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A Queer Guide to BDSM Restraints for All Experience Levels

I’m gonna take you through the world of kinky restraints from entry-level essentials to things that should only be done in the presence of experts. My hope is to give…

Summer Tao —

Jul 15, 2025

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A Master’s in Psychology Explains Clicker Training a Submissive in a Kink Context

Clicker training keys into the mental side of kink using benign tools.

Summer Tao —

Jun 12, 2025

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How To Create the Ultimate Solo BDSM Experience

This is about savouring every moment, every sensation, and indulging yourself in a deeply intimate and fulfilling solo BDSM journey, which yes is totally achievable and can be a way…

Carlo —

Feb 5, 2025

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Shibari 101: Single- and Double-Column Ties

Single-column and double-column ties are the foundation for more complicated shibari ties, and they’re also fun on their own! Here’s how to get started.

cee —

May 10, 2023

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How Black Queer and Trans Folks Can Get Involved in the Kink Community

In the hands of Black queer and trans folks, kink can be deeply healing and transformative.

Black Queer Dom —

Apr 10, 2023

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A blank, unlined journal is open on a black sheet. A red flogger is on the left of the journal and a red ball gag is on the right of the journal.

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She/Her/Sir: Finding My Home in Kink as a Black, Queer, Masc of Center Dom

Kink can be a profound space of healing, which is something that Black people — and especially Black women — deeply deserve.

Black Queer Dom —

Feb 21, 2023

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Against a red background, there is a stack of white KN95 masks, a COVID vaccine card, a rapid covid test, red leather cuffs, a red leather blindfold, two black butt plugs, and a black ball gag.

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How I’m Navigating Play Parties as a Disabled, Immunocompromised Kinkster

I knew they taught about safety in BDSM culture, and I assumed that this ethic would carry through in their COVID safety. I was wrong.

Jade T. Perry —

Jan 18, 2023

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Against a yellow background, black text reads, "D-Daddy." On the right, a white woman with short, black hair wears a low-cut, red blazer with shoulder pads and a pearl necklace. She sits in front of a window and curls a dumbbell.

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The Gay B C’s of Sex: D Is for Daddy

The queer community played a special role in shaping how the word is used today. Are you ready to learn more? Say, “Yes, Daddy.”

Ro White —

Nov 3, 2022

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A black and white image shows the faces of three women who are lying on top of each with their arms wrapped around each other. One woman, who wears a bandana around her head and sunglasses, leans in to kiss a woman to the right. On the left, the third woman, who is wearing sunglasses and a denim vest, leans in towards the mouths of the kissing women.

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13 Photos of Dyke Culture Between 1988 and 2003, by Phyllis Christopher

Phyllis Christopher’s photos capture an underground dyke culture that was loud, ferocious, and teeming with sexuality.

Ro White —

Aug 15, 2022

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Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again

Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres…

kittenvalentine —

Jun 11, 2022

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