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    You Need Help: I Just Turned
    65 and I’m Questioning My Sexuality

    Vanessa
    Dec 27, 2022
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    14 Famous Queer Ladies Who Got
    Gayer a Little Later In Life

    Riese
    Mar 12, 2021
  • You Need Help: How Do I Let Go of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?
    coming out

    You Need Help: How Do I Let Go
    of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?

    himani
    Feb 18, 2020
  • Y’All Need Help #28: Being Careful With Your Sex Eyes
    love + sex

    Y’All Need Help #28: Being
    Careful With Your Sex Eyes

    Laneia
    Sep 8, 2018
  • three older women laughing and having a good time together
    identity

    You Need Help: I Just Turned
    65 and I’m Questioning My Sexuality

    Vanessa
    Dec 27, 2022
  • 3-way graphic of women who came out later in life, sometimes known as "late in life lesbians": Carlease Burke, Maria Bello and Jenna Lyons
    celebrities (vapid fluff)

    14 Famous Queer Ladies Who Got
    Gayer a Little Later In Life

    Riese
    Mar 12, 2021
  • You Need Help: How Do I Let Go of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?
    coming out

    You Need Help: How Do I Let Go
    of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?

    himani
    Feb 18, 2020
  • Y’All Need Help #28: Being Careful With Your Sex Eyes
    love + sex

    Y’All Need Help #28: Being
    Careful With Your Sex Eyes

    Laneia
    Sep 8, 2018
coming out a little later
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three older women laughing and having a good time together
identity

You Need Help: I Just Turned 65 and I’m Questioning My Sexuality

I think everyone in the queer community knows this but I think we need to say it more explicitly and more often: Queerness is a journey.
Vanessa —
Dec 27, 2022
coming out a little later
cynthia nixon
3-way graphic of women who came out later in life, sometimes known as "late in life lesbians": Carlease Burke, Maria Bello and Jenna Lyons
celebrities (vapid fluff)

14 Famous Queer Ladies Who Got Gayer a Little Later In Life

“I’m finding, especially with women, a couple of different kinds of gays. I’ve met people who say, “I knew I was gay my whole life, and I lived this lie,…
Riese —
Mar 12, 2021
coming out a little later
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You Need Help: How Do I Let Go of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?
coming out

You Need Help: How Do I Let Go of Feeling Guilty After Coming Out Late in Life?

I’m happy and grateful to be out, but I can’t get past feeling like I have created pain and difficulty for so many people.
himani —
Feb 18, 2020
coming out a little later
Y'All Need Help
Y’All Need Help #28: Being Careful With Your Sex Eyes
love + sex

Y’All Need Help #28: Being Careful With Your Sex Eyes

Keeping it casual with straight gals, wondering if your kid and divorce will torpedo your lesbian dating life, and feeling disconnected from the queer community post-breakup. Plus some updates from…
Laneia —
Sep 8, 2018
coming out a little later
regular
Y’All Need Help #27: But Back to YOU
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Y’All Need Help #27: But Back to YOU

A ruined friendship, body hair at work, coming out a little later when you’re about to marry a dude, and a frank conversation about assault. We really can have it…
Laneia —
Aug 25, 2018
coming out a little later
Y'All Need Help
Y’All Need Help #21: You’ll All Be Painters
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Y’All Need Help #21: You’ll All Be Painters

Being shy and 27 and coming out, feeling a way about your exes, moving to your long-distance girlfriend’s city, telling your long-distance friend you’re crushing on her, and swing dancing!
Laneia —
Mar 10, 2018
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coming out a little later
Loving the Whole Me: A Bisexual Mom on Coming Out to Her Family
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Loving the Whole Me: A Bisexual Mom on Coming Out to Her Family

“I sent a short, simple message saying that although I didn’t realize it fully until recently, I was indeed bisexual, that this was an undeniable part of my identity, and…
Candace —
Oct 11, 2016
bhm
coming out a little later
I Didn’t Know How to Be Poor, Black, Biracial, AND Queer; So I Wasn’t
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I Didn’t Know How to Be Poor, Black, Biracial, AND Queer; So I Wasn’t

“I wasn’t in denial, I had just become extremely successful at compartmentalizing difficult emotions that I had no idea what to do with.”
Jasika Nicole —
Aug 9, 2016
coming out a little later
Y'All Need Help
Y’All Need Help #4: You’re a Person with Complex Emotional Responses to a Variety of Situations
love + sex

Y’All Need Help #4: You’re a Person with Complex Emotional Responses to a Variety of Situations

A 28 year-old closeted lesbian and married mother of three, and a token gay friend who’s feeling quite encroached upon. Calling it like I see it!
Laneia —
Jul 19, 2016
"personality cult"
brittani nichols
A Plus Podcast Episode Six: Starting Over
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A Plus Podcast Episode Six: Starting Over

The seasons are turning and we’re starting over with a new format and stories about people making big changes.
Jude —
Oct 13, 2015
coming out a little later
greatest hits
You Need Help: Coming Out In Your Mid/Late 20s
coming out

You Need Help: Coming Out In Your Mid/Late 20s

The fact that you’re working through all this now doesn’t say anything negative about you or the way you moved through life for the past 24 years. What you did…
Laura Mandanas —
Mar 5, 2015
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Bomb Girls’ Ali Liebert Enjoys Valentines Day With Her Soft Butch Babe
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Bomb Girls’ Ali Liebert Enjoys Valentines Day With Her Soft Butch Babe

Another Canadian actresses catches the girl-on-girl Valentine’s Day bug.
Riese —
Feb 16, 2015
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