The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 49, September 2018
“also can you truly — in your true heart — think of a better headline than “i put a sheet mask on my cunt””
“also can you truly — in your true heart — think of a better headline than “i put a sheet mask on my cunt””
In your heart of hearts, what does your dream home look like? Where is it? What makes it feel like home? Tell me everything!
This week Kristin got in bed with Autostraddle senior editor Heather Hogan to talk about queer representation on teevee, spirituality vs. religion and, of course, cats. (And beer.)
“Can we all just take a moment to appreciate the phrase ‘menstrual confetti?'”
Today we look at a panoply of questions, which, while the situations of their querents are specific and concrete, encompass three of the most common questions we hear in relation to bisexuality: Am I actually bisexual or not? Am I pansexual or something else within the bi+ spectrum? How the fuck do I let people know I’m not straight?
Spanning genre from fiction to essays to memoir, these books are vibrant, boundary-breaking, and as intriguing as they are affirming. I strongly recommend curling up with one of these in your favorite café to celebrate Bisexual Visiblility Day today and all this week — settle in for some miso soup (what Ruby, the heroine of Eating Chinese Food Naked, drinks as comfort food) with maybe some biryani and chai for the second course (from Corona, by Bushra Rehman) and read some of these literary works.
“Last week I found one of those butter-coloured strands on my dress, and wondered. Then I realised it was one of my own, greying hairs. Ten years have passed, and she’s straight now, living with the boyfriend I introduced her to nine and a half years ago.”
The data from our Lesbian Stereotypes Survey shows LGBTQ women and non-binary people have fled Christianity in droves — we actually have more Pagans than Catholics.
How feminist bookstores changed history, why public libraries are getting less classist, mental models for queerness and more.
28 very gay sports in very gay order.
That’s what friendships with queer and trans Christians have taught me: it is blessed indeed to want more, more of everything, more love and more gender and more faith and more life.
The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”
I found a different self slowly, learned to exist as if with many different goggles on at once. Always speaking from my mother’s kitchen in the Silicon Valley and, at the same time, my grandmother’s crowded living room in Punjab. In these years, I would feel the sharpness of many kinds of difference, marginalization. But when I looked down at myself for signs of why I felt so other, all I would find was the color of my hands.
Plus: Mel and Sue are getting their own TV show (they’re assassins!), the Charmed trailer is here, Kate McKinnon has joined the Fox News sex scandal movie, Lena Waithe’s new sitcom stars a black queer character, lesbian frenemies according to the NYT, and so much more!
Also, Lena Waithe looks good in front of a wall, Kehlani reveals her collection of grills and the darkness consumes us all.
We’re back with more questions than ever! And our team is here to give you advice on things like: sexy underwear for masculine-of-center folks, breaking sexual tension with a friend, how to move on from your one true love, how to get out of a professional rut and more!
How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
Celebrate Bisexual Visibility Week by finding out how much you do or do not know about imaginary bisexuals!
Fandom, at its best form, is restorative. These artists and writers have banned together to give the gay women fans of Grey’s Anatomy a happy ending to warm their hearts, for free download! And you can have it right now!
I feel nothing and everything when I’m with her and I want that more than I want to protect myself. I know this will hurt me, but pain is part of my life, so I allow it in bursts I think I can control.