“Why would I be gentle with myself when I was very clearly doing this thing — like so many other things in my life — wrong? No, I didn’t need gentleness. I needed more self-discipline, more conviction, more toughness. I needed to get my fucking shit together.”
“Little A+ box, I just wanted you to know that today I did my part in helping to burn the patriarchy to the ground.”
They say you learn your first lessons about how to be a person from your family, and that applies to chosen family, too. Today we’re sharing something we learned from watching another Autostraddle staffer that’s made our life better and brighter.
This month, there are some wintry tracks for relaxing and looking out the window at a rainy day, as well as some upbeat stuff for breaking out of the doldrums. And a bunch of stuff in between.
Join Carmen, Valerie, KaeLyn and Al(aina) as they liveblog RENT live!
Navajo grandparents advocating for their grandkids, a school in Latin America for trans youth, video games as a way to explore queer identity, plus RENT is back live, tonight! Happy Sunday!!!
Scheduled sex doesn’t have to be boring. Plus, how to like receiving oral more, a sex ed chatbot, how to have uncomfortable sexual conversations and more.
“What I’m saying is, if you’re sitting in the legislative chamber trying to hear the floor debate and someone’s kid starts crying or yelling “Baby Shark!” please be kind to them.”
“Because I’m the best!”
Plus: Some infuriating rumors about Coronation Street and updates on Siren, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, and Top Chef!
“If Erin Sullivan has taught me anything, it’s that someone will try to use a bath bomb as a dildo.”
Do you remember the first inspiration models or role models in your life? Come chill with me and let’s get hella nostalgic!
Welcome to the Georgia O’Keefe College of Arts and Subtle Dramatics!
You shared some very thrilling stories with us on our recent Queer Travel Survey. Here are highlights of your adventures!
In a post “love-wins” America, we’ve circled back to the underlying legal thinking of the 1950s. In the late 2010s and especially under Trump, gender and gender conformity are back under the legal microscope in a move that targets the gender nonconformity fundamental to aspects of gay identity for many, and also increasingly and dangerously, trans people.
The dads of Riverdale are acting out.
It’s time for our very special members-only annual report!
“Are you out here Janelle Monae-ing in these streets?” is a real thing a real character said out loud on grown-ish last night.
On top of how hard it is to be transgender in a cissexist world, it’s also really hard to be a child. It can be hard to have two moms in a heterosexist world. It can be hard to have a transgender mom. Put that all together, and I’m just one giant ball of anxiety who is frequently at a loss for the perfect way to help my child navigate the world.
If you’re looking for easy answers that preserve your bubble, you won’t find them here. But that’s exactly why anyone who considers themselves an activist, an ally, or a member of the resistance writ large needs to read this book.