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A collage of fashion, left to right: A plus size light skin Black woman in a orange-red suit coat and black crop top, an Asian woman in spaghetti strapped Burgundy velvet dress, a dark skin black woman in light blue pants and a flower blouse, a green handbag, a light skin Black woman with curly hair and matching light blue blazer and mini skirt. All of these images are in from of a light pink background with Burgundy swirls.
Queer Fashion

Five Outfits for Being the Cool Gay Auntie

I had my sights set on this long purple overcoat from ASOS that I really really wanted. I thought, “that’s a coat for a gay auntie.” If you’re a cool gay aunt or about to be one, here are five outfits for you.

danijanae March 11, 2022 10 Comments
In the Incredibles 2, Elastigirl looks over her shoulder at her long time crush. Both are in a dark, almost prison looking, cell. You cannot see Elasigirl's face.
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: According to Employees, Disney Censors Same-Sex Affection in Pixar Films

Ariana DeBose and Audra McDonald join the “if you can’t say Gay, sing it” movement, 11 LGBTQ creators who made Disney what it is today, and how ‘bad’ is multitasking at work, really?

Carmen Phillips March 10, 2022 7 Comments
An Asian woman stand against a red background, wearing a leather, strappy lingerie / harness situation. She holds a leather flogger that she stretches out between her gloved hands while eyeing the viewer. She has a chest tattoo and wears her hair in a long, single braid that winds down her front.
AF+

S L I C K: Thank You, Mistress

“It’s not about causing the most pain or smacking as hard as I can. It’s about getting a reaction out of you and guiding you gently, but firmly, to your limit.”

Leo Wilder March 10, 2022 2 Comments
good trouble 401 recap: Malika kisses Angelica when she arrives at Dennis' food truck event.
TV Show Recaps

“Good Trouble” Episode 401 Recap: Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner?

If you’ve missed a few episode of Good Trouble or you’re only interested in the show when the Mamas show up, here’s all the information you need to get ready for next week’s family dinner.

Natalie March 10, 2022 3 Comments
Carmen Phillips at 13 lays on her bed, wearing blue coveralls and a red long-sleeved shirt, matching scrunchie and holding a book. She is looking at the camera with an expression of great seriousness. Carmen is Black, here with black hair and glasses. The background behind the photo, which is taped on as though a polaroid, is covered in doodles like those a 13 year old might make, random patterns and the A+ logo and an S. There are also jewel stickers placed across the image.
Straddleverse

No Lie: I Was Editor-in-Chief of My Middle School Yearbook

“We’re just insecure horny little nerds looking for a place to call home.”

Carmen Phillips March 10, 2022 5 Comments
Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya at age 13 wears a green bejeweled dress for her 8th grade dance. A piece of notebook paper reads: Will you go to the dance with me? Yes, no, maybe.
Playlists

Playlist: Let’s Have a Middle School Dance Party

I asked queer adults to choose songs with the most middle school dance vibes, and the results smell like Axe bodyspray and taste like gum. Plus, read the real, true story of me kind of rudely rejecting a boy before my own 8th grade dance!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 10, 2022 11 Comments
Anne Lister and Ann Walker kiss in season 2 of Gentleman Jack
TV News & Trailers

The “Gentleman Jack” Season 2 Trailer Is Lesbian Fire

The Yorkshire lady of renown is back, now with her WIFE.

Heather Hogan March 10, 2022 11 Comments
A tween is curled up in a blanket reading a book
Literature

Rainbow Reading: I’ve Been Thinking About What I Was Reading When I Was 13

Plus, a new podcast exploring queer history through the lens of archive holdings at my favorite library.

Yashwina March 10, 2022 8 Comments
a collage with the words THE GAYEST THINGS WE DID AT 13: CALL FOR READER CONTRIBUTIONS at the center of nostalgic photos from high school
Community

Tell Us All About the Gayest Things You Did at 13!

We’re collecting reader stories about the gayest things you did at 13 for a fun list we’ll publish next week and we want to hear from you, yes, YOU!

Vanessa March 10, 2022 8 Comments
A white woman with brown hair pulled back into a bun sits on a bed with a white comforter. She is wearing a white T-shirt and plaid shorts. She is leaning forward and placing her hands over her groin.
Lesbian Sex

How I Navigate Sex as a Bisexual Woman With Vaginismus

You don’t have to try to “fix” your vaginismus if you don’t want to. I’m not hyped about doing it, personally.

