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Let’s Talk About Sex
Do Tell, an extension of Subjectified: Nine Young Women Talk about Sex, is a new story-sharing Tumblr project that wants individuals to talk about their sexual experiences of all kinds:

“Why? Because we live in a sex-saturated culture with precious little honest and authentic discussion of sexuality. Because speaking our truths, with all their complications and imperfections and beauty, challenges a culture of shame that impacts us every day. Because our voices and our histories matter.”

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How To Deal
At the Toast, Mallory has some particularly awesome advice on what happens if you suddenly start being attracted to people of new genders:

“I don’t know why it hasn’t happened earlier for you; I also don’t think being “well-adjusted sexually” is necessarily a fixed and universal thing, since having sex is an entirely distinct proposition with each new partner, so don’t feel worried that you weren’t so well-adjusted you didn’t adjust yourself into homosexuality at the age of nine. What has happened has happened; what is happening now is happening now, and it’s fine. Being a lesbian isn’t necessarily like joining the Jets; you’re not one all the way from your first cigarette to your last dying day. You’ll have particularly gay days; you may have particularly gay years or relationships or seasons or afternoons, and there’s nothing to be done about it. Date as many women as you find yourself interested in for as long as you like. Be honest, be kind, and be patient with yourself and with them in bed. You’ll figure out what works for you and I am sure you will find yourself with as many receptive, communicative, enthusiastic lesbian sex chums as you desire.”

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Lingerie Advice
If you are into wearing lingerie but your activity partner is ambivalent about it at best, the Lingerie Lesbian has some advice:

“Honestly, if you want your partner to take an interest, it helps if you tell them. Lingerie sometimes has a weird aura around it, so if you want your partner to give you positive feedback or notice when you have something new, mention it! Straight up communication goes a long way. […]

When I talked to my girlfriend about this subject she referenced a ‘tightrope between enjoying and objectifying’ as an explanation of why she was originally hesitant to express appreciation for lingerie. Lingerie can have a excessively sexually adventurous connotation that can make a partner who is unfamiliar hesitant to engage.”

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Femme Sex Week
If you missed Queer Fat Femme‘s Femme Sex Week, now’s a good time to catch up! In one post, femmes answer the question “what do you think about when you masturbate?“:

“All sorts of things! butch & femme & genderqueer daddies punishing me for being bad, humiliation, face riding, all manner of power dynamics (locker room scenes, the overwrought trope of teacher/student, once I even thought about my boo & I playing out some kind of kinky red riding hood scene in which they were the big bad wolf & I was “fleeing” from them.. hot!). Femme on femme action: glitter, messy lipstick everywhere, those beautiful glass octopussy dildos, big heart pillows, a canopy bed. Shower sex: with those suction handcuffs! sex in a big ass clawfoot tub full of bubbles & petals sometimes rocks my self-fucking world.”

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Body Acceptance
Bare to Bush, an anonymous tumblr loosely about body acceptance, wrote about posed and unposed nude photos (and took some):

When we look at naked people on the internet (be it porn stars, ‘selfies’ taken by internet-famous bloggers, or professional freelance models), they are almost always in these poses that elongate the body, stretch out the muscles, show off the ribs, push the breasts forward and hide all of those squishy rolls that happen when we relax. I am not attacking them, so please don’t feel defensive if those are the kinds of photos you are a part of. They’re beautiful, I have no problem with them. I just feel called to point out that a body that looks so ‘sexy’ or ‘slender’ or ‘desirable’ in one picture, can look squishy, vulnerable and saggy in the next just by letting go of a pose. No one wants to post those pictures, those are the ones you delete before they’re even out of the camera. No one wants to say, ‘Hey! Here’s a selfie of how my tummy puffs out and look, can you see the stretch marks on my breasts!?’

I took both of those pictures this morning, minutes apart. They’re both me. They’re both completely unedited. They are simply meant to show the difference between a body that is carefully designed to be sexy and well-received, and a body that is just sitting there being a naked body on a bed in the morning.

She also wrote a follow-up post about the different ways breasts can look at different angles, which is maybe old news if you have breasts but also affirming to see in photos.

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The Case For Good Sex Awards
A nominee for the Bad Sex Awards writes about why there should be Good Sex Awards:

“Sexual longings, sexual fears and sexual joy are all a huge part of our dealings with each other. […]

If there’s a value in novelists writing about sex then how are these awards helping? “Britain’s most dreaded literary prize,” the Huffington Post calls it. The danger is that the dread, the hurt inflicted, or merely the fear of the hurt, casts a chill shadow over writers as they consider whether or not to follow their characters into the bedroom. Mockery is a powerful weapon.

If the Literary Review cares about literature, and not just about having a good party, let its editors institute alongside the Bad Sex award a Good Sex award.”

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