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andrea gibson

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Andrea Gibson’s Work Lives in the Realities of Chronic Pain

There’s a long and powerful queer lineage of artists whose bodies were politicized, pathologized, and misunderstood and who still chose to create from that place.

Katie —

Jul 21, 2025

andrea gibson

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Andrea Gibson Kept Sincerity Alive

The loss of Andrea Gibson is not just one that rocks the poetry world, but the world at large.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan —

Jul 18, 2025

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politics + activism

Sam Nordquist Loved His Family, Cooking, Dancing, Cats, and Nature

Sam deserved to keep living this life every day, and he deserved to grow up even further, to grow old, to achieve his goals, and get every single thing he…

Stef Rubino —

Feb 20, 2025

David Lynch

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movie features

Fix Your Hearts and Live

It is through women that Lynch reminds us: No matter how dark it gets, there is always the possibility for suffering to end.

Morgan M Page —

Jan 19, 2025

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politics + activism

Nikki Giovanni Never Stopped Standing Up for What’s Right

On Monday, it was reported that Nikki Giovanni — internationally recognized poet and leader in the Black Arts Movement who urged us to believe in and fight for a world…

Stef Rubino —

Dec 10, 2024

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dorothy allison

book features

Dorothy Allison, Lesbian and Feminist Writer and Activist, Has Died. We Must Keep Learning From Her Life’s Work and ‘Remake the World’

Dorothy Allison died at the age of 75 from cancer earlier this week. Some of my favorite teachers in the world are people I’ve never shared a classroom with, and…

Stef Rubino —

Nov 9, 2024

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Horror Is So Gay

issues

An Essay About Poltergeist but Actually It’s About My Dead Mom

Compared to my parents’ volatile relationship, their divorce, and the financial instability that came after it, being scared of ghosts seemed like a waste of time.

Stef Rubino —

Oct 26, 2024

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carol the dog

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A Heartbeat At My Feet

Carol was the best of me. She filled the gap between who I was and who I wanted to be: an animal unafraid to make the first move, loose and…

Riese —

Sep 19, 2024

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polyamory

the feature image for untethered shows a group of people gathered for a funeral, as well as a collaged image of a horse and of a fly

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Untethered: Visiting Other Peoples’ Families and Unhinged Horse Lesbians

She grabbed my hand and smashed a tomato with her homemade caesar dressing into my palm.

Nico —

May 16, 2024

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Crying in H Mart by Michelle Zauner, Long Live the Tribe of Fatherless Girls by T Kira Madden, and Time Is a Mother by Ocean Vuong

book lists

19 Queer Books About Losing a Parent

These queer books across all genres are all haunted in some way by the death of a parent.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

May 11, 2024

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Untethered

first person

Untethered: A Great Lady

I’ve been eulogizing, just to myself, in the moments between other moments that are claimed by tasks or thoughts of the present or literally anything else.

Nico —

Jan 11, 2024

af+ personal essay

BEGIN AGAIN

a young boy is submerged in water surrounded by flowers, light streams up from the bottom of the photo in a blur

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The Flood Came Later

“I’ve always loved the water. Before top surgery, when my discomfort with my body was at an all time high, swimming was the one thing I could do that gave…

Jude Little —

Nov 15, 2023