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+ Porn, and mainstream porn in particular, gets a lot of things wrong. Some of the worst include fake nails (especially in “lesbian” scenes), lack of diversity, penetration with random objects, scissoring, inauthentic gay scenes and more:

“As mentioned above, gay lady porn features predominantly straight women, and is made with a straight male audience in mind. The fact that what we think of as ‘gay porn’ involves no women at all is strange and a bummer. As porn performer and maker Courtney Trouble noted in an email, the mainstream refers to it not as queer but as ‘girl-girl porn.’ The lesbian part is beside the point. Trouble goes on to say, ‘I don’t see the usual hyper-feminine porn tropes as the reason why it looks fake, because hyper-feminine queer women exist everywhere and a lot of them make porn. It’s the obvious lack of experience with a female body, bored kissing, or visual lack of desire that really makes the difference between what I see as ‘fake lesbian porn’ and what I make, which I call ‘queer porn,’ and it’s based on high chemistry and authentic desire.'”

by Tanya Dakin via sheshootstoo

+ People wait as long to kiss as they do to have sex, according to a new survey on dating habits:

“So while about 40% of people want to wait until dates 2 through 5 for their first kiss, around 30% of women and 40% of men want to wait the same amount of time to have sex. What does this mean? Obviously, people are more willing to kiss on the first date than they are to have sex on the first date. The higher prevalence of kissing than sex on first dates shows that in general, sex and kissing are considered two different scripts. On the other hand, I wonder if there’s a sizeable minority of people who wait a date to kiss, but when they do, they’re willing to have sex, too. That is, after all, the ideology reflected in the evangelical prohibition on kissing out of wedlock, right? It’s not just a conservative viewpoint, either. The popularity of ‘hooking up’ as teenagers’ preferred word for a wide spectrum of activities might also be chunking kissing and sex into one set of behaviors. Americans’ script for intimacy might be changing.”

via loneookami

+ A third US-based porn actor has tested HIV-positive and a fourth may soon come forward. In the meantime, the Free Speech Coalition has called for all filming to stop until partners can be tested.

+ Oh Joy Sex Toy reviewed Slipshine, a collection of sexy comics about all kinds of sex, genders and sexualities.

YK Hong via blackqueerandkinky

+ Hysterical Literature, where literature and orgasms are together at last, is lots of fun.

+ What to do if your friends go around calling people “sluts” (with a negative connotation).

+ Porn director Petra Joy talks about the porn revolution.

via curveappeal

+ What body parts you find sexy might be universal, according to a study by neuroscientists from three universities:

“The scientists were also surprised to see that there were ‘remarkable levels of correlation’ between the ratings for all the people who responded, no matter their age, gender, sexual orientation, nationality or race. Men and women listed the 41 body parts they were asked to rate in remarkably similar order. The obvious bits of genitalia were at the top of the rankings, as were lips, ears and inner thighs, followed closely by shoulder blades.”

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