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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
You can have really hot sex all by yourself. If not now, when?:
“It’s a strange time to try to add novelty to any sexual relationship, including the one you have with yourself. Getting off (however you’re doing it) might feel sort of stale and predictable at the moment: It’s more difficult than usual to hook up with other people, and people might be either isolated from or spending way more time than usual with their partners. That’s where you come in—all on your own. Whether or not you’re having sex with other people, reconfiguring your masturbation habits can make things feel fresher and just… better, in general.
Maybe your masturbation routine is great and you wouldn’t change a thing about it. But if you’re longing for sexual variety of any kind, feeling slightly bored, or missing the variety of having sex with strangers, this is a great time to experiment. You don’t need a partner to try out a new position, discover a new fantasy, or otherwise introduce yourself to parts of sex you’re curious about.”
The sexual wellness industry is one of the few to explode (in a good way) during the pandemic:
“For many people, investing in sexual wellness at a time like this is a way to “put themselves in focus and drive forward,” says Guido Campello, the creative director and co-CEO of lingerie retailer and brand Journelle. Gaddy-Dalrymple explains that unexpected isolation has allowed some the opportunity to reconnect with their bodies without the burden of typical life distractions. Perhaps that exploration is why this global industry is expected to reach $40 billion in revenue by 2025, according to market research firm Arizton.”
Unpopular (?) opinion: Don’t say “I love you” during sex.
Here’s what’s up with the stress response cycle.
Here’s what’s up with the downfall of orgasm cult OneTaste.
Normalize talking about crushes, even in monogamous relationships:
“As Moraya Seeger DeGeare, a therapist and co-founder of BFF Therapy, a counseling center in Beacon, New York, likes to tell her clients: “You will feel attracted to things. That doesn’t mean anything bad is happening.” What it does mean is that you’re a human being experiencing the world around you. She compared attraction to walking into a bakery and smelling muffins. It would be weird to pretend the muffins didn’t smell delicious, or that you didn’t notice them. Why, then, are we inclined to pretend we don’t notice that other people are attractive?”