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Cinnamon Maxxine and Golden Curlz in Crash Pad Series episode 206
At Refinery 29, Dani Janae writes about using dating apps as a fat queer Black woman:
“I am a dating app professional. Tinder? On it. OkCupid? Got a profile. Lex? I’ve posted many an ad. But using a lot of dating apps doesn’t always translate to finding a partner. In fact, success on dating apps can vary due to a number of factors. Location, of course — my circles of real-life and online lesbian friends often commiserate about the lack of exciting, available singles in our area. But studies also show that Black women don’t fare as well on dating apps as their white or Latinx counterparts. These studies tend to be limited to heterosexual dating, but, from personal experience, I can say that race definitely factors into how dateable you are perceived to be, even as a lesbian. For me, dating apps are further complicated by another of my identities: I’m fat.”
Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303
The vaccine is hot on Tinder. Will it lead to a summer of casual sex? Tbd! It’s okay if you’re not having sex right now. And if you’re having a hard time with the end of pandemic isolation because you never felt great about the people in your life, it’s time to start living the life you want and being pickier about who you have in it:
“It’s time for you to start befriending people you really like. You want to know jackasses like your ex and also weirdos who talk about what constitutes a good death and freaks who enjoy lamenting the inherent oppressiveness of current social norms. You need to stick your neck out more and find these people. You need to know that, in spite of not having the most victorious social track record, the pickier you are about friends, the more passionate you’ll be about those connections, and the more honest you’ll end up being with the friends in question.”
Cinnamon and Cicatriz in Crash Pad Series episode 169
This weekend’s new moon in Pisces is hot for connections.
Poly dating app #open was suspended from the Google Play store.
Who still buys porn magazines?
Is there secret porn on YouTube?
Here are some sex toys that feel a little like oral.
La Muxer Diosa and Nikki Darling Crash Pad Series episode 269
Sometimes orgasms lead to headaches. Here’s what could be going on with that:
“‘There are two things that could be happening,’ says Katy Munro, a general practitioner at the National Migraine Centre in the U.K. and co-host of the podcast Heads Up. ‘The first thing that can cause a headache during sex could be a primary sex headache. But to call it a primary headache associated with sexual activity, it has to be occurring in somebody who only ever gets headaches with sex and never any other time.’
‘The second thing is, you could get a headache during sex because you also get a migraine, and sometimes you get a migraine with sex and sometimes you get a migraine not with sex,’ she continues. ‘If that’s happening, it’s more of a symptom of the way that a migraine is affecting you, which may be because you’re dehydrated or something else.'”
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Pounding headaches used to happen to me quite frequently after an orgasm. Mercifully that stopped.
Also I hope the poly dating app gets reinstated ! Android poly folx deserve love and connection too.