advice

advice

tinder

lesbian dating apps

You Need Help: I’ve Matched With the Same Person Three Times on Tinder

We started chatting, and it was going well until she abruptly stopped replying.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Oct 26, 2021

advice

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: Is It Really Over?

I had no choice but to accept her decision, but it really hurts, as I feel blind-sided and it’s hard to come to terms with what happened.

himani —

Oct 19, 2021

advice

you need help

coming out

You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?

I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to…

himani —

Oct 12, 2021

advice

you need help

friendship

You Need Help: I’m A Teen And I’m In Love With My Best Friend

The line between friendship and romantic relationships is very thin, especially for queer people.

Abbie Jones —

Oct 5, 2021

advice

you need help

love + sex

You Need Help: Am I Running Out of Time to Get Gay Kissed?

I understand. When I was in my late 20s, I felt like some kind of Jane Austen heroine, like, “A woman of seven and twenty can never hope to feel…

Heather Hogan —

Sep 28, 2021

advice

you need help

friendship

You Need Help: I Feel Left Out By My New Friends

Don’t be afraid to say what you want — meaningful, ongoing friendship. There are people out there who are looking for the same thing.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Sep 21, 2021

advice

you need help

friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Stop Feeling Like A Loser After Rejection?

Mentally replacing “this person rejected me because I’m not enough” with “this person rejected me because we’re incompatible” or “this person rejected me because they have their own shit going…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Sep 14, 2021

advice

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: My Girlfriend is So Annoying, Should I Break Up With Her?

Your feelings about her are a great big neon sign spelling out the word B R E A K U P.

Vanessa —

Aug 31, 2021

advice

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: My First Girlfriend Broke Up With Me — Can We Be Friends?

Not every relationship is meant to last, and just because it ended doesn’t mean you didn’t learn and grow from it.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Aug 10, 2021

advice

bury your gays

movie features

You Need Help: Can I Kill Queer Characters As A Queer Writer?

If queer creators are so worried about backlash from the community that we begin to self-censor, then the only interesting queer work will be made by straight people.

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Aug 3, 2021

advice

non-binary

gender

You Need Help: How Do I Know If I’m Really Non-Binary?

There is no “solution” to gender identity.

Abbie Jones —

Jul 27, 2021

advice

bisexuality

relationships

You Need Help: Your Straight Partner Is a Great Ally – But His Parents Aren’t

Setting up boundaries around family members can be a complicated and painful thing, but doing so without the support of your partner will likely be more difficult, and could potentially…

meg —

Jul 20, 2021