Coming Out

Resources and advice on coming out gay, lesbian, queer, bisexual, trans, non-binary and/or nothing at all! Essays and how-tos on coming out to yourself, figuring out your identity and more.

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‘Am I Queer or Just Repulsed by Straight Norms?’

There is no such thing as being queer “enough.” There is just being queer.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Oct 7, 2025

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Y’All Need Help #8: Cross That Bridge When You Come to It!

Should you come out in high school or let them hear about it out later? Can you date a person with a kid if you don’t want kids? How do…

Laneia —

Aug 26, 2017

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Mastering the Art of Coming Out (and Making Lobster Bisque)

“I decided to make lobster bisque for my mom at the same moment I decided to come out to her. Only one of those things went according to plan.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Aug 14, 2017

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You Need Help: How to Navigate Disabled Kids Coming Out

“That she talked to you about this at all is a beautiful and important thing that a lot of young people don’t have. So know that just being there for…

Lindsay —

Jul 5, 2017

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This Is The Real Ellen DeGeneres Story: Remembering “The Puppy Episode” 20 Years Later

“She was an attractive woman, you know. If she hadn’t told us she was a lesbian, she could’ve been in a Miss America contest!”

Riese —

Apr 28, 2017

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The 11 Best Holidays For Coming Out To Your Family and Friends

Here’s what you do: write “I’m Gay” (or trans or bi or queer or whatever) on a piece of paper and put it inside an Easter Egg for the Easter…

Mey —

Nov 11, 2016

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Loving the Whole Me: A Bisexual Mom on Coming Out to Her Family

“I sent a short, simple message saying that although I didn’t realize it fully until recently, I was indeed bisexual, that this was an undeniable part of my identity, and…

Candace —

Oct 11, 2016

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Team Pick: “Coming Out With Care,” the E-Care Package For Your Parents!

Here’s a resource to help you and your parents navigate your coming out together!!

Ari —

Oct 11, 2016

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Impossible Machinery: On (Not) Coming Out to My Dad as Bisexual

“I feel as if I am filled to the brim, fit to spill, with how much I love her and how much I resent being a secret. It makes me…

Maree —

Sep 22, 2016

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dating

‘Am I Queer or Just Repulsed by Straight Norms?’

Y’All Need Help #8: Cross That Bridge When You Come to It!

Mastering the Art of Coming Out (and Making Lobster Bisque)

You Need Help: How to Navigate Disabled Kids Coming Out

This Is The Real Ellen DeGeneres Story: Remembering “The Puppy Episode” 20 Years Later

The 11 Best Holidays For Coming Out To Your Family and Friends

Loving the Whole Me: A Bisexual Mom on Coming Out to Her Family

Team Pick: “Coming Out With Care,” the E-Care Package For Your Parents!

Impossible Machinery: On (Not) Coming Out to My Dad as Bisexual

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