Welcome to NSFW Sunday! You smell really good this morning.
+ At the Rumpus, Zoe Ruiz writes about meeting her porn star crush:
“I found myself sitting on a couch with Princess Donna and we kissed. First, slowly and then we were making out. I sat on her lap with my legs wide apart and I looked at her face and remembered thinking she was the most beautiful woman I had ever met. I thought everything about her face–her eyes and her lips and her skin was perfect.
She looked at me with her big eyes and kissed me with her red, red lips. I wanted to touch her breasts but I had never touched anyone’s breasts but my own and they’re so small, they don’t count. I let my hands rest on my thighs and continued kissing her.
Then she pushed me off and made me lie down on the couch while she finger fucked me. I knew my friend and her friend and other people were watching. Finally the employees saw us and told us to stop.”
+ The Explainer asks, When did bare breasts become taboo in Western culture?
+ Google recently removed “bisexual” from its list of banned words after a prolonged campaign by BiNet, thank the lawd.
+ Can open relationships cure jealousy? (Spoiler alert: they cannot.)
+ Porn education site Bish Training recently launched an A-Z of Porn series. A is for Amateur and Anal.
+ How to tell your parents you’re a prostitute:
“There are some things we’re better off not telling our parents. Mom doesn’t need to know about your creepy obsession with Chatroulette or your predilection for Sarah Palin porn. And when it comes down to it, talking about your job is (in most cases) the most boring, soul-sucking kind of small talk there is, so it’s sort of nice when that’s off the table. But hiding your life as a sex worker from your parents doesn’t feel like acting on a need-to-know basis. It feels like lying. Deception is a shitty fact of life for a lot of sex workers, and de rigueur for plenty of people who really have nothing to hide. That’s not the kind of relationship I want to have with my family, though — and after years of stressing out about what I would do if xyz happened and my parents found out, it was actually something of a relief when they did.”
+ This article uses the words, “You don’t have to join in on naked chandelier orgies in order to be a sex radical; you just have to fight for others’ rights to naked chandelier orgies.” Otherwise it’s about how sexually progressive communities don’t always support non-sexually progressive ones.
+ Aroused women may be grossed out by fewer things than non-aroused women, according to a new study. From i09:
“The intention was to create a series of situations in which the researchers could measure the impact of sexual arousal on feelings of disgust and whether or not certain behaviors would be avoided altogether.
What Borg and de Jong discovered was that sexually aroused women rated the sex related tasks as being less disgusting compared to how the other women felt. And interestingly, they also exhibited a diminished disgust response to the non-sex related tasks and stimuli. In addition, the aroused group was less inclined to avoid certain behaviors outright; they successfully completed the highest percentage of tasks compared to the other groups.
The findings clearly show that there may in fact be a connection between sexual arousal and a diminished disgust response in women.”
+ There are lots of books about sex coming out this month. Top titles include Like a Virgin: How Science is Redesigning the Rules of Sex, by Aarathi Prasad, Delirium: The Politics of Sex in America, by Nancy L. Cohen, and Guide to Getting It On, by Paul Joannides.
+ Communication is really important in sex! According to a new study, it’s also linked to your sexual satisfaction:
“New research finds that comfort with sexual communication is directly linked to sexual satisfaction. People who are more comfortable talking about sex are also more likely to do so while having sex, the researchers found. […]
The surveys revealed that apprehension in talking about sex can spoil one’s sexual enjoyment, with that anxiety linked both to less communication in bed and less satisfaction overall. Unsurprisingly, less sexual communication apprehension and higher sexual self-esteem were both associated with more communication during sex.
Communication during sex, in turn, was linked to more sexual satisfaction. Nonverbal communication was more closely linked to satisfaction than verbal communication, Babin reported online in August in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. Nonverbal cues may seem safer, Babin said.”
+ One of the most fun ways to communicate: talking dirty.
+ Betty Dodson gives advice to someone who can’t come without a vibrator:
“No one can make you feel weird unless you buy into the Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm. Yes, it’s true that a handful of women can come like this but unless you want to retire your vibrator and spend months without orgasms while you try to learn to come from manual stimulation of your clitoris and after months of frustration, end up going back to your vibrator.”
+ You really don’t need to spend buckets of money to be kinky. Really, you don’t:
“You don’t need a leather-covered paddle, a latex cat-o-nine-tails or Japanese silk ropes or whatever to get started. Cheap paddles can be found in a sporting goods section to get you started, or you can use the old-fashioned hand for a spanking. Switches can be crafted from narrow wooden dowels at a hardware store or from a green branch from a tree in your yard.”
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The girl in the 3rd photo is gorgeous wow
I find the 5th pic pretty hot too.
I always find the ways people make open/poly relationships work really interesting.
Honey, you smell good too…
Every Sunday I get repetitive strain injury from clicking ‘right click; open link in new tab’
Hold control (or the apple button on a mac) while you click. I just don’t want you to injure yourself.
I can now perve in safety- thank you!
Perve on, perve!
I also love that you knew to give mac instructions. Queermos love macs.
If anyone wants to make a ‘Queermos love macs’ sticker for macs I will buy that shit.
if you’re on a macbook, or have a pad instead of a mouse, two finger click works. Also if it’s a pad, try turning on the light touch option so you don’t even need to click down.
oh thank you so much, great internet guru ;_______; srsly, thanks!
damn – that pic with washing machine. so hot!
the thought of crafting a switch from a “green branch from a tree in my yard” just keeps echoing through my brain for some reason
3rd picture = UNF
Huzzah for working from home/reading this post immediately after logging off my remote access site. Currently resisting the urge to google “naked chandelier orgies”…
mypornstarcrush.tumblr.com needs to happen!
OMG that third picture. NSFW Sunday has not only helped me get a little happy fun times going on downstairs, but it’s also helped me to love and appreciate my body. Thanks Autostraddle!!
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