INTERNET: I know this will come as a big surprise to all of you reading this, but lesbians love the internet. A recent poll conducted by a Stanford professor of sociology and published in the USA Today found that of couples surveyed who had met in the last two years, 23% of heterosexuals and 61% of gay & lesbian couples reported meeting online. Regardless of when they met, at least 32% of respondents said friends brought them together. The workplace is decreasing in popularity as a place to meet your match (if only everyone worked in a restaurant, where “sex thrives in the close quarters and steamy atmosphere...with the high-drama personalities who work there.”)
Most studies about gay & lesbian internet use have always indicated that GLBTs are heavier internet and social networking users than their heterosexual counterparts; a 2008 Harris Interactive poll found that approximately 75% of LGBTs are heavy internet users compared to 59% of heterosexual users.
It’s cute that the USA Today, which has never been lauded for its liberal leanings (it stays almost relentlessly neutral on everything, which is refreshing at times I suppose, as are the infographics, large color photos, and McDonald’s checkout lane placement) included lesbian couples in their “how we met” gallery.
MEGHAN: Meghan McCain on the Tea Party and Sarah Palin’s hypocrisy. Okay she’s winning me over. (@huffington post)
CUTIES: Speaking of couples that defo did not meet on the internet; Phyllis Lyon, lesbian rights activist who married her partner of 55 years, Del Martin, in San Francisco in 2004 and again in 2008 (they were the first to be married after same-sex marriage was legalized) in San Francisco, is interviewed in the San Francisco Gate. Martin died a few months later (thankfully same-sex marriage was able to protect them just in time — “when Del died, there was no question about her insurance and inheritance. It all came to me, so that’s important.”) It might be the cutest interview of all time. Actually my eyes watered a few times, not gonna lie.
Q: What was different about getting married the second time?
A: We wore the same suits, but we had to get the pants shortened. We’d shrunk!
NIGHTLIFE IN NYC: Remember the Roxy from the 80s filled with hundreds of gay men and women dancing to Madonna til the wee hours of the morning? Well, a massive project is being proposed for W. 42nd Street that, should it come to fruition, would be the largest and most elaborate gay entertainment complex in the city.
Officially described as “The Out NYC: a hospitality and entertainment destination geared to the gay community,” the project, due to be completed by early next year, is informally dubbed “a hetero-friendly urban resort” by its developers. In addition to 123 guest rooms and a 10,000-square-foot dance club capable of serving 750 patrons, the project will also include a gym, spa, restaurant, and 24/7 café, making it the most ambitious commercial development ever to court New York’s gay community.
Although the word “LGBT” is tossed around in the article a lot, there is otherwise no indication that women are a part of the plan:
With only three Manhattan gay nightclubs — Splash, the Monster, and Escuelita — licensed for dancing, and a total capacity of less than 2,300 patrons combined, Blair, Sutter, and the Parkview team clearly see a ripe opportunity to fill the void in nightlife options, particularly for Hell’s Kitchen’s swelling gay population.
THAT’S FINE WE HAVE CANDLES AND BATHTUBS PARTY ON. (@gaycitynews)
VALENTINES DAY: But speaking of Gay Nightlife… what are you doing on Valentine’s Day? We’re going to this party!
A portion of proceeds benefit Susan G Komen for the Cure. Open vodka bar is from 7pm to 9pm at Maritime Hotel Cabanas on 17th street and 9th avenue. Party goes ’til 3AM for those of you that REALLY like other people a LOT! There will be percussion by Crystal Vargas, and other entertainment from Sugar Shack Burlesque, Hard Body and Long Island Roller Rebels, as well as “candy/chocolate,” “sexy giveaways” and more!
OPRAH: Last month we wrote about the transgender high school quarterback now turned lesbian filmmaker. Today (Thursday), Oprah will be interviewing Kimberly Reed on her talk show. Stay tuned tomorrow for the full interview. (@oprah)
NYC PRIDE PARADE: Autostraddle BFF Lt. Dan Choi has been named the Grand Marshall of the New York City Gay Pride Parade, taking place June 27.
PREGNANT MAN: Thomas Beatie is now expecting his third child! So far Max has no comment.(@momlogic)
GAY STUDENT SUPPORT PROGRAM: Despite facing a projected $113 million two-year deficit, San Francisco’s school board has unanimously agreed to fund a $120,000 support program for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning” youth issues. (@sfgate)
FASHION: The Council of Fashion Designers of America’s Health Initiative held a talk moderated by Dr. David Herzog on the health of models and tiny sample sizes. Jezebel’s Jenna was there. Topics discussed include young Russian models, Vicodin and Adderall abuse, and the “complexity” of “eating problems.” (@jezebel)
BABY GOT BACK: Actual scientific study: Optimal Waist-to-Hip Ratios in Women Activate Neural Reward Centers in Men. (@plosone)
Ooh I really liked this article ladies!! I have to say that online is def the new place to meet. I’m really busy and not really into the whole gay club scene so my only way to look was online! I met my boyfriend online and we have been dating for almost six months (hooray)…! I think you just need to be careful when you do it and separate the one night standers from the ltr-ers.
