NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Has 5 Playlists for 5 Ways to Get It On

As someone perpetually preoccupied with finding the exact right song for every moment of my life, I consider background music extremely important for setting erotic moods. However, not all encounters demand the same music; in fact, different circumstances require vastly different playlists. Two a.m. booty calls have very different atmospheres and needs (including muffling activity so your roommates can’t hear) than heart wrenching breakup/make up sex. Romantic candlelight evenings shouldn’t have the same soundtrack as when you’re filthy talking about the new strap on.

In light of these differences, I’ve assembled 5 playlists for your five basic banging needs. Behold.

I. Slow & Sensual

1. O Maria – Beck
2. Girl – The Beatles
3. Gee Baby Ain’t I Good To You – Billie Holiday
4. No One Does It Like You – Department of Eagles
5. Crimson & Clover – Joan Jett and The Blackhearts
6. Who Knows – Marion Black
7. Boom Boom Ba – Metisse
8. Don’t Try To Fool Me – Miss Li
9. Rewind – Paolo Nutini
10. So Sweet – Johnathan Rice

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II. Booty Call

1. Molly’s Chambers – Kings Of Leon
2. Crown of Age – The Ettes
3. Dominos– The Big Pink
4. The Queen and I– Gym Class Heroes
5. I Like Girls – DJ Tomekk ft. Coolio
6. Black Betty – Ram Jam
7. Boys Wanna Be Her – Peaches
8. I’m not cool – Sohodolls
9. Short Skirt, Long Jacket – Cake
10. Instant Pleasure – Rufus Wainwright

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III. Dirty/Kinky


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1. Take A Walk On The Wild Side – Lou Reed
2. Free Your Mind – En Vogue
3. Dishwasher – Fujiya & Miyagi
4. Kick It – Peaches and Iggy Pop
5. I Like You So Much Better When You’re Naked – Ida Maria
6. Venus in Furs – The Velvet Underground
7. I Just Want To Make Love To You – Foghat
8. Do You Wanna Touch Me – Joan Jett & The Blackhearts
9. One Week Of Danger – The Virgins
10. Gimme Danger – Iggy Pop & The Stooges

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IV. Romantic

1. You Go To My Head – Billie Holiday
2. I Will Follow You Into The Dark – Death Cab For Cutie
3. Last Request – Paolo Nutini
4. You Pick Me Up – Farmer Dave Scher
5. 40 Day Dream – Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros
6. Lovefool – The Cardigans
7. Lay Lady Lay – Bob Dylan
8. Whatever You Like – Anya Marina
9. Boom – Anjulie
10. Dreams Come True Girl – Cass McCombs

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V. Break Up & Make Up

1. Pale Blue Eyes – The Velvet Underground
2. A Million Ways – Ok Go
3. Bang Bang – Nancy Sinatra
4. Violet – Hole
5. Littlest Things – Lily Allen
6. Made – Greg Weeks
7. Do What You Gotta Do – Roberta Flack
8. Trouble Sleeping – The Perishers
9. You Were The Last High – The Dandy Warhols
10. You Got Me All Wrong – Dios Malos

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114 Comments

  1. Honestly, I don’t think I would listen to any of these playlists for their aforementioned “moods”. They’re just a bit too cheesy. If you want something really dirty and kinky, try fucking to Drowning Pool’s Let the Bodies Hit the Floor, or a selection of Nine Inch Nails.

  2. One time during sex, “little bunny foo foo” by the moldy peaches came on. Things got awkward.

    • in all seriousness, I wish someone would seduce me to the tune of “lover you should have come over” by jeff buckley and it would be the saddest, most sensual sex ever

      • “lover…” has been my go-to “song with which i will drive myself crazy (in the pants)” for ten or so years. i wrote a paper on it, basically so i could justifiably listen to it on repeat late at night.

    • Yeah… One time I was having sex that would probably fall under the “dirty/kinky” heading, and We Can Do It from The Producers accidentally came on. She literally fell off the bed (and me) laughing.

      • “Downloading Porn With Davo” probably wouldn’t end well either. “Jorge Regula” would be pretty sweet, tho.

