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+ Do you want to be horrified? Jezebel has collected Cosmo‘s 44 most ridiculous (mostly heterosexual) sex tips:

“19. “Keep a spray bottle filled with ice water next to the bed, and give each other a strategic spritz to extend the encounter… Aim for the nerve-packed, thin-skinned areas on each other’s body, such as the nipples.”

On an unrelated note, this is also a great way to train your cat not to pee on the rug.”

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+ There are tons of BDSM myths. Bitch debunks some of them, including sex, submissives, latex, and inherent violence :

“BDSM is about hurting people and forcing them to do things they don’t want to do.

No, no and absolutely NO. This is the most important myth to bust before we go any further. BDSM is founded on consent and negotiation. It is about acting out fantasy scenarios in a safe space, after both parties have agreed upon limits, likes/dislikes and safewords that will stop an act at any time if a participant is unhappy. Any kinky activity done without express consent is not BDSM—it is abuse.”

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+ Privacy on OKCupid doesn’t really exist, just FYI:

“Among the other findings in the report by Sarah Downey of privacy-tracking company Abine:

+ OkCupid doesn’t support HTTPS, a secure browsing protocol that has become standard on most other sites.
+ OkCupid used nine different tracking companies and ad networks to obtain information about its visitors, a fact that was mentioned in the site’s privacy policy with the phrase ‘we may partner with third party advertisers who may (themselves or through their partners) place or recognize a unique cookie on your browser.’
+ Information shares on the site can be stored indefinitely. ‘Put bluntly,’ Downey wrote, ‘anything you post on the site may be there forever.'”

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+ Gardeners have better sex:

“Research shows that gardeners have an increased zest for life, sleep better, have a lowered risk for osteoporosis and diabetes and, according to a new study, have better sex lives.”

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+ Ask a Queer Chick answers questions about the people you can’t have sex with when you’re monogamous, demisexuality, placing your best friend above your partner, and dating someone who has a gender you haven’t slept with yet:

“Sleeping with someone new, after six years with the same partner, is always going to have a little bit of scary mixed in with the exciting. It’s always going to be a challenge to adjust to a new person’s particular idiosyncratic way of getting it on, to become familiar with each other’s desires, to figure out whether that sound means ‘slower’ or ‘faster,’ to find a Wonder Woman costume that fits them perfectly. And when the new partner is of a gender you’ve never done naked stuff with before, it can be that much more daunting.”

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+ Faking orgasms is never a good strategy.

“You have just fallen into the standard snake pit of pleasing your partner by sacrificing your own pleasure. I usually hear this from heterosexual women discussing the same problem. They think they are taking too long and to protect her lover’s ego, they fake an orgasm.

Come clean with her and the sooner the better. While we all know honestly can be difficult it’s much better than what you are going through now. You both need to grow up and understand different women have different timing for their orgasms. If she can’t handle the truth then it would be better to move along than to suffer your current situation any longer.”

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+ Your vagina is awesome. So are all of these ones.

+ Doctor’s Orders: Los Angeles Magazine did a big feature on the creators of Doc Johnson’s Sex Toys (which I wouldn’t necessarily recommend as a brand, btw), has an interesting section about the history of vibrators used as a treatment for “hysteria.”

+ The groundbreaking “literate smut” website nerve.com has decided to drop the news blog it’s been developing since 2005 in favor of returning to their initial mission of “creating original features around the insightful, frank, often hilarious voices of real people.” We approve.

+ If you missed it, this week’s NY Mag sex diary is about a queer lady:

“I’m thinking about D, with whom I have a date next week. Specifically, I am thinking about a time we had sex last year. We sat on my couch, her to my side. My legs were spread wide open, my knees up to my chest. Her fingers were deep inside of me and I could feel them rubbing on my G-spot. I was soaking the couch. I remember her facing me, her face pressing against mine. I remember grabbing onto her, how strong she felt and how secure it made me feel. I knew she had me. I knew I could let go.”

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