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  • "Recently, we've been flirting a lot, and my romantic feelings for her have returned."
    dating

    ‘How Can I Talk to My
    Friend/Crush About Sexual Compatibility Without Being Weird?’

    Summer Tao
    Nov 19, 2024
  • people at a play party
    first person

    Play Parties Let
    Me Explore My Asexuality

    Abbie
    Sep 11, 2024
  • a Black femme with glasses and a purple lip smiles and hugs a white masc person with a beard and gold eye shadow who is also smiling
    identity

    Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious
    Queerness This Ace Week

    Ela Przybylo
    Oct 22, 2023
  • Isaac in Heartstopper season 2 holds a book
    tv feature

    The Subtle Aroace Gaze
    of “Heartstopper” Season Two

    Ela Przybylo
    Aug 18, 2023
  • "Recently, we've been flirting a lot, and my romantic feelings for her have returned."
    dating

    ‘How Can I Talk to My
    Friend/Crush About Sexual Compatibility Without Being Weird?’

    Summer Tao
    Nov 19, 2024
  • people at a play party
    first person

    Play Parties Let
    Me Explore My Asexuality

    Abbie
    Sep 11, 2024
  • a Black femme with glasses and a purple lip smiles and hugs a white masc person with a beard and gold eye shadow who is also smiling
    identity

    Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious
    Queerness This Ace Week

    Ela Przybylo
    Oct 22, 2023
  • Isaac in Heartstopper season 2 holds a book
    tv feature

    The Subtle Aroace Gaze
    of “Heartstopper” Season Two

    Ela Przybylo
    Aug 18, 2023
asexuality
you need help
"Recently, we've been flirting a lot, and my romantic feelings for her have returned."
dating

‘How Can I Talk to My Friend/Crush About Sexual Compatibility Without Being Weird?’

Does it make sense to suggest talking about how we feel about kissing/ cuddling/ sex-related stuff/etc.? And if so, what’s the best way to go about it respectfully and in…
Summer Tao —
Nov 19, 2024
asexuality
featured
people at a play party
first person

Play Parties Let Me Explore My Asexuality

Maybe I didn’t always know I was ace, but I can’t say there weren’t signs.
Abbie —
Sep 11, 2024
#affiliatemarketing
asexuality
a Black femme with glasses and a purple lip smiles and hugs a white masc person with a beard and gold eye shadow who is also smiling
identity

Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious Queerness This Ace Week

Even while it is a great time to be ace, anti-ace rhetoric continues to circulate in queer communities. 
Ela Przybylo —
Oct 22, 2023
asexuality
heartstopper
Isaac in Heartstopper season 2 holds a book
tv feature

The Subtle Aroace Gaze of “Heartstopper” Season Two

Throughout the show, we see Isaac’s journey as someone who is aroace.
Ela Przybylo —
Aug 18, 2023
asexuality
reproductive health
On the right, there is a glass vase filled with lavender and some dried pink flowers. A white wall and a diagonal wood panel are in the background. To the left of the vase, there are two, hanging strings of crystals. They reflect rainbow flecks of light onto the wall.
first person

My Hysterectomy and Early Menopause Reshaped My Sexuality — So My Queerness Found New Spaces to Inhabit

Where once my sexuality flourished in the spaces of the unknown, it is now content to be still.
Juniper Fitzgerald —
Mar 6, 2023
#affiliatemarketing
asexuality
Ace by Angela Chen, Soft on Soft by Em Ali, Beyond the Black Door by A.M. Strickland, How to be Ace by Rebecca Burgess, The Art of Saving the World by Corinne Duyvis, From Under the Mountain by C.M. Spivey, Arden Grey by Ray Stoeve, and Forward March by Skye Quinlan
quizzes

Quiz: Which Sapphic Asexual Book Should You Read This Ace Week?

It’s Ace Week! Answer a few simple questions, and I will recommend a sapphic asexual book for you to read!
Casey —
Oct 23, 2022
asexuality
masturbation
A Black woman with curly hair peeks out from under the covers of a bed with white pillows and white sheets. We can only see her eyes, but she seems to be smiling.
first person

I’m Asexual and I Prefer to Have Sex With Myself

I finally realized that it is completely possible to be asexual, experience some sexual attraction and enjoy sex — even if you’re only having sex with yourself.
Latonya —
Sep 5, 2022
also.also.also
asexuality
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society + culture

Also.Also.Also: In News Surprising Zero Asexuals, Many Asexuals Do In Fact Masturbate

Living in messy clutter is what’s in for fall, reflecting on Serena Williams’ last tournament and the legacy of a GOAT, and for the love of God, please stop asking…
Carmen Phillips —
Aug 30, 2022
asexuality
masculine of center
The image shows the chest and arms of a Black woman wearing a white T-shirt with a graphic of an open cigar box on one side of the chest, a gray watch on one wrist and a simple silver bracelet on the other wrist. She is leaning against another woman, who was wearing a black shirt and jeans. Only one of her hands and her upper legs are visible.
dating

Your Assumptions About Black, Queer Masculinity Are Erasing My Asexual Identity

As a black, masc, asexual person, I am continually sought out for my assumed hypersexuality. When people don’t get that from me, they automatically assume a flaw, forgetting there are other…
Timinepre Cole —
Apr 7, 2022
asexuality
non-binary
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first person

Coming to Terms With My Asexuality as a Black, Non-Binary Lesbian

Society can make us feel like we’re flawed or like our relationships aren’t as valid because we’re not having as much sex as we’re “supposed to.”
Ashleigh-Rae Thomas —
Oct 4, 2021
AAPI Heritage Month
asexuality
In a hand-drawn image in the colors of greens and dark navy blues, a young Asian person with short hair stares at their own image sitting against a mirror inside of a closet.
identity

How Tam Found Empowerment in the Closet

What are you to do when you are a Vietnamese asexual and aromantic woman who grew up in white, cishet, francophone-dominated Montreal in the 1980s and 1990s?
Diamond Yao —
May 17, 2021
asexuality
you need help
A person in a denim jacket with short, partially shaved hair touches noses with a person in a white shirt with slightly longer hair
lesbian sex

You Need Help: How Do I Explore Casual Sex If I’m Demisexual?

If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses…
Ro White —
Apr 13, 2021
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