  3. Nice sprinkling of Joan Jett and Velvet Underground, two of my favorites. Lou Reed and Joan Jett Rock.

  4. Pretty sure the girl with the Skeletor tattoo is getting down to the He-Man opening theme. “I HAVE THE POWERRRRR!”

    Anyway – I find that a really good bass line is super sexy & perfect for the “Slow & Sensual” category. Like the cover of Sade’s “Ordinary Love” by The Deftones. So so sexy. OR Subsonica’s “Alibi”( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G3ggKihQtt4 ). It’s in Italian; sometimes the words just do not matter.

    There’s also Lovage’s album “Music To Make Love to Your Old Lady To” (feat. Mike Patton, Jennifer Charles, etc.)

    Music during sex can be tricky though. One time this girl knew the some of the songs & lip synched the words every chance she got…so…yeah.

  5. Yeah, I did enjoy the pics along with the playlists. Went well with my morning cup of coffee……..

  6. “Paradise Circus (Gui Boratto Remix)” by Massive Attack is probably the sexiest song on earth.

  7. Portishead – the whole Dummy album. File that under Slow and Sensual.

    And probably some Garbage. Hey, “#1 Crush”.

    Dirty/Kinky: “Master and Servant”, “Stripped” and “Strangelove” by Depeche Mode.

    Romantic: “May This Be Love” by Jimi Hendrix, “Thank You” by Led Zeppelin.

  8. Songs to have hot hot sex to:

    Chase and Status – Eastern Jam
    Bonobo ft Fink – If You Stayed Over
    The xx – Crystalised
    Jakwob – Starry Eyes (Ellie Goulding)
    We Are Scientists – Nobody Moves, Nobody Gets Hurt

    Songs to have lovely sex to:

    Explosions in the Sky – Magic Hours
    Feist – Honey, Honey
    This Will Destroy You – Quiet
    Radiohead – Nude
    Counting Crows – Colorblind

  9. Sensual
    “Roads” by Portishead
    “Teardrop” by Massive Attack
    “Come on Closer” by Jem
    “Silky” by Honeycut (the sexiest song ever)
    “Worrisome Heart” by Melody Gardot

    Romantic
    “She Don’t Like Roses” by Christine Kane
    “Paradise” – Ana Laan (more playful but still lovely)

  10. I made a playlist (http://tinypic.com/r/2gtwweg/7) and used it during sex, but I gotta say, music is just not for me during sex. It’s more of a distraction than anything. I’d rather focus on the sexy in front of me than the lyrical thoughts in my head.

    • I think volume control = key. Having background music is nice, but I also want to hear the sexy in front of me. And also that’s why instrumentals and/or foreign music can be the way.

    • After saving the “Could You Believe” music video to my youtube playlist played it on a loop last night and woke up this morning with song in my head. Its a bit intoxicating. Love it and the video really captures the playfulness of foreplay.

      Found another from ATB along the same “girls having fun” theme: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y82fuqsbDS4

      Would love to hear if you have found others like this from ATB or similar trance / dance genre.

      • Hmm, the first two songs that came to mind are:

        “Ecstasy” – ATB
        “Raise Your Weapon” – deadmau5 (it gets superrrr dubstep-py around 4:07)

        The videos aren’t really the same “girls having fun” theme, but the songs themselves could be mood-setters for sure.

        • thanks for the suggestions…like them both especially Ecstasy. Learning that I really like everything I hear from ATB…

  11. Playing super explicit hip-hop during sexytimes can be extra funny. I’d recommend:

    1.) Juvenile, “Back That Azz Up”
    2.) R. Kelly, “Echo”
    3.) Gucci Mane, “Making Love to the Money”
    4.) Pleasure P, “Boyfriend Number 2”
    5.) Big Punisher, “Still Not A Player”

  12. I think the entirety of Garbage’s Version 2.0 is a sexy sex album. These are fab suggestions tho.

    Also I once made a girl the most pathetically romantic mix CD (only topped by the second, even more pathetically romantic mix CD) but I feel like it would’ve been good sexy music. Maybe.

