Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ Whiskey Tortoise writes about being a mistress, keeping things casual and free and her first affair:
“Our clandestine meetings took place late at night. I rode a taxi all the way to her house, and we spent hours kissing and talking and listening to music she was mixing. Her talent was apparent even then, and it’s one of the reasons I was instantly drawn to her. And the way she pursued me so aggressively is what reeled me in. Then there was the sex: the way she arranged toys throughout the bedroom; the way there was always gay porn playing as soon as we both confessed our addictions to it; the way she instructed me to touch her there, and there, faster, and over and over again; the way she coaxed my sexuality right out of me.”
+ Racialicious ran a review of Nenna Joiner’s black queer feminist porn:
” Nenna J’s films center black women with body types that aren’t affirmed in popular porn. She imagines the gaze of queer black women, and she resists the hackneyed scene endings of normative pornography. If you want to see women of color perform a giggling, cooing ecstasy, you might want to go to Redtube. But if you are interested in embodied performances that respect the real of the reel, Nenna J’s Hella Brown: Real Sex In The City won’t disappoint.”
+ Ask A Queer Chick has advice on coercive threesomes, dating the right people and lesbians in long-distance relationships:
“Open relationships are sometimes proposed as the cure for an ailing long-distance love, and while that makes some surface-level sense — you can have sex with someone in your zip code, yay! — non-monogamy is not a panacea for dissatisfaction. It tends to introduce new levels of complication, and if things are already shaky, not knowing where your partner is or who she’s doing will probably just make things worse. An open relationship won’t solve the fact that you aren’t as attracted to your girlfriend as you are to other people, or that you can’t talk to her about something as harmless as dancing with someone at a party because you’re afraid she doesn’t trust you, or that you’re hanging out with attractive women and never mentioning that you’re dating someone. It sounds like you and your girlfriend simply don’t have a strong enough foundation as a couple for the challenges that long distance relationships present. End it as cleanly and kindly as you can, and make the most of your slutty college years.”
+ Only eight percent of Americans sleep naked, according to a recent poll by a linens company.
+ News flash: it helps to talk about what you want in bed.
+ The Frisky has 9 sex lessons garnered from Downton Abbey.
+ Lizzie Plaugic writes about answering a questionnaire on being qualified to be a sex toy tester at Nerve.
+ How do you curate your sexual history?:
“For others, the list was as much a document of self-acceptance as a tool for sustaining memory. ‘I feel like my transition from the more timid, afraid-of-being-slut-shamed girl I used to be into the much more sexually assertive and confident woman I am now has informed this desire to have a tangible “collection” to look back on,’ June told me. She shares her number and her list with new or potential partners as well as friends: ‘it’s a good way to weed out judgmental assholes before I get too close to them.’ I heard similar things from dozens of other respondents, who mentioned that the list served not only to jog their memories but, as several put it, to serve as a testament to a hard-won emotional growth of which they were genuinely proud.”
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