Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ At Refinery29, naked lady and writer Stoya discusses rule 34, approaching neurotypical sex partners when you have Asperger’s, grooming and the semantics of “coming”:
“The origins of ‘cumming’ or ‘coming’ in a sexual context are murky. According to Mark Steven Morton’s The Lover’s Tongue, ‘come’ as a euphemism for orgasm has appeared in many texts dating from the 16th century, including some by Shakespeare. When, exactly, it mutated to the spelling ‘cum’ is unknown. Cum was already in use as a Latin word meaning ‘together’ or ‘along with,’ which could be a clue regarding how it arrived at its current use (or perhaps just an interesting coincidence). “
+ New York Magazine has the four most desired people in New York according to OKCupid. This is the gay lady:
“For gay women on OKCupid, the dating scene is smaller—only 4 percent of users—and therefore less competitive; people have a bit more time to linger. And there’s a good reason why Kerry wants her profile to be a “true reflection” of herself: Three years ago, she came out on the site. ‘I dated so many guys, thinking I could find the right one, but something wasn’t fitting,’ she says, over several glasses of wine. She’s wearing Supra high-tops, harem pants, and a white T-shirt, accessorized with a gold cross that used to belong to her grandmother. She created a profile and selected ‘gay girls only’ from OKCupid’s menu two years before she came out to her Catholic family in Long Island, with whom she currently lives—and mentions lovingly in her profile.”
+ When people make recommendations about how many times per week “happy couples” have sex they are basically wishfully making things up:
“[W]hy would therapists push for twice a week? The reason: Reverse engineering, AKA, wishful thinking. In other words, happy couples report that they have sex about two to three times per week, so the idea is that by doing it twice a week, perhaps you too can glean the happiness of the happiest people. But doing what happy people do doesn’t mean it will make you happy, because there’s always the possibility that it’s the happiness that leads to the twice-weekly boning, and not the boning that leads to the happiness, dig?”
+ Porn MD has a live feed of searches and I can’t look away. “Lesbian double fisting.” “Yoga class gang bang.” “Amateur lesbians.” “Sex whisperer.” Etc.
+ At Rookie, Amy Rose talks about non-monogamy and open relationships.
+ Here is how to choose your life partner, if “choose a life partner” is an item on your to do list.
+ Women who have problems orgasming (or never orgasm) have more distance between the clitoris and vagina, according to a new study:
“The clitoris, in fact, is more than just the buttonlike structure visible on the body’s surface. The clitoral complex, which has a shape of a boomerang, extends under the skin and includes parts that are known as the body, crura, bulb and root. It is possible that a smaller distance between these structures and the vagina makes it easier for the clitoris to be stimulated during intercourse, Oakley said. The visible, external part of the clitoris, which is called the glans, contains thousands of nerves packed densely together in a small area, and appears to be the center of sexual sensation. ‘Perhaps a larger clitoris has more nerve endings, and perhaps with direct contact and stimulation the clitoris can have more sensation, resulting in orgasms,’ Oakley said.”
+ There are some positions to try for anal sex.
+ New York state has a revenge porn law in the works.
+ Having a five-day clitoral erection after taking anti-depressants sounds like the worst.
+ Sex author/editor/educator Tristan Taromino writes about why post-secondary sex weeks are important:
“We need Sex Week because we know most people have few opportunities for frank, honest, accurate, inclusive, shame-free, judgment-free conversations about sex. I recently interviewed Heather Corrina, founder of Scarleteen, the most widely used online sex education resource for young people, who told me, “I think a lot of people misunderstand abstinence based sex ed. Not only does it [tell people to wait until marriage to have sex], it does it in a really fearful way. It involves a lot of religious messaging, a lot of homophobic messaging, a lot of intentional medical misinformation. Our users now are much more fearful around sex and sexuality than the users in the late nineties when we first started. We have a lot more misinformation rather than just a lack of information that we have to correct. We also have to do it through this haze of fear and shame and anxiety.” Like the work of Heather and Scarleteen, sex educators must counteract sex-negative scare tactics and fear-mongering, and college is a perfect place to do it: it’s where you’re supposed to investigate ideas from many different perspectives, challenge your own pre-conceived notions, think critically, and apply this new lens to your own life. It’s a time to figure things out, make mistakes, develop a sense of who you are and what you stand for. But you need knowledge and options in order to do that. If students don’t have access and exposure to this information at a public university, then where will they get it (and when)?”
+ From “Stitch and Bitch,” by A.L. Simonds, in Best Lesbian Erotica 2014, edited by Kathleen Warnock:
“Two fingers inside, she twisted and thrust. Luisa moaned in response, struggled to sit up and reached for Priya. They kissed again, teeth clacking and tongues pulsing, as Lu fucked herself on Priya’s hand, desperately asking for more, needing all of Priya to be in her, to answer and resolve the howling Priya had created. Two fingers, then three, then four, tightly weapon on each other and crushed on all sides: they struggled to move, to reach ever deeper, as Luisa came, wet and cascading over Priya’s wrist, down her arm.”
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