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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ Some of the biggest sex news this particular week came from us, right here. Our post about how often queer women have sex has given the world some insight into the mysteries of the female libido and enabled us to determine that lesbian bed death is a myth! Good job, ladies.
+ We also published a list of the 100 Gayest Places You’ve Had Sex. You know, like nunneries, Home Depot, the recycling plant and Oberlin.
+ No one was ever allowed alone with someone they wanted to make out with but weren’t married to in the Victorian era, so rollerskating was a handy release:
“‘Holding hands and whispering sweet nothings became easier without Mother Grundy — a contemporary term for a stern matriarch — and her ilk tagging along. Prolonged eye contact with one’s intended replaced stolen glances.’
On the rink, chaperones were left behind, clothes got shorter and more fitted (to allow for easier skating movement) and it was far easier to grab your date’s hand (or whatever else) without scrutiny. Young people — and newspapers — went crazy for it.”
+ The Victorian era was also notable for its nipple piercings (ahem, “bosom rings”). Though they certainly weren’t everywhere they were allegedly a thing:
“The widest diffusion of breast-rings exists in Paris. Writers often refer to the breast rings as anneaux de sein. Less women have breast-rings in England, although a jeweller reports on having earlier operated 20 women in England and during the six months since the first article about them appeared in the ‘Society’ 43 women. One correspondent cites a brochure by a New York physician who complains of young American women going to Europe and getting breast-rings in Paris. The brochure sees breast-rings as dangerous to health and encouraging ‘unhealthy sensuality’. One correspondent writes that breast-rings are often mentioned in the feature pages of La vie parisienne and Fin de siècle in connection with ladies of the demi-monde.”
+ St. Louis’s first feminist sex shop is opening this summer, is going to be run by two queer folks, and needs your help.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Ryan North and Trudy Cooper wrote about SFW fetishes.
+ People who eat more grilled cheese have more sex. Correlation is not causation. OR IS IT.
+ If you feel uncomfortably gassy or bloated and want to have sex, strategic yoga, remembering that you are the hottest and avoiding a few specific positions can all help. (If you do fart though it’s totally normal it’s fine.)
+ All bodies are good bodies.
+ Consent is important, and needs to be handled in a way that doesn’t perpetuate patriarchal attitudes but instead emphasizes actual communication, nuance, tone, open discussion and more:
“Start by setting and respecting boundaries long before you reach the bedroom. When you meet someone, ask if they’d like a handshake or a hug rather than making an assumption. These habits set people at ease and let everyone know they don’t need to worry about policing their boundaries at all times when they are with you.
Getting to the end of a date and wondering if there will be a goodnight kiss? One of my students recently shared a story about a date asking if they could step closer. Rather than ruin the romantic mood by asking, the mood was enhanced. Not only was the question a sexy thrill, because the advance was welcome, it also set the tone for the interaction: nothing unwelcome was going to happen.”
+ If you’re getting into rope bondage and confused by all the knots, Gizmodo has how to tie the only five knots you’ll ever need. (Also see Autostraddle’s Bondage 101 for bondage-related safety.)
+ There are all sorts of porn categories out there.
+ Sometimes coming out as poly to your family can suck.
+ Nothing is wrong with you if you don’t experience spontaneous desire.
+ The number one first date location is Starbucks I guess.
+ Quick sex can be great:
“‘You see your partner. You want your partner. You fuck your partner. Beginning. Middle. And end,’ says Tyler. ‘There’s no character development, no arch. Do you have a character arch every day? I don’t. But I do have a lot of hot sex.’”
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