Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ People don’t really use the word “vagina” in sexting because everyone’s been taught it isn’t a sexy word, so everyone use “vagina” in sexting from now on.
+ 1920s fetish wear looks a lot like contemporary fetish wear.
+ “Cunnilingue” and “cunty” have been added to the Oxford English Dictionary.
+ Lindsay King-Miller answers questions about coming out, when you feel bizarrely threatened by your person’s platonic friendships, moving on when your ex isn’t ready to yet and dating your best friend when it turns out she really wants to date you and you don’t really want to date her:
“And you do have to break up with her, as I think you’ve already figured out. You don’t feel the same way about her that she does about you—you don’t see her as a sexual or romantic prospect. She isn’t in your girlfriend zone, so you need to come clean to her (and definitely stay away from her… uh… girlfriend zone). I know you don’t want to hurt her, but lying to her about how you really feel and staying in a relationship based on wildly unequal affection is going to hurt her so much more in the long run. Even if you put on a good show, she’ll always suspect that something is off, and that suspicion will wreak havoc on her self-esteem and emotional stability until whenever you finally have mercy and end things.”
via crashpad
+ People on television in America are now going to have sex in an opaque sound-proof box on stage and then talk about it, just like people on television in Britain.
+ Elissa Bassist presents some possible contemporary dating apps.
via fylatinchicks
+ Love does cool stuff to your brain and body, including lessening pain responses, protecting against addiction, strengthening your immune response and more.
+ In the New York Times, Stoya writes about porn and privacy.
+ Lick This is an app that allegedly helps you get better at cunnilingus by making you lick your smartphone screen:
“For those who fetishise the “natural”, Lick This might seem an uncomfortable technological development. After all, if kids are now learning about sex from porn and cunnilingus techniques from Siri, what happens to the reality of the body and the intimacy of sexual discovery?
However, as feminist writer Donna Haraway [5] has pointed out, humans are already cyborgs.
We attach technologies, like spectacles or shoes, to our “natural” bodies, and they become essential parts of how we navigate the world. Our iPhones guide us through urban jungles, they help us hunt and gather our food, they even choose mates for us: there’s no reason they shouldn’t train us as lovers too.”
via devout fashion
+ If you and your activity partner(s) have the same answers to these three questions you have a greater chance of success according to science from OKCupid:
“Three questions tested above all others in determining if you and someone else have long-term potential are: “Do you like horror movies?” “Have you ever traveled around another country alone?” and “Wouldn’t it be fun to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat?” If you find someone that answers all three the same way you do, the two of you might just belong together.”
via dreamshots
+ In light of the CRTC reprimanding Canadian soft-core channels for not showing enough Canadian porn, the Toast proposes solutions:
“Just normal sex between two or three Canadians, but kd lang sits on a chesterfield in the background and sings all of the tracks from “Hymns of the 49th Parallel.” […]
Two ladies in blazers arrive at the Global Strategic Maple Syrup Reserve to solve our nation’s greatest crime, but the real crime turns out to be how they’ve stolen each other’s hearts. It gets…pretty messy.”
+ People with vaginas can have at least two types of orgasms, and while both involve the clit, they involve different parts of it, according to a study from Discover that concludes:
“Despite a common assumption that there is only one type of female orgasm, we may infer, on the basis of our findings, that the different reported perceptions from these two types of stimulation can be explained by the different parts of the clitoris (external and internal) and CUV complex that are involved. Buisson O and Jannini EA. Pilot echographic study of the differences in clitoral involvement following clitoral or vaginal sexual stimulation.”
illustration via xdyke. illustration by Jebriodo (Jed Dougherty) on Deviant Art.
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I like how the L word has formed such resistant schemas in my head. Like, the first thing I thought when reading about dating your best friend when you don’t want to and she does is, “Jenny and Shane!”
The first thing I thought of when I read about the “Lick This” app was “OMG but what about all those germs on your phone?!” …. I can’t be turning into my mother already- I’m too young! Somebody save me!
Also, whoever dares to try this in public (say in the mall or on a subway) will become my new best friend. That is all.
I dunno I guess I’m not feeling very sexy today. I went to the new words list and this one made my day, though:
•toilet-paper, v.
Thank you, ever-evolving language, for keeping up with our needs.
Crashpad is great, I have some really good friends who do work for them! Give them money! Get queer porn! Win-win!
Ooo i want to read about the two different types of orgasm for vagina-&-clit-havers, because that sounds interesting & kind of makes sense when you stop to think about it. I’m also going to read that “10 Reasons We Love Love” list &, uh, cry in my corner or something
don’t look at me like that(“On a neurobiological level, love makes us feel safe.”stop i’m not crying don’t look at me gnauuggghhhhhdammit)…but the real crime turns out to be how they’ve stolen each other’s hearts. It gets…pretty messy.
o m g im done i cANT
Noooooooo…
I’m probably too late, but please do NOT read the one about 2 different orgasms. It is really sketchy science and just plain gross and I can’t get a certain image out of my head now.
THE SKETCHIEST SCIENCE. a wet tampon??? really???
Noooooooooo Stephaniiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeee i looked at it & you’re riiiiiiiiight it doesn’t even make sense A WET TAMPON???? THREE PEOPLE????? A WET??? TAM???? PON???????????
AND THE COMMENTS WEREN’T MUCH BETTER SDFGHJKLKJHGFDX “a sex toy is no replacement for the real thing” get oUT
this is me koala clinging to u bc wat why
Koala cling to me all you want, I tried to protect you from the horrors…
I told my friends over the weekend that I’m gay, and it was the most scariest thing ever. I’m thankful for no longer having to agree how much I like some random guy, when I really didn’t. And, I totally understand the lying by omission thing. But I thought it would make me feel better about myself, and right now I don’t.
I think it’s pretty common to feel that way. I haven’t told many friends but I told my mom a few months ago and I still don’t feel any better about myself. But I think I still have a lot of internalized homophobia, too, which I’m trying to work on.
At least for my body – it turns out us AMAB girls who have penises can too. It does require a very good awareness of your body though… i’ve not had anyone else manage to do it to me yet, but I’m trying.
If that’s you and you’re curious, feel around very softly – I mean feather touch soft, with your little finger, starting from the top right – that’s to your right and towards your body.. note that sensation. Now you’re looking for a point that’s a very different sensation. If you get that, you’ve found it. Be patient because it’s difficult to find, where most go wrong is they don’t realize how small the distance between the different nerve clusters really is. Finally, don’t try to hard – when it comes to sexuality nothing ever goes well if you try too hard ;)
Good luck & have fun!