Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Sex educator Betty Dodson tells you everything you need to know to get started knowing everything there is to know about your orgasms:
“While no two orgasms from self-stimulation are precisely the same, most women use some form of direct or indirect clitoral stimulation with or without penetration. The body responds with movement, no movement, along with varied breathing patterns from holding the breath to panting. Other women remain utterly silent while others make a variety of sounds. The mind can be paying attention to what the body is feeling, focused on sexual thoughts, or conjuring up a sex fantasy. Just as long as you’re not planning a dinner menu or running the laundry list.”
I Love Your Work, a new documentary, explores 10 days on a lesbian porn set. At Slate, Amanda Hess interviewed creator Jonathan Harris about porn consumption on the internet and the project’s potential to change the way people think about porn:
“When I see porn now, I see real people performing. I think about their lives, what they had for breakfast, what their apartment might look like, where they get their groceries. The power of pornographic fantasies is diminished for me now, because I understand the role of makeup and lighting and camera angles to convey a certain image that usually has very little to do with reality. And I think this is ultimately a really humanizing thing to realize. It makes me feel better about my own body, and about the bodies of other people in my life. I can still appreciate the fantasies, but they have less control over me now.”
In Out, Jiz Lee talks about porn and gender:
“People often ask me, “What made you decide you wanted to do porn?” and I tell them the truth: I want to share my sexual expression with others. I like it, it feels liberating, and I know that it helps others feel free too. I want to show more representations of people like me. I use words like hegemonic, homonormative, and marginalized. These are words I learned as I put myself through college, but I knew the meanings before I earned my degree. I share stories about people who have written to me, thanking me for putting my sexuality out there, for helping them become proud and stronger in their own battles. All of this is true and it’s a part of why I did it. But what I don’t say is: I did it for love.”
Solopoly wrote about vulnerability and why it turns out it’s not the worst:
“So much of the culture of monogamy is tied up with the myths of ‘always,’ ‘everything’ and ‘forever.’ Personally, I’ve never bought that crap. If deep love and commitment that lasts for decades happens, it happens — but it’s not my goal. And I don’t ever want anyone to promise to love me until death do us part — they might as well promise to stop the earth on its axis, or turn me into a magical rainbow-pelted unicorn. Yeah, right.
All I truly desire from any intimate connection is for us to be good to and for each other in whatever way feels right for us, for as long as it feels right, while being true to ourselves and fair to others. That could be a few weeks or a lifetime. But then, a lifetime could be just a few weeks, or a few minutes. Like Janis Joplin said, get it while you can.”
In a takedown of recent Thought Catalog click bait in which a dude argues that ladies should shave, Madeline Davies explains why she’s not going to any more:
“Basically, the whole thing makes me want to throw away my razor, put aside my current grooming practices and grow the biggest clown bush that the world has ever seen. I’m talking a bush so big that people get lost in it. It will be beautiful — tourists from around the globe will come to drive their cars through it like they do with trees in the Redwood Forest.”
Women don’t actually lose interest in sex with age, you might be able to think yourself off, pre-sports sex is fine, and other sex myths debunked.
Smarter people are generally kinkier people.
Sex activist Annie Sprinkle talked to the Rumpus about her career in sex and her career in art:
“Being a whore was great preparation for being an artist. Beth Stephens, my partner and collaborator, and I just did a live art piece in a Brooklyn gallery—Grace Exhibition Space. Our work is exploring the earth as lover, instead of earth as mother. So we built a bed frame and poured fifty-five big bags of fresh dirt into it. We took off our clothes and got into the bed of dirt. Then we invited our audience to take off their clothes and join us. On one hand, it’s very different than been a prostitute. But then again it’s not. We were paid to get in bed with total strangers, naked. In a sense we are turning art patrons into johns and jills. It’s fun to play in these realms. I think that in some ways, we are all whores, johns and jills.”
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