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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ Want to sext but not sure how to get started or what to say? Start slow, use your own voice, and try phrases like “I’m getting so antsy just thinking about seeing you later,” “I can’t get enough of you,” or “I can’t get last night out of my mind”:
“‘People might think, ‘I don’t know what to say’ or ‘I’m not creative,’ but you don’t have to dive in with all these kinky, dirty things,’ [Vanessa] Marin tells Refinery29. It’s true that sexting can make people uneasy, but it doesn’t have to be daunting: It can be playful and silly. ‘Find a specific language you feel comfortable with,’ Marin says. ‘If you’re not comfortable with being too explicit from the get-go, that’s okay — just start slow.’”
+ Some possible responses to someone flirting with you.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen reviewed the Flint uncut studded dragon dildo, noting, “I AM in love with the look of the Flint… But it’s just too damn big.”
+ It’s time to talk about teenage girls and sexuality. Maybe if we did, teens asking for cosmetic genital surgery wouldn’t be on the rise.
+ You can protect yourself from HIV with post-exposure prophylaxis if you start treatment within 72 hours.
+ It’s actually a lot easier to use online dating than to use online friend-making, turns out: “The friending space is the next frontier,” he claims, “but it’s very much in its infancy. Telling a friend, ‘Hey, check out this friending app’ is not really that comfortable, yet.”
+ “My thoughts on this is that I’m on my way to a live-action game of Clue as Colonel Mustard,” and other things that must have been said behind the scenes of vintage Playboy photoshoots.
+ Everything you’ve always wanted to know about fish orgies but were afraid to ask (from a neat new book on oceanic organisms):
“To make [the orgy] work, tens of thousands of individuals, many traveling for days, must all descend upon one chosen location, at the exact same time, and then jettison their wares within moments of one another. It is no easy feat. Just consider the last time you and your one partner managed synchronized bliss — and we’re talking thousands of individuals.”
+ Kink and consensual non-monogamy are more prevalent than previous studies expected. Consensual non-monogamy: for 5.3% of the population, it’s kind of a thing:
“Using two nationally representative samples consisting of 4,813 and 3,905 people, respectively, the first large-scale study on the prevalence of consensual non-monogamy found that more than one in five Americans (about 21 percent) have engaged in the practice at some point in their lifetimes. These findings suggest the phenomenon is more common than previously thought. […]
These results also challenge the idea that people involved in nonmonogamous arrangements all look the same, as the study’s sample was demographically diverse across age, education, income, geographical region, political affiliation, religion, and race, and there weren’t major differences in the prevalence of non-monogamy across these categories. Prevalence did, however, vary by gender and sexual orientation — non-monogamy was more common among straight men as compared to straight women, and among individuals who identified as gay, lesbian, or bisexual as opposed to straight.”
+ Monogamy might be the default relationship structure because of its theoretical protection against STIs, according to a new study, that argues roughly that polygynists had higher rates of disease compared to monogamists. The study, however, uses computer modelling, and it’s difficult to say how accurate its data are:
“It’s certainly a good argument. But it’s hard to assess how likely it is to be true. This is because we know very little about the risk of sexually transmitted diseases in hunter-gatherer societies or historical societies transitioning to agriculture. This is a common problem in science: we can only make progress when we can test an idea, but plausible ideas are sometimes very hard to evaluate without massive effort. […] Computer simulations are useful and can tell us important things, but they are always limited and necessarily simplify the real world.”
+ From the Autostraddle Lesbian Sex Archives: May is Masturbation Month! Here are five ways to make the most of your masturbation staycation.
