The feature image of Ashley and Ava on the Bench and all of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from fetish site Mondo Fetiche. The inclusion of a visual here is not an assertion of a model’s gender or orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau in Brooklyn Leather Rascals from Mondo Fetiche
What does it mean to get over a relationship? Is that even possible?:
“I want you to entertain the idea that you’re not so much trying to get over these past relationships as you are trying to get over the idea of them. The decisions you made to end them at the time were decisions based in reality. The ones you’re making about them now are more based in abstraction. They can’t really be compared. They’re happening on two different planes. You’ve just overstayed your visit to the Nostalgia Hotel and the two are starting to look the same.
The good news is, you don’t have to “get over” anything. All the good things, the happy memories, the moments of warmth you experienced, you get to keep those. You get to keep the sadness, too. The sadness is important! It informs us, and you know what? Sometimes it brings complex pleasures of its own.”
Mimosa, Magenta Lexe, Vanessa Darling for Mondo Fetiche
You can build everyday trust in your relationships by saying what you mean and meaning what you say, clearly communicating your intentions, admitting your mistakes, and always telling the truth.
Here’s how to consensually choke someone during sex.
What makes you a power bottom?
This one company is reinventing studio porn.
Here’s how to help someone grieving and what not to say to someone going through a breakup.
The Furry History Collection is an archive of furry fandom history and it’s now available to browse.
If someone in your life is insecure, here are a few ways to handle it.
Uncle Red, Mimosa for Mondo Fetiche
Does sex help get rid of headaches? Regrettably there’s still only one way to find out:
“Dr. David C. Yeomans gave a presentation at the 2016 Headache Symposium that indicated oxytocin in particular could work as a sort of migraine pain relief.
There’s good news for kink enthusiasts, too — there is research to suggest that being spanked and flogged releases a rush of endorphins, which bind to opiate receptors and relieve pain. More in-depth studies have yet to be conducted, but it’s possible to argue this could also apply to headaches and migraine pain — although whether or not you feel like being whipped during a migraine attack is a different question entirely.
As it stands, though, evidence is nowhere near conclusive enough to suggest fucking headaches away could work.”
If I were in charge, we would definitely be able to fuck our headaches away. I’m thinking multiple orgasms would be a good perk, I mean, prescription.
Is sex with partner required to treat the headache, or just having an orgasm?
If it is the latter, then wouldn’t the prescription to treat chronic headaches be “go fuck yourself”?
I’m dying
Mel Magazine is a terrible publication and I am absolutely baffled as to why there are so many links to them lately.
I’m all for harm reduction, but that article on breath play is reckless— it doesn’t begin to cover the bases. Breath play is one of the most dangerous forms of BDSM there is, you court a risk of sudden death every time you play even with extensive training. You need to know more than “avoid the windpipe.” Take a class and read extensively before you try it, and start with hand smothering not chokes. Stefanos & Shay and Jay Wiseman cover it better than I can:
https://www.stefanosandshay.com/articles/breath-control-some-thoughts-in-outline-format/
http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_BreathPlayMain.html
I came here to say this. That article scared the ever-loving shit out of me.
Those getting over a relationship highlighted paragraphs are heartbreakingly brutal and directed exactly at me right now. Ugh.