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+ Solo Poly talked about how to get enough (consensual) touch without having a steady partner and without having your intentions misinterpreted:
“I have good friends, and I trust them. Developing a robust network of friends — especially local friends — can be a great source of emotional and physical comfort. I often hug my friends who are comfortable with it, and ask them about their comfort level with hugging or other touch if I’m not sure. I’m also honest and comfortable enough with my friends to tell them I like and need cuddling, and to ask if they are too. Consequently, when I need cuddles and touch, I can usually get it. It’s not always immediate, and sometimes I have to do without, but more often than not I can get the touch and affection I need.
Best of all, this does NOT “weird out” my friends, or cause sexual tension. I do have some cuddle-friends who I also sometimes have sex with, but many more who I don’t. I talk with my friends honestly about sexual tension where it exists, and we figure out what would/would not work for us.”
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+ Activists are increasingly finding new ways to think about sex and disability:
“Being sexual and desired should never be a prerequisite for access, but it can be. Consider this: if your crush couldn’t get past the stairs to your party, you’d choose an accessible venue. If they got migraines from perfumes, you’d ask invitees not to wear them. Collectively, our crushes could be a powerful force for change.
Conversely, when our bathhouses and parties don’t have ramps or American Sign Language (ASL) interpretation, we’re not just failing to consider access, we’re making implicit statements about who’s sexy, Ware says. ‘What we’re saying is, we don’t anticipate or imagine anyone from deaf communities and/or people from disability communities . . . to be a desirable person, because if we did we would make sure that they could come to the party.'”
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+ The Lusty Lady, America’s first unionized strip club, has closed:
The Lusty Lady was originally two clubs, one in Seattle (which closed in 2010) and one in San Francisco. It was the San Francisco location that gained true notoriety, for unionizing in 1997, a move the New York Times said at the time was “sure to hearten some women’s rights advocates and anger others” and which was chronicled in the 2000 documentary Live Girls Unite (unfortunately not available on Netflix Instant any longer). In 2003, the dancers turned the club into a co-op, buying it from its original owners. After some tense years, the club’s lease was not renewed by its landlord this year, who some believe is trying to monopolize the sex club industry in the city.”
+ The Lingerie Lesbian has a roundup of excellent seamless bras.
+ Fashion photographer Jay Marroquin asked 100 couples from around the world what lasting love looks like. The results are adorable.
+ NY Mag has funny reviews of less than fun sex toy kits.
Helen Lorraine via fuckyeahbeautykills
+ Nerve writes about whether roommates are replacing spouses:
“According to the report, in 1968 only 6% of American adults aged 18-31 reported having a roommate who was neither a spouse nor a parent. By 1981 that number was up to 14%. The most recent figures estimate just over a quarter of American Millennials are living with roommates. Most of this change has come at the expense of spouse cohabitation, which is less than half its 1968 rate, down from 56% to 23% in 2012.”
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Okay, so one thing I don’t get is that when Americans say “roommate” do you guys mean a person who literally shares your bedroom or a person who lives in your house with you??
A person who lives in the same in the same house (although I guess the former is possible). I never realized it before but I could see how that could be confusing. In England they say flatmate, right?
Yes, when we say “roommate” it just means the same as flatmate(a person who lives in your house with you).
I liked Solo Poly’s article on how perfectly healthy and possible it is to receive touch and affection without needing to be in an intimate relationship. For myself, dating someone isn’t a priority at the minute, but that doesn’t mean that I dont crave that human connection through touch sometimes. Thank you for posting this!
Yay, I’ve been thinking about the touch thing lately ’cause I’m feeling super touch starved so thanks for the article!
As an intensely cuddley person, I appreciated the article on touch and affection. For real, if you’ve ever thought, “You know, I really wish I could live with some warm, furry, eccentric creature who cycled rapidly between solitary aloofness and oppressive cuddesomeness, who would purr when I rubbed their head, who would freak out and hide from strangers, and was really neurotic about food. But unfortunately, I’m allergic to cats.” You should call me. I could use cuddle friends.
One of my favourite things to witness with my teen daughter and her friends is how very cuddly they all are. It’s completely exclusive of crushes and whatnot, just lots of lovely snuggling, heads-on-shoulders, puppy piles watching TV. Beautiful :)