  13. the song I had the best sex to, was Tony The Beat by The Sounds. That song just got us going. I highly recommend it :)

  14. If you want kinky/sexy then give a listen to “she wants revenge”. It makes for a great pandora station. Sensual I’d go with minus the bear along with the song ” everybody here wants you” by Jeff Buckley. Break up make up definitely City and colour.

  15. Massive Attack “Angel”
    Nina Simone “In the Dark” …actually, a lot of her songs
    Corinne Bailey Rae

    • Nina Simone’s “Wild Is The Wind” = <3 Never had sex whilst it was on, but it's definitely helped lead the way.

  16. Chloe, thanks for the fun post, playlists, pics and links to songs. Fun to preview the songs I haven’t heard before – some great ones I have now added to my Ipod, including some from the comments.

    lh

  17. well the only time ive had sex while listening to music the girl insisted it be Chevelle ( on a IPod with earphones not speakers) and now any time i hear anything by chevelle i get totaly turned on and start giggling so that and “down on me” by 50 and jeremiah are songs that pop up when turned on

  18. When I was in my teens, I used to like to listen to music during sex to distract myself from how much I really, really didn’t want my boyfriend to be touching me, and ever since I’ve found it too distracting to have music on during.

    But before? Excellent mood setter!

    Some songs I like:

    “Hey Pretty” – Poe
    “Shy” – Ani DiFranco
    “Like It” – The Bandits
    “The Card Game” – Battlestar Galactica Season One soundtrack
    “Enjoy” – Bjork
    “I Will Find You” – Clannad
    “The First Taste” – Fiona Apple
    “#1 Crush” – Garbage (it’s been said, but it bears repeating!)
    “The Trick is to Keep Breathing” – Garbage
    “Constant Craving” – kd lang
    “Chocolate” – Kylie Minogue (yeah, I don’t even….)
    “Say It Right” – Nelly Furtado
    “Oh My God” – Pink
    “I Feel You” – Placebo
    “I’ll Be Yours” – Placebo
    “Wild” – Poe
    “Glory Box” – Portishead
    “New Zero” – Rasputina
    “Blood Sugar Sex Magic” – Red Hot Chili Peppers
    “La Tortura” – Shakira
    “Hot One” – Shudder to Think
    “Hymn to Herne” – SJ Tucker
    “We Are Shangri-la” – SJ Tucker
    “Come On” – Tegan & Sara
    “Explode” – Uh Huh Her

    Also, “Slow Angel”, a mashup of Massive Attack’s “Angel” and Kylie Minogue’s “Slow,” is one of the sexiest things I’ve ever heard.

  19. Music choice: very important. It’s too dangerous to just hit random. “I Kissed a Girl” came on once and I couldn’t stop laughing.

    I’d add “Strange & Beautiful” to the list and “In My Veins,” “Open Your Eyes” and “All Those Pretty Lights” by Andrew Belle.

  20. A very girly pop mix that feeds that side of me and partners whose music trends towards very light pop:

    Note: check out the music video for Oh! if you want to see some absolutely gorgeous girls. Embarrassingly poppy but I love it….. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TGbwL8kSpEk
    (love the pink boots)

    Hot – Avril Lavigne
    Genie in a Bottle – Christina Aguilera
    Oh! Girls Generation (SNSD)
    Run Devil Run – Girls Generation (SNSD)
    Lucky Star – Madonna
    Like a Virgin – Madonna
    Crimson & Clover – Joan Jett
    Androgynous – Joan Jett
    Femme Fatale – Velvet Underground
    Walk on the Wild Side – Lou Reed
    There She Goes Again – Velvet Underground
    Not Going To Get Us – T.A.T.U
    Malchik – T.A.T.U
    Never – Heart
    What About Love – Heart
    Teenage Dream – Katy Perry
    California Gurls – Katy Perry
    Firework – Katy Perry
    Locomotion – Kylie Minogue
    I Should Be So Luck – Kylie Minogue
    The Little Things – Colbie Caillat

      • fistbump back…Yeah, these are definitely guilty pleasures of mine as well. Especially, SNSD, just kind of light and fun….

  21. the first time i was ever seduced by a girl, it was to james blunt.

    … she put ‘beautiful’ on repeat.

