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You Need Help: I’m 13 — How Do I Explore My Butch Identity?

Ro White

Aug 9, 2022
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Vabbing, the New Trend Where You Use Your Own Vaginal Fluids as Perfume

Ro White

Jul 19, 2022
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Competitive Queerness Gives Me the Ick

Yashwina

May 31, 2022
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Fault Lines

Alayna Becker

Mar 7, 2022
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You’re a Combative Communicator? That’s a Red Flag!

Chinelo Anyadiegwu

Mar 2, 2022
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You Bad-Mouth Every Single One of Your Exes? That’s a Red Flag!

Taneasha

Feb 24, 2022
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How Ghosting Harms Queer Communities, According to a Philosopher

Em Hernandez

Feb 17, 2022
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You Have Road Rage? That’s a Red Flag!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Feb 8, 2022
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You’re a Bad Tipper? That’s a Red Flag!

Alyse Burnside

Jan 13, 2022
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I Used to ‘Compensate’ for My Blackness in the Dating World — Now I Embrace It

Lola Renn

Nov 29, 2021

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You Need Help: I’m 13 — How Do I Explore My Butch Identity?

Sometimes when you’re exploring a new aspect of your identity, you might feel like you have to emulate something specific. But there’s no one way to be butch. Go out…

Ro White —

Aug 9, 2022

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Vabbing, the New Trend Where You Use Your Own Vaginal Fluids as Perfume

According to some vabbers, dabbing a little vagina juice behind your ears will make you more sexually attractive to others

Ro White —

Jul 19, 2022

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Competitive Queerness Gives Me the Ick

This residual harm, this chip on the shoulder, this something to prove — they’re proving it to the wrong person. They’re gay-tekeeping.

Yashwina —

May 31, 2022

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Fault Lines

She was in the middle of a long divorce, and I had pulverized myself to fit into the life of a secret girlfriend.

Alayna Becker —

Mar 7, 2022

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Red Flag

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You’re a Combative Communicator? That’s a Red Flag!

I much prefer relationships that meet confusion with curiosity and center attempts for clarity and mutual understanding.

Chinelo Anyadiegwu —

Mar 2, 2022

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You Bad-Mouth Every Single One of Your Exes? That’s a Red Flag!

If your partner always portrays themself as the wronged party in the trials and tribulations of past relationships — red flag.

Taneasha —

Feb 24, 2022

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How Ghosting Harms Queer Communities, According to a Philosopher

When I’m ghosted and when others like me are ghosted, it takes on an extra sting.

Em Hernandez —

Feb 17, 2022

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Red Flag

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You Have Road Rage? That’s a Red Flag!

I never felt unsafe with her in the driver’s seat, even when she screamed at other cars. I didn’t feel scared. I felt drained.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Feb 8, 2022

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Red Flag

A yellow border with black dots and scalloped edges surrounds a black-and-white image a crumpled up dollar bill and loose change.

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You’re a Bad Tipper? That’s a Red Flag!

If someone has to serve you while you flirt relentlessly or converse stiffly, then they should be paid extra for that labor.

Alyse Burnside —

Jan 13, 2022

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I Used to ‘Compensate’ for My Blackness in the Dating World — Now I Embrace It

As a teen, my insecurities made me feel like my Blackness was something that dragged down my worth.

Lola Renn —

Nov 29, 2021