Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ America is not one of the 12 most sexually satisfied countries (which actually include Switzerland, Spain, Italy, Brazil, Greece, The Netherlands, Mexico, India, Australia, Nigeria, Germany and China):
“Americans are having a lot less sex than our friends overseas. Studies show people in other countries have up to 70 times more sex than we do. Indeed, Americans are only about 48 percent sexually satisfied. So how is sexual satisfaction measured? According to Durex global research, the drivers include: mutual love and respect between partners; freedom from stress; ability to orgasm; freedom from sexual dysfunction; good mental and physical health; and frequency of sex and foreplay. Oh… and having an exciting sex life! A 2014 study revealed that socio-economic status also impacted levels of sexual satisfaction.”
+ One of the realities of living in an apartment building is that your neighbours can hear you having sex. That should be fine but sometimes they are passive aggressive and obnoxious about it:
“You’re obviously a broad-minded person who wants to uphold your right to sexual privacy, so have a direct conversation with your neighbour. Acknowledge the thinness of the wall, and say: “I’ve picked up that it’s not comfortable for you to hear me, especially when I’m having sex, so I wonder if we could figure out some way to give each of us more privacy?”
You might then come up with a warning system to allow time for one party to take a walk, or discuss the use of masking music or earplugs. Directly addressing an issue is usually the best way to handle passive-aggressive behaviour.”
+ At Original Plumbing, Courtney Trouble lists 10 trans and genderqueer porn stars you should get to know.
+ Artist Gisèle Suzor-Morin makes amazing embroidery of lesbian porn.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen reviewed the Stronic Eins.
+ S&M can lead to an “altered state” according to a new study out of Northern Illinois University.
+ At Kinkly, Stella Harris has an intro guide to rope play (also check out ours):
“One of the great things about rope bondage is that the building blocks you learn as a beginner never lose their usefulness. They simply become components of more advanced and complicated bondage. One of the basic building blocks for almost any kind of rope bondage is the single column tie. A column is any part of the body. It’s commonly a wrist or ankle, but it could also be a torso, etc. You can use the single column tie to bind your partner to the four corners of the bed or to bind one part of the body to another; wrist to ankle, for example.”
+ Malinda Lo shares advice for what to do if you’re pretty sure you’re in love with your best friend.
+ The Beautiful Agony Project shows how people orgasm.
+ Maybe everyone should stop talking about sex and love like people are property.
+ In an interview with the Rumpus, Elissa Wald discusses writing erotica and also submission and feminism.
+ At the Hairpin, Lindsay King-Miller answers questions about dealing with people who don’t get that bisexuality is a thing, queer YA, being in relationships, how to stop writing about how cakes are representative of sex in World War I-era posters and pubic hair:
“Assuming that the main way you’ve encountered naked female bodies so far is in Hollywood or porn, I can understand why pubic hair doesn’t yet have a place in your fantasies, but remember that those images are idealized and sanitized and far removed from the actual experience of sexing up another person. In real life, people have body hair and moles and scars and stretch marks and crow’s feet and gray hairs, and they sweat and make weird faces and can’t quite bend that way and stop and giggle and start again, and if you’ve had an active sex life with men you’ve probably already experienced that this is awesome, and the ways in which the interactive experience differs from the consumable image are the exact ways in which it is thrilling and surprising and joyful and fucking hot. In other words, pubic hair on its own might be off-putting, but pubic hair attached to a gorgeous woman who is into you is actually kind of rad.”
feature image by Josh Soskin
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