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I Think My Hot Girlfriend Is Gonna Leave Me For Someone Hotter

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Help! I’ve Gotten ‘The Ick’ for My Girlfriend

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Apr 5, 2024

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I Think My Hot Girlfriend Is Gonna Leave Me For Someone Hotter

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Apr 12, 2024
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Help! I’ve Gotten ‘The Ick’ for My Girlfriend

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Apr 5, 2024

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Can I Ask My Non-Binary Partner to Pretend To Be a Cis Man For My Sister’s Wedding?

Is it selfish to ask your spouse to pretend to be someone they aren’t, just so you’re not alone? Also, a reader has penis envy, possibly, maybe?

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Oct 25, 2024

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11 Queer People Share How They Flirt

“Did Shakespeare teach me how to flirt? MAYBE SO.”

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I Feel Like I’m Waiting For My Ex To Want to Get Back Together

He left the door open for trying again, so how are you supposed to process this sudden breakup? Also, a reader asks how to distinguish between anxiety and instinct.

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Oct 18, 2024

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She’s a 10 But She Doesn’t Read Books

She has no real interest in reading and you just can’t move past it! Also, what to do when your partner’s new friend is no friend of yours?

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I Trusted My Friend With My Cat. Then She Stole My Candle.

Some things are missing, but did the cat-sitter actually steal them? That’d be nuts, right? Also, is it a red flag if someone isn’t friends with their exes?

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Oct 4, 2024

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My Family Is Freaking Out That We Took Our Daughter To a Drag Brunch

The drag queens loved your toddler and your aunt is absolutely losing her mind! Also, can you ask your gf to shave her bush?

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Sep 26, 2024

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Is It Fair For Our Newly Sober Friend To Make Our Group Hangs Sober Too?

It just feels weird that the one sober person gets to decide that no one else can drink at dinner? Also, these gendered baby gifts ffs!

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Sep 20, 2024

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I Don’t Wanna Promote My Friend’s Bad Art

Your friend’s art is not great, but they keep asking you to share it on social. Also, a reader is feeling a little too embodied after having a baby.

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Sep 13, 2024

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Why Can’t I Share a King Bed With My Ex?

It’s truly platonic, but your new girlfriend has some thoughts! Also, we share ideas for psychosexual power plays, just casually.

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Sep 6, 2024

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Can I Lie To My Mom About My Girlfriend’s Age?

Is it weird to lie about your girlfriend’s age? And then sidebar: how do we all feel about straight people having ‘girlfriends’?

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Aug 30, 2024

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I’m Monogamous, They’re Polyamorous, Can We Make It Work?

You don’t want to lose them or change them, but you sure do wish you could make them be monogamous! Also: advice on breaking the rejection cycle.

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Aug 23, 2024

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I Want My Girlfriend To Quit Acting and Get a Job

Are you the asshole for asking your girlfriend to give up her acting dreams and get a real job? Also, we help a reader decide if it’s time to break…

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Aug 16, 2024