Welcome to NSFW Sunday! Did you celebrate International Fisting Day on Friday?
+ Babeland’s Vintage Vibrator Museum will teach you all about old-fashioned vibrators and the “diseases” they were used to cure, just in case you missed our lesbosexy history lesson.
+ Creative Loafing has a new interview with Hanne Blank, the author of Big Big Love: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (and Those who Love Them):
“I do think there’s often a big difference between what we pay lip service to and what we get off on. […] Human beings have the capability of being attracted to a huge variety of things, and not all of the things that we are attracted to are things that are considered high-status. […]
There are quite a lot of people out there who are attracted to big partners but don’t let themselves date the people to whom they’re attracted, simply because they’re afraid of how other people will react to it. […]
As a fat person myself, I have to say that one of the benefits for me — and this is something I have heard echoed from a lot of people I’ve talked to about this —is that I don’t have to be in a constant state of panic about what a partner might think or do if my body seemed somehow less than perfect. My body has never been anything remotely like what the culture I live in considers ‘perfect’ or ‘sexy’ in a mainstream way and my partners know that. (If that were what they wanted then they probably wouldn’t have chosen to be with me. They’re with me in part because my body happens to be what they like.) So that hyper vigilance about whether my body matches up to some arbitrary standard of ‘sexy’ is just not there, and that frees me up to invest that energy in things that I think are more sexually interesting anyway, like responsiveness, creativity, and enthusiasm.
Another thing that’s awfully nice about big lovers is that they’re substantial. I’m far from the only person who likes feeling like I have someone solid and strong to hold onto, and to have them hold on to me is lovely and enveloping. Warm, soft, solid, substantial… what’s not to like?”
+ Women ages 18-25 are far more likely to use porn than women in other age groups, according to the preliminary results of a report by pornresearch.org:
“Younger women, although their number is still smaller than men, show more interest in porn than older women. What we can’t tell, from this snapshot, is whether this is simply a ‘passing phase’ for them, or whether it signals that wider generational shift we think we have identified – something which over time will reduce the overall differences between male and female interest in pornography.”
+ There are five easy ways to be good at sex.
+ 52% of women over age 60 report having frequent, “good quality” sex. The sexually active life expectancy for women is also age 61, or about 65 if you’re healthy.
+ The Hairpin has suggestions for alternate sexy halloween costumes. Sexy Postal Worker! Sexy Underemployed Contract Worker! Sexy Virginia Woolf! Sexy Inexplicable Melancholy!
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The first thing I read was “Lip Service,” so immediately thought someone had finally said when season 2 comes out.
i can safely say i have never used a porn woman. please, elaborate.
For a second I considered leaving it like that…
‘sexy inexplicable melancholy’ is literally my life right now
but at least it’s sexy.
sexy anhedonia > unsexy anhedonia?
Intuitively, it seems true, but I’m too burnt out on real analysis to attempt a rigorous proof right now.
Preach.
Oh damn, tattoos. -Drools-
this was sexy.
that back, dude. ddddddude.
Unffffffff. All of the tattoos. All of the lace.
Oh my god, sexy Virginia Woolf would be perfect! I just read A Room of One’s Own for my feminism class, and she was bisexual!
“The sexually active life expectancy for women is also age 61, or about 65 if you’re healthy.”
what? does this mean you can only have sex until you’re 61?
I think it means if you engage in mating activities after that stage in the life cycle, your wings fall off and you die for the winter.
Five easy ways to have good sex. Yes to all of those! And as a fat girl myself, I appreciate any and all “lip service” to the topic
I really need to post the 5 easy ways to have good sex next to my bed as a tutorial to potential paramours. I’m amazed at how many people just don’t get it.