As Carrie would say…”I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love. And I don’t think that love is here in this expensive suite in this lovely hotel in Paris.”
Alas… I will be openb to any questions… go online dating.
p.s. not naming the site we met on.
if meeting on the internet is what i need to do to get a date, i’m going to be in big trouble. the majority of my time on the internet is spent reading autostraddle and checking my email. fml.
petition for datestraddle?
Datestraddle sounds like a lot more than just a dating site… I like it.
giggity giggity goo!
The lesbian community’s answer to Manhunt?
girls can meet other girls and fall in like/love on autostraddle! or at least make out. srsly. such things have happened, ladies.
“So far Max has no comment.” Hahaha aww poor Max
i have always liked meghan mccain…great girl, very smart, is going to be a MAJOR player in our lifetimes. she’s just getting started.
I admit to loving Meghan too. Some people give me shit for it, but I honestly believe she was raised in a very open household and it really shows. Plus, she is extremely eloquent and seems like a real human.
Have to admit the interview with Phyllis Lyon made me cry. Just a little.
How old do you have to be to get into Unite in Passion?
Omg, yay Dan Choi! I hope I can make it this year, last year was my first Pride.
I love the Phyllis Lyon interview.
Also, in fashion, I don’t know if you guys have heard yet, but Alexander McQueen passed away this morning:
(http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/8511115.stm) :(
I have no issue with transgendered people, but the whole “pregnant man” story bugs me, am I the only lesbian who feels this way? I wasn’t even aware that FTMs could get pregnant because of all the hormone therapy they undergo during their transition, surely exposure to such high levels of testosterone would be harmful to a fetus?
Anyway, the part that I don’t understand is if you’re a transgendered individual who despises your female anatomy so much why you would want to give birth after you’ve made the decision to live as a male.
I don’t think it’s about despising the anatomy so much as not feeling connected to it. And ftm’s who chose to carry a child can do so safely under doctor care if they stop/lessen the hormones they are taking. It’s often quicker/easier/cheaper than adoption or surrogacy, plus then there are the legal/biological ties to the child in case anything should ever happen to a parent.
Thomas had to stop taking hormones for a few months in order to get pregnant. High levels of testosterone do prevent a fetus from forming. I read a lot about it when I was writing about Max last year.
Gender identity is not as simple as “you’re x or y!” There are shades of grey in the middle. Far as I’m concerned, people can ID however the hell they want.
I don’t want to say that being bothered by this means you do have an issue with transgendered people because that wouldn’t be totally fair of me, but what you’ve said feels like when people say they don’t an issue with gay people they just want us to live our gay lives in a certain way so that it doesn’t “bother” them.
The T in LGBT doesn’t fit into a nice little box anymore than the L or the G or the B, and we need to avoid expecting it to from within LGBT as we get enough of that coming from the outside.
I really appreciate Thomas and his wife’s openness about the way they’ve decided to grow their family, as it has brought increased focus and attention to transgender families and gender identity in what I think is a very positive way.
everything about this fix is great. esp. the “open vodka bar” part.
i like the way you think.
The internet dating thing is something I have always been told to try but cant work up the desire to do. I like to hold on to my fantasy of meeting a beautiful girl at a museum or a bookstore where I dazzle her with my breadth and depth of knowledge and she swoons to the point of fainting then I catch her and then we will live happily ever after.
Having time to go to a museum or bookstore is a fantasy I like to hold onto, and have been told to try
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I met my girl at work, which is apparently becoming unpopular :(
I detailed the whole story in my blog, but basically ladies KEEP PICTURES FROM PRIDE ON YOUR DESK
i just read it adorbs! :)
It’s basically the answer to “Does any good ever come from pictures taken at Pride?” lol
well if your dad was with you things can’t have gotten too crazy lol
I met my girlfriend online too. And the last one. Also, my step brother met his boyfriend online. I didn’t know we were so hip! :)
open bar 7-9 be careful riese, don’t peak too soon. jk. sort of.
Do you think its mostly gay men or lesbians that meet online?
online dating is fine but im a romantic…
i mean the only time ive ever been in love, the whole meeting and dating process was straight out of some 1940’s romance film.
i really cant resign my dream of meeting a cute girl at a bus stop or something.
The comment form intimidates me here because I am so not a creative commentor. So I will just say Great Article Jess! And I meet all my best friends online. :)
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