Feature image of Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday! And Happy Valentine’s Day if you’re into that sort of thing! It’s fine to be clichéd about it. Here are some romantic Valentine’s Day ideas for housebound freaks. And here’s how to have a sexy, romantic night in when you also have roommates around.
In “If My Body Were A House,” Emrys Donaldson writes:
“When G tops me, our pleasure builds on itself in a feedback loop. I bend over and pull down my pants. I let her control if and when and how often. Her sadist pleasure at hitting me builds on my masochist pleasure in experiencing pain and my excitement at her pleasure. The marks on my body are evidence of her care and affection, or at least of her interest in me. Something deep in me cherishes this warped attention. Maybe it’s the way I’ve spent so many years using sex with cis men to self-harm, or maybe it’s compensation for not having parents for whom I might exist fully, for having to take care of myself and my sister entirely too young. G photographs the bruises on the ripe peach of my ass and saves the images for later.”
“Is this a love poem to the moon or a sext?”
There are a lot of ways to be kinky.
Here are some date ideas for living with someone you’re dating in your parents’ basement in a pandemic.
Here’s how to deep throat and how to give or get a strap-on blow job.
Here are a few of the people breaking lockdown for sex.
You might be in love with your best friend. As Angela Chen notes:
“The fascinating thing is that it just raises this question of what exactly is romantic attraction? I think for most people, the way that you know you’re romantically attracted to someone is that you want to have sex with them. But for aces, by definition, most of us don’t experience sexual attraction, so then what is it? When you start looking at it, start to break it down, it’s like how is it not just platonic attraction then? I think one of the really interesting things is that asexuality kind of destabilizes what those two are because we think about these as mutually exclusive categories. It’s either platonic or it’s romantic. I think that once we start thinking that romantic feelings can exist without sexual attraction, then it’s an interesting framework with which to evaluate our relationships.”
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