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You Need Help: Am I Erasing Bisexuality?

There are many people who will try to be strict about the definition of “bisexual” and “lesbian.” At times, I…

Analyssa

Oct 31, 2023

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Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious Queerness This Ace Week

Even while it is a great time to be ace, anti-ace rhetoric continues to circulate…

Ela Przybylo

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Oct 22, 2023

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Bisexuality, Queerness, Labels, Perception: A Conversation Between the EIC and the HBIC

Autostraddle’s Editor-in-Chief and Head Bisexual-in-Charge talk bisexual discrimination on dating apps, biphobic stereotypes in queer…

Nico

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Sep 20, 2023

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Founder Esther Godoy on the Evolution of Butch Is Not a Dirty Word

“It was only ever supposed to be a silly little stand alone zine.”

Nico

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Aug 18, 2023

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Data Party! Insights into Nonbinary Readers from the 2022 Reader Survey

Autostraddle-exclusive insights into our nonbinary readers!

Nico

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Jul 14, 2023

identity

Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious Queerness This Ace Week

Even while it is a great time to be ace, anti-ace rhetoric continues to circulate in queer communities.

Ela Przybylo —

Oct 22, 2023

identity

Bisexuality, Queerness, Labels, Perception: A Conversation Between the EIC and the HBIC

Autostraddle’s Editor-in-Chief and Head Bisexual-in-Charge talk bisexual discrimination on dating apps, biphobic stereotypes in queer relationships, “the patriarchy,” and having tent sex in the woods.

Nico —

Sep 20, 2023

identity

Founder Esther Godoy on the Evolution of Butch Is Not a Dirty Word

“It was only ever supposed to be a silly little stand alone zine.”

Nico —

Aug 18, 2023

personal essay

coming out

Relearning How To Dress Myself From The Closet I Came Out Of

I feel the need to do something to the outside of my body to mark the tremendous shift I’ve experienced inside — to somehow match my inner self to my…

Katrina —

Apr 5, 2018

high school

LGBT youth

gender

You Need Help: Coming Out as Non-Binary in High School

“It’s common to want to tell everyone about your newfound realization about your identity, so that you can feel like you’re living authentically and with integrity. But you get to…

Abbie Jones —

Apr 3, 2018

trans day of visibility

trans women of color

gender

Trans Day of Visibility Roundtable: Letters to the Trans People Who Shaped Us

“You make me proud to be Mexican, proud to be fat, proud to be queer and proud to be trans. You make me proud to be myself. I love you…

the team —

Mar 31, 2018

trans day of visibility

trans women

gender

Not Just Murder Victims: A Plea on Trans Day of Visibility

“If we are going to mourn our lost trans siblings, family and community members publicly, we need to do right by our community and contextualize their deaths with accuracy and…

Abbie Jones —

Mar 31, 2018

gender identity

you need help

gender

You Need Help: Reacting to Misgendering in Public

“Why can’t I just let it roll off me? And do you think there’s a way to react that might make the situation a little less miserable for me?”

Abbie Jones —

Feb 2, 2018

non-binary

Roundtables

gender

What It Means To Call Ourselves Non-Binary: An Autostraddle Roundtable

Non-binary does not mean the same thing to a single one of us. We’re all super nervous to talk about it in public, though!

Ari —

Dec 28, 2017

bisexuality

family

coming out

You Need Help: Coming Out When Your Girlfriend Is Amazing but Your Family Super Isn’t

“I feel like I’m lying to my my parents, hiding part of myself, and disrespecting my girlfriend by constantly avoiding mentioning her or referring to her as my friend when…

Rachel —

Dec 20, 2017

look into this

Mary Oliver

identity

You Need Help: What Should You Do With Your One Wild and Precious Life?

Queer time moves differently than regular time; we’re on our own schedule; we exist outside the rigidity of the patriarchal space-time continuum.

Heather Hogan —

Dec 14, 2017

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regular

trans men

you need help

‘I Want To Change My Name Again’

Wanting to change your name now after people have adjusted will not make you a burden.

Summer Tao

gender

regular

you need help

‘I’m Lost in the Gender Expression Sauce’

“I always thought, if I weren’t a trans man, I’d be a butch lesbian.”

Summer Tao —

Mar 11, 2025

trans

Updating Documents as a Trans Person Is Hell Right Now. Here Are My Tips for Navigating the Process

Like many trans people in recent weeks, I’ve found myself buried in government paperwork and waiting in lines at various agencies.

motti —

Jan 28, 2025

trans

trans men

I’m Legally Changing My Name and Sex Designation, and I Feel Complicated About It

As much as my transition is a deeply personal journey, the external pressures and political environment complicate this process in ways I never anticipated.

motti —

Nov 27, 2024

you need help

‘I Identified As Non-Binary for Years but I Think I’m Cis’

Gender exploration is for everyone, regardless of starting point or expectations.

Summer Tao —

Sep 17, 2024

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You Need Help: Am I Erasing Bisexuality?

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Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious Queerness This Ace Week

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Bisexuality, Queerness, Labels, Perception: A Conversation Between the EIC and the HBIC

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Founder Esther Godoy on the Evolution of Butch Is Not a Dirty Word

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Data Party! Insights into Nonbinary Readers from the 2022 Reader Survey

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Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious Queerness This Ace Week

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Bisexuality, Queerness, Labels, Perception: A Conversation Between the EIC and the HBIC

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Founder Esther Godoy on the Evolution of Butch Is Not a Dirty Word

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