Breakups

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37 Quotes From Queer Authors About Heartbreak, Loss and Moving the F*ck On

“Even as I hold you, I am letting you go.”

Riese

Apr 9, 2024

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BREAKUPS

Salons and Divorce Doulas: How Queers Are Fighting the Trauma and Stigma of Divorce

“I’ve been ostracized, people don’t even know my side of the story. And they just…

Carmen Phillips

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Feb 20, 2024

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BREAKUPS

We Asked a Bunch of Queer People To Share Their Go-To Breakup Coping Mechanisms

“Applying to jobs in Antarctica. Not joking.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Jan 5, 2024

breakups

Salons and Divorce Doulas: How Queers Are Fighting the Trauma and Stigma of Divorce

“I’ve been ostracized, people don’t even know my side of the story. And they just stopped talking to me because they’ve talked to my ex.”

Carmen Phillips —

Feb 20, 2024

breakups

We Asked a Bunch of Queer People To Share Their Go-To Breakup Coping Mechanisms

“Applying to jobs in Antarctica. Not joking.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 5, 2024

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You Need Help: I Can’t Get My Exes Out of My Head

We don’t need to be friends with our exes. One more time for emphasis. We don’t need to be friends with our exes.

KaeLyn —

Aug 30, 2022

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You Need Help: I Could Love Them, But They’re Leaving

Sometimes, someone comes along who starts to remind us what we want, what we deserve, just how sweet love can be, without being the person who has space to give…

Darcy —

Aug 2, 2022

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You Need Help: I’m Still in Love With My Ex and Can’t Stop Asking Our Friends About Her

If you want to get over her and not miss her, you have to get out of her orbit for a while.

danijanae —

May 10, 2022

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Did My Partner Leave Me Because of My Bipolar Disorder?

My bipolar disorder may have caused my breakup, but I can’t and don’t want to separate my disability from who I am.

anneaxinn —

Apr 19, 2022

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You Need Help: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

I know I must sound like a broken record: “break up…break up…break up!” But I truly think that you both deserve the kind of relationship where your needs are being…

danijanae —

Mar 29, 2022

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You Need Help: Trusting Yourself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship

The first thing I want to say is that I’m so sorry you had this experience with someone you loved, who you trusted. You deserve to be treated with respect…

danijanae —

Nov 30, 2021

you need help

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You Need Help: I Feel Like a Bad Queer Because I’m Not Good at Being Friends After Breakups

When we’re friends after the breakup, it has felt confusing because everything feels the same to me intimacy and connection-wise, minus the fact that we’re no longer having sex.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 23, 2021

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You Need Help: Is It Really Over?

I had no choice but to accept her decision, but it really hurts, as I feel blind-sided and it’s hard to come to terms with what happened.

himani —

Oct 19, 2021

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Breakups

book lists

37 Quotes From Queer Authors About Heartbreak, Loss and Moving the F*ck On

BREAKUPS

Salons and Divorce Doulas: How Queers Are Fighting the Trauma and Stigma of Divorce

BREAKUPS

We Asked a Bunch of Queer People To Share Their Go-To Breakup Coping Mechanisms

breakups

Salons and Divorce Doulas: How Queers Are Fighting the Trauma and Stigma of Divorce

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We Asked a Bunch of Queer People To Share Their Go-To Breakup Coping Mechanisms

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