advice

advice

hanukkah

holigays

How to Make People With December Birthdays Feel Special

If you’ve got a non-December birthday, then listen up — you’ve got it made! Your birthday is not eclipsed by holiday cheer, capitalism, Santa and Jesus. So why don’t you…

Yvonne —

Dec 2, 2016

advice

Alternative Lifestyle Haircuts

hair

You Need Help: What To Do With Your Gay Hair In Trump Country

I think you could style your hair like Dolly Parton and people on Kentucky front porches and in Kentucky truck beds would still call you a dyke in that horrible…

Adrian —

Nov 21, 2016

advice

polyamory

breakups

You Need Help: How Do I NOT Cause a Breakup with a Tough Talk?

“I’ve written them a letter about feeling like I’m getting the short end of the stick, but I’m afraid that it comes off as a break-up letter and I don’t…

A.E. Osworth —

Oct 27, 2016

advice

fools journey

astrology, tarot & witchcraft

Fool’s Journey: Where is My Path Leading?

“I’m entirely lost. Which direction should I be heading in right now? Where is my path leading? What should I be putting most of my energy into to one day…

Beth —

Oct 5, 2016

advice

family

love + sex

Y’All Need Help #5: Being a Virgin Doesn’t Make You Straight

Do you have to go to your homophobic asshole cousin’s wedding? How do you tell your more-than-friends friend that you’ve slept with her ex? Is 22 too old to still…

Laneia —

Sep 13, 2016

advice

family

gender

You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns

If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them…

Maddie —

Sep 7, 2016

advice

you need help

friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Make Out With My Friend?

“I want to make out with my bestie. I love her dearly, but I don’t think I’m in love with her—I don’t want to be in a whole relationship thing…

A.E. Osworth —

Jun 30, 2016

advice

sex advice

love + sex

You Need Help: Issues With Strap-On Size

What do you do when your girlfriend has a small vaginal opening and wants to have penetrative sex?

Ari —

Jun 2, 2016

advice

you need help

relationships

You Need Help: Will Studying Abroad Break Us Up?

Studying abroad or going long distance isn’t a death knell for a relationship, but I’m hearing something else in your question.

A.E. Osworth —

May 27, 2016

advice

you need help

breakups

You Need Help: What’s a Reasonable Reason to Dump Someone?

So you were dumped because…you’re not a vegan?

A.E. Osworth —

May 5, 2016

advice

fools journey

society + culture

Fool’s Journey: A Simple Tarot Spread for Focus

Butterfly brain? Too many ideas? Here’s a quick tarot spread you can do to figure out what to focus on, what to ditch, and what to put on the back-burner…

Beth —

Apr 20, 2016

advice

online dating

society + culture

Be Your Best Self(ie): Tips From Our Faces To Yours

It’s important to see people who deserve to be celebrated — especially queer people and POC — using selfies to celebrate another day for themselves. We want to see your…

Cecelia —

Apr 14, 2016