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+ AlterNet has nine actually useful relationship tips, including giving compliments, making each other feel special and valued, being independent, being interesting and more:
“‘In my study, when couples said they were in a relationship rut or felt bored, they were less happy over time,’ says Orbuch. So escape the rut by mixing things up. ‘The changes can be small, but they have to upset the routine enough to make him or her sit up and take notice.’
Similarly, anthropologist Helen Fisher suggests that couples ‘keep doing novel things together,’ she says. ‘Novelty drives up the dopamine system in the brain and can help to sustain feelings of romantic love.’”
+ Lingerie/undergarments can be one way to deal with gender dysphoria:
“I’ve struggled with figuring out how to handle gender dysphoria, since sometimes I’m fine with my body, but I’ve also had days where I’ve felt like I couldn’t dress myself or leave the house or even be seen by other humans. What’s worse, my normally excellent lingerie was betraying me. You might expect that as someone who’s vaguely androgynous I’d have some low-key women’s underthings, right? Nah. I like a pretty extreme demi-cup pushup bra on my girl-days, because to me ‘girly’ means ‘basically Marie Antoinette.’ My lingerie drawer is full of bows and stripes and padding and oomph. And that’s probably the worst thing for me on days when I wake up wondering why I have breasts at all, since in a bra like that they’re impossible for me to avoid.”
Film Photo by: Mandy Darling / Amanda Calquhoun
+ If you have sex questions related to being intersex, the Centre for Sexual Pleasure and Health is here to help with a resource guide.
+ The worst songs to have sex to include “The Sweetest Taboo,” “Let’s Talk About Sex,” “Push It,” “S&M” and more.
+ Oh Joy Sex Toy talked about love hotels.
+ Solo Poly reviewed More Than Two, a forthcoming book about polyamory, applauding its approach to ethics:
“[T]he authors’ two key ethical axioms [are]:
‘The people in a relationship are more important than the relationship.’
‘Don’t treat people as things.’This neat one-two punch knocks out most of the biggest mistakes and worst behavior I’ve witnessed (and occasionally perpetrated) in poly/open relationships. Problems born of trying to prevent change, or at least too much change. Of presumptions of status, or assumptions rooted in deep-seated insecurity. Of failures of compassion and empathy. Of ignorance and lack of skill or practice. Of blatant disrespect and inconsideration. Of power, control, weakness and cowardice. And of abuse.
+ At Vice, Natasha Lennard discusses why condom laws for porn are a terrible idea:
“While I have no special love for the LA economy, the troubling manner of Measure B’s passage and impact is something I hope to not see repeated. The public’s misguided concerns about safety won the day, while the performers’ own expressed concerns were ignored.
Stoya, the celebrated adult performer and writer (and, disclosure, a personal friend), told me on Thursday that while she believes her fellow workers will ‘just adapt as individuals and as an industry,’ the shift away from LA-based productions risks atomizing the industry to detrimental effect. ‘In the loosest sense of the word, I would estimate there are 1,000 to 1,200 active performers in professional adult films,’ she said. ‘That number doesn’t seem very large compared to other industries, and the more spread out and disconnected from our community we are, the harder organizing and self-educating is.’”
+ The Glov is a bionic sex toy intended to make penetrative masturbation more ergonomic:
“‘Stick your hand out, make a first, and move your hand up and down,’ Scrase orders. ‘That’s how you’d work your traditional Rabbit. In order to do a thrusting motion, you literally have to engage your wrist, upper arm, your shoulder, your forearm, your chest, and your back muscles.’ I put a fist in the air and tried it out. ‘Now take your hand and just flex your first three fingers on your pelvic area.’ I may have been the only one in office making odd hand gestures by my waist, but Scrase certainly made his point.”
+ The downside to 3D sex toy printing is how likely it is your toy is spreading bacteria (though sanding and sealing it, or using a condom, can help):
“When a 3D printer begins making an object, it does so layer by layer. Over time, the layers build up to make the proper form of whatever it is you’re printing. But 3D-printed sex toys are particularly dangerous for two reasons: The surface is too rough for immediate use, and microscopic gaps in the toy that are almost impossible to disinfect can store bodily fluid and bacteria.
Even if you sand down the surface of a 3D-printed toy, it’s not totally safe. ‘It makes it look smooth, but it doesn’t make it microscopically smooth. It doesn’t seal the holes or gaps, so I don’t think that’s really the right answer,’ Tom Nardone, founder of MakerLove.com, which provides free designs for 3D-printed sex toys, tells Mashable.”
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