    I KNOW. i remember feeling, even in that moment, kind of embarrassed that that’s what was playing, but she was older and cooler and had these really soft lips so i wasn’t going to say anything.
    i’ve resigned myself to the cheesiest, made-for-tv soundtrack-y first-time experience.

    sigh… she was really pretty, though…

  22. Of Montreal can be great. But only if you filter the playlist, first. Otherwise it can be awful. And awkward.

    • Yes, I am not really a music-listener during sex — feels a little awkward/silly to me usually, and I tend to give music my full attention when it’s playing, so, not a great idea — but I think that most of “Skeletal Lamping” is terrifically sexy stuff.

  23. Actually lost my virginity with ‘Like a Virgin’ playing in the background – we’d just found out we both liked Madonna

  24. Agree that music can be distracting and prefer sexy sounds from my partner. . . but Joan Jett is good anytime and just listening to her gets me in the mood

  25. i love that metisse made this list – boom boom ba is ridiculously sexy, and not too weird as to be distracting.

    im going to have to go with anything by bon iver, the xx or freelance whales when you want it slow.

  26. I am going to listen to all of thse. But for my quicklist.

    Slow Sensual:
    Marques Houston -Naked, Syleena Johnson- Slowly, Mariah Carey- Bliss

    Booty Call:
    Dirty Boys- Candy Man, Lil Jon Eastside Boys- One Night Stand, LSG- My Body, Lil Jon Eastside Boys- Oh Na Na

    Dirty Kinky:
    Janet Jackson- Would You Mind

    Romantic:
    Silk- Let’s Make Love

    Breakup/Makeup:
    O’Jays- We Cry Together

    And pretty much anything by R. Kelly.

  27. Slow and Sensual:
    Damien Rice – “The Blower’s Daughter”

    Booty Call:
    Bright Eyes – “Lover I Don’t Have To Love”

    Dirty/Kinky:
    Amanda Blank – “Might Like You Better”

    Romantic:
    Jem – “Flying High”

    Breakup & Makeup:
    Holly Miranda – “Joints”

  28. Uh…where is my boy Trey Songz. Neighbors know my name…just saying.

    I mean, there are many songs that lead to some goooooood love making ^_^

  29. anything by Puscifer (tho Rev 22:20 is the sexiest, IMHO) , and anything by Massive Attack..

    Here’s my ultime fuckingplaylist, but I don’t know how to label it ;D begins kinda slow and builds up to complete porny mayhem? oh, and lots (and lots and lots) of dubstep.

    Moloko – Time Is Now (Munkey Dubstep Remix)
    Nine Inch Nails – The Perfect Drug (Green Dream Mix)
    Depeche Mode – Corrupt
    Portishead – Only You (HolyCrab Dubstep Remix)
    Garbage – 1# crush (goth remix)
    Deftones – Change in the House of Flies (CLAW Dubstep Remix)
    Marilyn Manson – Sweet Dreams (Nightmare Remix)
    Timbaland – Bounce (wazza Dubstep Remix)
    The Glitch Mob – Seven Nation Army Remix
    Garbage – Bad Boyfriend – Remix
    Crookers ft. Roisin Murphy – Hold Up Your Hands (Subskrypt Remix)
    Crookers ft. Roisin Murphy – Royal T
    Dodge & Fuski ft. The Highbury Whores – Pornstep
    Princess Superstar – Lollipop (Crookers Remix)

  30. Annie Lennox’s “Wonderful”. Yes I know that the lyrics are all about kinda definitely about loving someone who probs doesn’t love you back, but the song is so exploding with fun that I just want to make out with someone on the couch every time I hear it.

  31. and for ~lovemaking~ rather than fucking there are no more beautiful songs than these..

