Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ Everyone is obsessed with talking about pubic hair. A recent article in the Telegraph argued that pubic hair is one of the biggest challenges for young women today. Kate Dries argues that it actually might be:
“Her words sound strong – like, really? The biggest challenge for women is about what to do with their pubic hair? What about rape or abortion or the wage gap? What about the truly devastating ways women are treated in countries that aren’t Rickman’s England?
But what Rickman saying is true, because the stuff that seems stupid is actually the stuff that’s harder to unpack. We can slowly legislate our way towards workplace equality or equal pay. What we can’t do in any definitive way is force people to think differently about what women look like. These are the issues that keep holding us back, that infiltrate every aspect of our daily life, that inform the choices we make, that make us think of women differently than we think of men. And sure, these “issues” are so dumb. They feel like frivolous concerns. But the longer we don’t take the perception of how a woman “should” look seriously, the longer it’s going to take for the world to define what we deserve.”
+ Anna Bongiovanni and Kaz Meyer created a sexy queer romantic comic that is relevant to your interests.
+ Your nipples are perfect, and other things you may not know about them.
+ Former Sex Diaries editor Rachel Kramer Bussel spoke to Amanda Hess about reading strangers’ sex lives every week.
+ The Lingerie Lesbian has a roundup of the best bras for small busts.
+ Babeland will show you how sex toys are created.
+ What happens when sex research goes from science to the mainstream media, according to someone whose findings were misrepresented.
+ Oh Joy Sex Toy has a beginner’s guide to solo rope bondage.
+ Over-using Facebook can ruin relationships, says science:
“A study recently conducted by doctoral students Russell Clayton, Alexander Nagurney, and Jessica R. Smith found that participants who had especially high levels of Facebook use experienced higher levels of related conflict, cheating, breakup, and divorce. Researchers said that this was because they were at higher risk of experiencing jealousy induced over previous romantic partners or wall posters, as well as more likely to contact other users in ways that count as ’emotional cheating.’ Interestingly enough, Clayton found that these results were only true for couples that had been in relationship for three years or less, suggesting that Facebook is more of a threat to the ‘I want to know everything about you’ stage of love than the ‘I’ve heard you tell that story a million times already’ phase.”
+ Solopoly writes about the poly closet, and how staying quiet about nonstandard relationship choices can be harmful to everyone:
“Here’s the irony: The very same people who choose to stay in the closet also generally express a strong wish that the risk and stigma of being out about nonstandard relationships would just disappear. Almost to a person, they tell me that they wish the world was a more accepting place. In fact, they’re often quite passionate about this, since closeted people tend to be pretty stressed.
…Tellingly, they usually also mention that more people being visibly out about nonstandard relationships would probably do the most to help realize their dream of a more accepting world.
In other words: they acknowledge that being out would directly benefit people like them, including them. Yet they still choose the closet.”
She also writes about why you only hear about failed open relationships, and why that should change.
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