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How Do I Talk To My Family About Harry Potter?

How do you talk to your family about JK Rowling’s transphobia? And what to do about your poly kinky friend…

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Aug 1, 2025

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Should I Cut My Maternity Leave Short To Help My Coworkers?

Your wife thinks your maternity leave plan is “crazy.” Also, how to navigate potential imbalances…

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Jul 25, 2025

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‘My Partner Talks on the Phone With Their Abusive Ex Every Day’

“Am I valid to be unsettled? And is there anything I can do to facilitate…

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Jun 24, 2025

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‘My Girlfriend Thinks My Music Taste Is Trash’

She’ll often play recent music and ask me if I know who it is when…

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Jun 10, 2025

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Capitalism Is a B*tch, but I Can’t Help My Friends Anymore

Should you keep recommending your friends for jobs, when they keep dropping the ball? Also,…

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Apr 25, 2025

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Should I Cut My Maternity Leave Short To Help My Coworkers?

Your wife thinks your maternity leave plan is “crazy.” Also, how to navigate potential imbalances in a slightly open relationship.

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Jul 25, 2025

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‘My Partner Talks on the Phone With Their Abusive Ex Every Day’

“Am I valid to be unsettled? And is there anything I can do to facilitate a conversation with them about this?”

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Jun 24, 2025

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‘My Girlfriend Thinks My Music Taste Is Trash’

She’ll often play recent music and ask me if I know who it is when she knows the answer is no.

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Jun 10, 2025

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How Do I Talk To My Family About Harry Potter?

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Should I Cut My Maternity Leave Short To Help My Coworkers?

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‘My Partner Talks on the Phone With Their Abusive Ex Every Day’

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‘My Girlfriend Thinks My Music Taste Is Trash’

She’ll often play recent music and ask me if I know who it is when she knows the answer is no.

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Jun 10, 2025

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Capitalism Is a B*tch, but I Can’t Help My Friends Anymore

Should you keep recommending your friends for jobs, when they keep dropping the ball? Also, we help a reader whose younger friend isn’t taking their dating advice.

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Apr 25, 2025

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‘I Want To Flee My Relationship’

“Today, I was talking to a dear friend about the current state of my relationship. They told me that it sounds like I am trapped, and that I am being…

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Apr 15, 2025

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"How do I experiment and find what makes my partner feel good if even a light make out session makes him overwhelmed with anxiety about his inexperience?"

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‘How Can I Be a Good Girlfriend When My Partner Is Extremely Anxious About Sex’

“I feel like we intuitively understand each other and our needs in a lot of matters and are willing to figure it out when intuition isn’t enough. One area that…

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Feb 4, 2025

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"I've been trying to find resources/advice for how to support a partner who is starting the process of taking hormones, but am really struggling to find information that isn't transphobic."

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‘I Want To Support My Partner Who Is Starting HRT’

“I know there will be need to be a lot of conversations about what they’re feeling and conversations specific to how I can support them.”

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Dec 24, 2024

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