Ashley Broadwater March 10, 2022 19 Comments
In an illustration, Dickens si in a purple shirt that reads "Goin' into 2022 Like" while having dark bags under their eyes and a hand lazily waving to the reader. They have on white AirPods. Behind Dickens is a light blue background with words like "anxiety" and "sleep" floating around.
Webcomics

Foolish Child #115: Exhaustion

ZZZzzzzz….. 😴

Dickens March 10, 2022 1 Comment
Movie Reviews

“Fresh” Has Cannibals, a Bisexual Character, and Humor but Could Use a Little More Meat

Have stories that feature queers and also cannibals become my brand?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 9, 2022 2 Comments
A woman with blue hair and blue lipstick against a black backdrop
Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: CW’s New “Gotham Knights” Is Gifting Us a Blue-Haired Bisexual

Also! Euphoria makes Jodie Comer feel old too, Stef and Lena are back, Disney employees are pissed the Mouse won’t denounce Florida’s Don’t Say Gay bill, and a special message from Bette Porter.

Heather Hogan March 9, 2022 8 Comments
This is a photo of Kayla and Kristen. Kayla embraces Kristen and kisses them on the cheek while Kristen smiles. They both have long brown hair and wear glasses. They're also both wearing sweaters!
AF+

Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend of Three Years About Her Childhood and High School Years

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya asks Kristen Arnett juicy questions about queer desire, secret high school girlfriends, and more in this new A+ series in which we ask people we’re close with questions we genuinely don’t know how they’ll answer.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 9, 2022 9 Comments
Megan Fox has long green nails and long black hair and stares directly at the camera in a selfie repeated four times on a green background
Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

No Filter: Thank You Megan Fox for My New Motto

Sorry, my Leo rising is leaping out today!!!!

Christina Tucker March 9, 2022 8 Comments
A feature image showing a polaroid image frame with Kayla's photo in the center. Kayla is looking at the viewer from behind glasses, wearing a white button up shirt. She has long wavy brown hair and is south asian. The background of the image is a crumpled sheet of notebook paper covered in doodles like those that a 13 year old might do.
Straddleverse

I Lived Two Lives; One in the World, One in Computers

I “dated” two women I’d met online, and the relationships mostly unfolded on screens. In my other life, I dated men and tried to convince myself I liked it.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 9, 2022 8 Comments
In a 3-fold collage: Zoe Kravitz licks a mug of milk as Catwoman, Anne Hathaway's Catwoman looks directly into the camera, and finally Michelle Pfiffer's Catwoman smirks in a black mask.
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: How Does Zoe Kravitz’s Catwoman Rank, on a Scale of Anne Hathaway to Michelle Pfeiffer?

Plus, JoJo Siwa’s perfect response to being told NOT to say she’s gay and ESPN launching a WNBA fantasy league.

Carmen Phillips March 8, 2022 9 Comments
Kate McKinnon as Carole Baskin in a pink leopard print shirt, waving
Movie Reviews

Kate McKinnon Is Masterfully Bananapants in the Wild and Queer “Joe vs. Carole”

It’s a nesting doll of magnificent weirdness watching someone as over the top as Kate McKinnon try to add substance and subtlety to someone as over the top as Carole Baskin.

Heather Hogan March 8, 2022 4 Comments
Jill Gutowitz's book cover for her debut essay collection Girls Can Kiss Now is dark purple with pink font and many line drawing illustrations of cool lesbians in the background
LGBT Book Reviews

“Girls Can Kiss Now” and Other Realizations with Jill Gutowitz

We reviewed “Girls Can Kiss Now,” Jill Gutowitz’s debut essay collection about pop culture, the internet, growing up, and being very very gay. You’re gonna love it.

Vanessa March 8, 2022 3 Comments
The feature image for our Ask Us Anything Announcement Post! The whole thing has an early high school vibe. In script-like handwriting at the top it says "Ask Us Anything!" followed by "At our 13th birthday AMA. There are photos of each of our team members who are participating inside of polaroid-esque photo frames. These team members are, from left to right: Shelli Nicole, Meg, Casey, Heather, Kayla, Nicole, Carmen, Riese, Vanessa, Laneia, Dani, Em, and Drew. There are also doodles of a heart, an eye, and a ghost!
AF+

Our 13th Birthday A+ AMA is NOW!!! Ask Us Anything!

We’re experts in money stuff, sports, queer TV, dating, monogamy and marriage, mom stuff but like tired, and more! A+ members can ask us anything today!

the team March 8, 2022 440 Comments
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