    Tom Waits – Fawn
    Sigur Ros – Sæglópur
    Pilote – Turtle (Bonobo Remix)
    Lamb – Angelica
    Lung – Jejune
    Bonobo – Dismantling Frank
    Lung – Afterlife dubstep
    Art of Noise – Moments in love
    Mogwai – 2 rights make 1 wrong
    Coldplay – Life in Technicolor
    Lamb – Gorecki
    Hammock – Verse for forgiveness (instrumental)

  32. The playlist (awww shit)

    Late-Night: guaranteed ass getter

    slowly- Joystick
    imagination-jill scott
    love you down- me’shell ndegeocello
    anatomy one on one- mya
    don’t look back-telepopmusik
    submerge-maxwell
    break you off-the roots
    endlessly-clara hill ft. sandboy
    songe-zap mama
    love song #2- me’shell ndegeocello
    would you mind-janet jackson
    make me say it again girl- the isley brothers
    be my vixen-miguel jontel
    jupiter love-trey songz
    want U for myself-theophilus london
    crown royal-jill scott
    another rainy day- corinne bailey rae
    so beautiful-musiq soulchild

    go forth and get some to some…
    ^_^

    • You know, I went down the list and I was like, but what if I’m not into rock, or she isn’t (she isn’t) so thanks Luna

  33. Anytime-Janet Jackson
    Say Yes-Floetry
    Nobody-Keith Sweat
    Promise-Ciara
    Let me Lick you Up and Down-Silk

  34. Pan—-totally agree with massive attack. They’re all sorts of trippy sexy. Along those same lines I’d say porcupine tree is fun to do it to as well.

    Innerpartysystem would probably be the best band No ones ever heard of..such an underrated band. Give them a listen. You won’t regret it. They’re that band to listen to during fun kinky, somewhat intoxicated sex.

  35. I’m going to lose my feminist lesbian card to this but whatever

    Kinky
    “Crazy Bitch” – Buckcherry
    “I wanna be your dog” – Joan Jett version

    Seductive
    “Kidda” by Natacha Atlas
    “Desert Rose” by Sting
    “Lady in the Lake” – Elysian Fields

    Breakup and makeup
    “Blue Lights” – Fictional
    “I need a woman” – Stach and Sarah Bettens

    Does anyone know who DJ Sextoy of Paris was? She died about 10 years ago but she had this song called “Ira” (after her then-gf) which was SO fucking hot. I would love love love to find it again.

    More to come…

  36. my slow, dirty, kinky, sensual, fuck playlist…. in no particular order

    Lebanese Blonde-Thievery Corporation
    In The Waiting Line- Zero
    Don’t Panic- Coldplay
    Let Go- Frou Frou
    Mysterons- Portishead
    Glory Box- Portishead
    Strangers- Portishead
    Wandering Star- Portishead
    Sour Times- Portishead
    Numb- Portishead
    Roads- Portishead
    Pedestal- Portishead
    Biscuit- Portishead
    #1 Crush- Garbage
    No Ordinary Love- Sade
    Silence- Delerium Feat. Sarah McLachlan
    Damaged-Plumb

  37. I always go with the more bass-heavy lo-tech stuff, i.e:

    Tea Leaf Dancers (low limit remix), Gumdrop, Roberta Flack- Flying Lotus
    I Need Air- Magnetic Man
    Moth- Burial & Four Tet
    At the End of the Day, Deo- Amon Tobin
    Post Suite- Floating Points Ensemble (not really electronic, actually)

    and of course some Massive Attack, Skream, and Portishead

  38. Fucking killer post.

    throwing in my 2 cents:
    Slow+Sensual: “Idioteque” by Radiohead
    Booty Call: “On a Friday” by Blaqk Audio
    Dirty/Kinky: “Lolita” by Elefant
    Romantic: “Bizzare Love Triangle” by New Order
    Break Up+Make Up: “Make You Smile” by (+44)

  39. I love all of you. I’ve been trying out making a digital radio show called Creative Sexytimes and I’ve been looking for ideas for songs for a while now. This is great.
    It’d be better if the songs were indie and Australian (it’s for a community radio station so we don’t play mainstream/Top 40) but anything goes really :D

    The first time I had sex with a woman it was to a mix of Moloko tracks. She’s pretty into the sex-soundtrack thing, so am I (hurrah creative types) but I forgot there was one Moloko track that I really didn’t like. Good thing it didn’t pop up till the end! (The sex was uber hot and confirmed to me that lesbian sex was the way to go.)

  40. No R. Kelly bump and grind or body is calling? Either work well for booty call and slow and sensual. I would also put Sleater Kinney let’s call it love, works well for all scenarios cause its about female orgasms.

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