep my eye on the prize.”

Erin —

May 30, 2017