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The Married LA Parents Who Are Getting Off Up to 7 Times

These two started out as strictly hooking up for the sex, and now they’re finishing each other’s sentences. This is how they f*ck.

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Apr 29, 2025

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The Anti-Uhaul Couple With a 22-Year Age Gap Who Used to F*ck in Cars

Don’t get me wrong — AJ and Natasha would still f*ck in a roomy SUV if absolutely necessary.

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Apr 15, 2025

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I’m F*cking a Married Couple Ten Years Older Than Me

“He, too, seems incredibly boring, though he is ten years my senior, a point in his favor. Another point: his wife is dark haired, fat, and blue eyed, thirteen years…

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Aug 22, 2024

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Days of Organizing, Nights of Bratting: A Femme Queer Spanks, Straps, Gets Toppy and Waxed

A writer reflects on accessing desire in trying times and the romance of collective liberation — playdates that range from toppy to bratty, a bottom with endearing nonverbal cues, a…

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May 23, 2024

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A Queer Nonbinary Student Leans Into Their “Bi Era” with Kink, Play Parties, Domming, Top4Topping and Pegging

“In the outside world, I dress masc, and skirts feel foreign. But at play parties, I’ve started wearing a tiny top/skirt combo, trusting that for those few hours, my gender…

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May 15, 2024

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Anonymous Sex Diary: A Couple Rekindles Their Sex Life with “Intimacy Boot Camp”

We’re both trying to avoid the lesbian bed death trope, hoping to be remembered in history as lovers, not “really good friends.”

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Feb 21, 2024

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Anonymous Sex Diary: Shibari and Stolen Privacy

“I’m not in a place where coming out to my family is a reasonable option. Fortunately, I have a husband who is more than happy to cover me during my…

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Jan 23, 2024

13 Days of A+

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Anonymous Sex Diary: Tenderness Lingers

“I always worry these older guys are gonna fucking die when I get them to hit poppers with me, especially if they popped a Viagra first.”

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Dec 17, 2023

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Anonymous Sex Diary: She Wants More

“My partner and I have an open relationship. While we used to be really honest about things, when I met someone I actually liked, E, they decided they didnt want…

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Dec 13, 2023

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Anonymous Sex Diary: The Leather Play Party

“A while ago, my gender friend and I realized we had both searched “power bottom” on Autostraddle, within the same week.” This week’s writer takes us to a leather play…

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Nov 14, 2023

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Anonymous Sex Diary: Hinge, Dancing, and Flirting with Strangers

“It’s another day and another event at the converted church, Paradiso with DJs playing everything from Arabic edits to Afro House and baile funk. This time, I’ve accidentally attended what…

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Nov 7, 2023

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Anonymous Sex Diary: Horny and Hooking Up at Divinity School

I texted my best friends, “I think studying religion is making me horny,” because I’ve been wanting to jump everyone’s bones (respectfully). A young queer woman chronicles a week in…

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Oct 24, 2023