NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday May Or May Not Be Having Sex At Work

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

+ Activist, author and founder of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Susan Wright spoke to the Rumpus about what’s considered sexually deviant at each cultural moment, stigma around kinky sex, consent and more:

“There’s not a single person out there whose life hasn’t been touched by the issue of consent. When do you consent, when are you coerced, pressured, or manipulated into doing things you don’t want to do sexually? We all need sex education about consent, and safe sex is what it comes down to. Perhaps the kink community is ahead of the curve because we do such complicated, interested games, that we have to understand each other and need to have a way to follow the rules in order to do this—because millions of people are doing this millions of times. That is important for everyone to hear because we aren’t hearing it from anyone else.”

+ Food- and animal-based words dominate pet names around the world. Why not start calling your activity partner a little cabbage?:

“”Chou” (cabbage) is the French equivalent of “sweetheart”. “Chou” conveys the idea of being small and round and is used to describe French puff pastry, often enjoyed as “chou a la creme”. “Chou” is said to resemble a baby’s or child’s head too. Over the years, many French children have been told that boys were born in cabbages and girls in roses. You can double it too – “chouchou” is a standard translation for “darling”.”

+ Betty Dodson gives advice to someone who doesn’t think she’s ever had an orgasm:

“Chances are good you are having orgasms but due to your exaggerated idea of what that will feel like you cannot identify what’s actually happening to your body. Check out these links. Squirting is NOT the same as having orgasm. Stop watching porn or listening to what other people say. Instead pay attention to what’s happening in your body without any expectations! There is a huge range of orgasms. They are not all a Big O. Some are sweet and many are fun but not earth shattering. If your body wasn’t responding with an orgasm, you wouldn’t have continued masturbating.”

+ Sometimes sex hurts (unintentionally). Position, lube, going slow, thinking about sex differently and talking to your gynaecologist might all help:

“Painful sex, whether as a result of a lack of lubrication, or stemming from more serious health problems, injury or surgery, is quite common. A study released by the University of Chicago in 1999 reported that 21 percent of women between the age of 20 and 29 experienced pain with intercourse. In fact, women of all ages, as well as men, may experience sexual pain at some point in their lives. But when it goes on too long, what suffers most is our relationships.”

+ Business Insider recently conducted a survey on sex at work. Among other findings, 84% of respondents said people at the same company should be allowed to have sex; 92% said they shouldn’t have to tell HR about it and, of people who have slept with their colleagues, 17% do so frequently.

+ Tracy Clark-Flory rounds up the best of Tumblr porn, including Art or Porn, Stuff in My Vagina and Indifferent Cats in Amateur Porn.

+ There are 9 ways to describe making out that aren’t “making out.”

+ There are lots of household-object takes on BDSM toys. Wooden spoons, pastry brushes, chip clips, pet collars and more are all possibilities.

+ People are still embarrassed about their sexual histories, according to a new study from Ohio University:

“Men and women appeared to be less hesitant to admit to activities that might be associated with the opposite sex, as long as they didn’t involve sexual behavior. When it came to intercourse, men and women appeared to be intent on answering along stereotypical expectations, Fisher said.

Fisher said the findings should raise flags with researchers who use surveys to study sexuality. “It is possible that people are more motivated to hide sexual behavior that is not in keeping with gender norms than other types of behavior,” Fisher wrote.”

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