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How To Create the Ultimate Solo BDSM Experience

This is about savouring every moment, every sensation, and indulging yourself in a deeply intimate and fulfilling solo BDSM journey, which yes is totally achievable and can be a way…

Carlo —

Feb 5, 2025

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Shibari 101: Single- and Double-Column Ties

Single-column and double-column ties are the foundation for more complicated shibari ties, and they’re also fun on their own! Here’s how to get started.

cee —

May 10, 2023

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How Black Queer and Trans Folks Can Get Involved in the Kink Community

In the hands of Black queer and trans folks, kink can be deeply healing and transformative.

Black Queer Dom —

Apr 10, 2023

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A blank, unlined journal is open on a black sheet. A red flogger is on the left of the journal and a red ball gag is on the right of the journal.

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She/Her/Sir: Finding My Home in Kink as a Black, Queer, Masc of Center Dom

Kink can be a profound space of healing, which is something that Black people — and especially Black women — deeply deserve.

Black Queer Dom —

Feb 21, 2023

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Against a red background, there is a stack of white KN95 masks, a COVID vaccine card, a rapid covid test, red leather cuffs, a red leather blindfold, two black butt plugs, and a black ball gag.

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How I’m Navigating Play Parties as a Disabled, Immunocompromised Kinkster

I knew they taught about safety in BDSM culture, and I assumed that this ethic would carry through in their COVID safety. I was wrong.

Jade T. Perry —

Jan 18, 2023

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Against a yellow background, black text reads, "D-Daddy." On the right, a white woman with short, black hair wears a low-cut, red blazer with shoulder pads and a pearl necklace. She sits in front of a window and curls a dumbbell.

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The Gay B C’s of Sex: D Is for Daddy

The queer community played a special role in shaping how the word is used today. Are you ready to learn more? Say, “Yes, Daddy.”

Ro White —

Nov 3, 2022

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A black and white image shows the faces of three women who are lying on top of each with their arms wrapped around each other. One woman, who wears a bandana around her head and sunglasses, leans in to kiss a woman to the right. On the left, the third woman, who is wearing sunglasses and a denim vest, leans in towards the mouths of the kissing women.

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13 Photos of Dyke Culture Between 1988 and 2003, by Phyllis Christopher

Phyllis Christopher’s photos capture an underground dyke culture that was loud, ferocious, and teeming with sexuality.

Ro White —

Aug 15, 2022

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Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again

Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres…

kittenvalentine —

Jun 11, 2022

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In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a pink background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of black fabric restraints attached to long, black straps.

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Anonymous Sex Toy Review: Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System

No matter how much she begged, pleaded and yanked on the straps, she was securely held in place and entirely at my mercy.

Guest —

Apr 26, 2022

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Our Desire, Our Power: QTBIPOC BDSM and Consent

Without confronting the cycle of oppression, we reproduce trauma, even in spaces that try to focus on consent.

Noor نور —

Dec 7, 2021

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An Act of Service: Strapping My Dom As a Leatherdyke Bottom

I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.

A.C. Lamberty —

Nov 8, 2021

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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Fetish

I don’t really have a lot left from childhood, and after a while, I became very into certain tangible objects. The idea that you could fetishize a material object instantly…

Sloane Holzer —

Jul 2, 2021

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13 Photos of Dyke Culture Between 1988 and 2003, by Phyllis Christopher

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