advice

advice

you need help

friendship

You Need Help: Making Friends as a Queer Adult

“How exactly do I make new friends, especially queer ones? This is the first time I’ve been not-in-school for a long time.”

A.E. Osworth —

Apr 11, 2016

advice

gender identity

love + sex

The Queer How-To Guide For Wedding Plus Ones

“My goopy brain instantly convinced me that this event would singularly make or break our relationship and that if it went poorly it would be my fault. But I swallowed…

Adrian —

Mar 24, 2016

advice

non-monogamy

love + sex

You Need Help: You Don’t Know How You Feel About Non-monogamy

Sometimes the girl you have a crush on has an open girl/boy/boifriend and you’ve never even thought about non-monogamy before. Here’s how to start.

Chelsey Dagger —

Mar 18, 2016

"personality cult"

advice

society + culture

Be Your Best Self, With or Without Filters, and Make Instagram Your New Favorite Dating App

Figuring out how to use digital spaces is as powerful as living your best queer life, with certainty.

Cecelia —

Mar 4, 2016

2016 election

2016 presidential race

politics + activism

Someone You Love Is Voting For Donald Trump — Now What?

Here are five ways you can cope with the knowledge that a person you love is making a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad decision.

Heather Hogan —

Mar 1, 2016

advice

football

sports

So You Love a Sports Fan

“Here are some strategies that I’ve developed in order to survive each new season of bodies doing things inside of lines.”

Aisha —

Feb 3, 2016

advice

bisexuality

dating

To Unicorns, From an Ex-Unicorn

Here are some things to look out for when you are a bisexual polyamorous woman looking to start a relationship with an established couple.

Chelsey Dagger —

Jan 25, 2016

advice

work

money + work

You Need Help: You Want the Job, But Don’t Feel Qualified

I’ve been on both sides of the hiring table. I’ve been the one applying for a job and the one interviewing job applicants. Here’s what I’ve learned.

KaeLyn —

Jan 25, 2016

advice

sex advice

sex toys

You Need Help: Old Sex Toys, New Partners

“So I’ve met someone new. And I’m wondering about my toys. I’ve heard it’s taboo to use the same toys on a new partner.”

A.E. Osworth —

Dec 29, 2015

advice

how to be gay

dating

You Need Help: Cat Whistling Your Queerness To Other Closeted Queer Ladies

Need help flirting “in a way that’s subtle enough to fly over a straight girl’s head, but be picked up on by LBPQ woman?” Read on!

Laura Mandanas —

Dec 16, 2015

advice

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: So Your First Girlfriend Broke Your Heart — Now What?

In which we discuss the concept of safer dating.

A.E. Osworth —

Nov 6, 2015

advice

gal pals

dating

You Need Help: Charm Your New Gal Pal With The Perfect Gift

You think someone is cute, and they think you’re cute, and you want to make them happy but preferably without being an awkward overeager weirdo. I feel you.

Adrian —

Oct 22, 2015