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Was I A Fool To Think They’d Kiss Me Back?

You made the first move and have felt weird about it ever since. Also — needing tips on dating in your…

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Oct 17, 2025

In a room with white walls, a woman with olive skin, long, brown hair and floral tattoos on her lower arm sits in a white bed with her chin in her hand. To her left, a woman with pale skin and short brown hair who is wearing a grey T-shirt sits with her arms crossed.

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Competitive Queerness Gives Me the Ick

This residual harm, this chip on the shoulder, this something to prove — they’re proving it to the wrong person. They’re gay-tekeeping.

Yashwina —

May 31, 2022

An East Asian woman with shoulder-length black hair and brown hairs stares out a window with her arms wrapped around her chest. Trees are visible through the window.

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You Need Help: I’m Disabled — Will I Ever Find Love?

Disabled and chronically ill people are powerful and sexy and worthy of love, and that means you’re all of those things, too.

Ro White —

May 17, 2022

The image shows the chest and arms of a Black woman wearing a white T-shirt with a graphic of an open cigar box on one side of the chest, a gray watch on one wrist and a simple silver bracelet on the other wrist. She is leaning against another woman, who was wearing a black shirt and jeans. Only one of her hands and her upper legs are visible.

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Your Assumptions About Black, Queer Masculinity Are Erasing My Asexual Identity

As a black, masc, asexual person, I am continually sought out for my assumed hypersexuality. When people don’t get that from me, they automatically assume a flaw, forgetting there are other…

Timinepre Cole —

Apr 7, 2022

Single woman in a swing on the beach at sunset reaches out to the empty swing beside her, seems sad

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You Need Help: I Hate Not Having a Girlfriend

Why do you want a girlfriend? Why do you dislike being single? I’m serious! I want you to ask yourself these questions and come up with as many answers as…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Mar 8, 2022

A black and white image shows two women arguing in a kitchen. The woman on the left has pale skin and long, red hair. She is wearing a tank top and gesturing in front of there face. The woman on the right is a Black woman with dark brown skin and long, blonde braids. She is wearing a white tank top and a cardigan, and one of her hands is against her forehead. The image is surrounded by a black, scalloped border with yellow dots.

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You’re a Combative Communicator? That’s a Red Flag!

I much prefer relationships that meet confusion with curiosity and center attempts for clarity and mutual understanding.

Chinelo Anyadiegwu —

Mar 2, 2022

A black and white image shows a Black woman in a collared shirt with curly, shoulder-length hair whispering to woman with long, dark hair who has her hand over her mouth in surprise and is also wearing a collared shirt. The image is surrounded by a yellow, scalloped border with black dots.

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You Bad-Mouth Every Single One of Your Exes? That’s a Red Flag!

If your partner always portrays themself as the wronged party in the trials and tribulations of past relationships — red flag.

Taneasha —

Feb 24, 2022

Against a yellow background, a woman with brown skin and shoulder-length, wavy brown hair puts her hands over her face. She is wearing a sleeveless black shirt and a black watch.

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How Ghosting Harms Queer Communities, According to a Philosopher

When I’m ghosted and when others like me are ghosted, it takes on an extra sting.

Em Hernandez —

Feb 17, 2022

Two women smile with their arms around each other as they walk outside.

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Relationship “Green Flags” To Look For When Dating

Just like “red flags” can tell you a person might be toxic, overly controlling, or unavailable emotionally, looking for “green flags” can tell you if your partner is, generally, a…

Abbie Jones —

Feb 14, 2022

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Your Assumptions About Black, Queer Masculinity Are Erasing My Asexual Identity

You Need Help: I Hate Not Having a Girlfriend

You’re a Combative Communicator? That’s a Red Flag!

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