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Into the A+ Advice Box #25: How Do You Explore Your Gender When Privacy Is Scarce?

Advice for when you want to nurture a partnership but also honor your independence, for when you’re not sure if you want contact with an ex, on working through discomfort…

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Dec 18, 2020

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#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Break Up?

The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.

DaemonumX —

Dec 7, 2020

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Into the A+ Advice Box #24: How to Have Your Acrylic Nails And Do It All, Too

“THIS STEP IS VERY IMPORTANT, DO NOT PUT THE BOILING HOT TEA BAGS ON YOUR EYELIDS!!!” Queer advice on breaking up with someone over social distancing opinions as well as…

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Dec 4, 2020

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Into the A+ Advice Box #23: What If Your Partner Didn’t Tell You They Were Potentially Exposed to Covid?

Your partner doesn’t want to talk about raising your kids to be anti-racist, longing to reach out to a former friend, and more!

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Nov 20, 2020

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Into the A+ Advice Box #22: Dating an Older Person, an Untenable Murder Cat Situation, and More!

Is it a “friend” coffee or a “date” coffee, unemployed and feeling unmoored, negotiating initiating intimacy in a relationship with two people on the asexual spectrum, you feel like your…

the team —

Nov 6, 2020

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#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?

Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.

DaemonumX —

Nov 2, 2020

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Into the A+ Advice Box: US Politics Special Edition

We asked you for the political questions or issues keeping you up at night. From getting started in activism, to questions about phone banking and volunteering, to the Supreme Court…

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Oct 23, 2020

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Into the A+ Advice Box #21: Crushing on Your (Probably) Straight Friend, and More!

Advice for the cis, presumably het parents of a trans kid, Zoom dating while in the house with your parents, an urban legend and gay panic, gender feelings, squirting ALL…

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Oct 16, 2020

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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101

Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you…

DaemonumX —

Oct 5, 2020

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Into the A+ Advice Box #19: Credit Card Debt, Potentially Moving with a New Partner, and More!

Stating your needs around masturbation in a relationship, moving on from an on-again-off-again relationship, your dad hasn’t worked through his homophobia, and more!

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Sep 18, 2020

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You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?

Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and…

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Sep 3, 2020

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Into the A+ Advice Box #17: Tense Workplace Dynamics on a Remote Island Homestead and More!

Dating and inexperience and some really positive advice about this, grieving while starting graduate school, coping with feelings of jealousy and more!

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Aug 21, 2020