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Should I Stick It Out at My Christian College?

You could graduate debt-free, or you could see what else is out there. Also, we help a nonbinary reader feel…

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Jun 20, 2025

Lists/Top 10s

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coming out

15 Creative Ways To Come Out to Your Family, Friends and/or the Entire World

You could come out to your Mom in the car while driving to the outlet mall, but alternately, you could come out to your Mom via interpretive dance.

Riese —

Oct 11, 2023

bisexuality

Carmen, a Black woman with glasses, and Nico, a white brunette genderqueer person also with glasses, are smiling for a camera over a table with two laptops open.

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Bisexuality, Queerness, Labels, Perception: A Conversation Between the EIC and the HBIC

Autostraddle’s Editor-in-Chief and Head Bisexual-in-Charge talk bisexual discrimination on dating apps, biphobic stereotypes in queer relationships, “the patriarchy,” and having tent sex in the woods.

Nico —

Sep 20, 2023

butch

butch and stud appreciation day

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identity

Founder Esther Godoy on the Evolution of Butch Is Not a Dirty Word

“It was only ever supposed to be a silly little stand alone zine.”

Nico —

Aug 18, 2023

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gender

You Need Help: I Feel Disconnected From Gender As a Concept

“Identifying as a woman doesn’t feel right, but affirmatively identifying as ‘not a woman’ also doesn’t feel right.”

Riese —

Aug 15, 2023

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gender

Can You Feel the Kenergy?

There’s a specific kind of trans masc quality to the way that Ken dresses and takes up space if I’m being honest. That’s the siren call, the Kenergy,

Nico —

Aug 3, 2023

non-binary

you need help

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gender

You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Misgendering as a Nonbinary Femme?

Your work is not to make yourself more palatable to those who might misunderstand you. Your work is to be your glorious full self, too complex to be pigeonholed by…

Darcy —

Jul 18, 2023

Autostraddle Reader Data

autostraddle reader survey

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Data Party! Insights into Nonbinary Readers from the 2022 Reader Survey

Autostraddle-exclusive insights into our nonbinary readers!

Nico —

Jul 14, 2023

exercise

international nonbinary people's day

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health

Getting Strong: A Conversation Between Two Nonbinary Humans About Weight Lifting

“When I say getting strong rules, I don’t have any number or definition in mind when I say that. It’s cool for people, as INDIVIDUALS, to feel like they’re strong…

Nico —

Jul 14, 2023

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I Treat My Wife Like a Barbie Doll and She Likes It

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Kristen Arnett discuss the sliding scale of gender expression and how a femme wife is like having an IRL Barbie.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Kayla and Kristen on the beach for their engagement photoshoot

gender

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hair and beauty

With T4T Care and More Effective Results, Bluebird Is Revolutionizing Hair Removal for Trans Women

“We have the feel, we have all these trans women working in this beautiful space, but it’s also technical. We’re not just smoke and mirrors, we’re not just branding. There’s…

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Sep 4, 2024

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Transition Is Allowed To Feel Bad Sometimes

Realistically, I understand that if you do something for 11 months, the chance that you’ll feel good for every second of those 11 months is zero.

Max Gross —

Feb 1, 2024

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for them

Top 10 Things I’m Looking Forward to After Top Surgery

8. Being slutty in tank tops and vests

Motti —

Jan 15, 2024

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for them

You Need Help: As a Transmasc, Am I Welcome in Lesbian Spaces?

You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest,…

Motti —

Jan 9, 2024

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