the team

into the af+ advice box

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Into the A+ Advice Box #18: Long-Distance Friendship, a Partner Who’s Afraid She’ll Marry a Man, and More!

Should you come out to your father who also has narcissistic personality disorder? What do you do with the digital remains of a relationship post-breakup? Navigating privilege, the pandemic and…

the team —

Sep 4, 2020

Roundtables

love + sex

7 Hot Queers and Their Go-To First Date Outfits

The best advice for a first date is always to be yourself; obviously you’re also interested in being the hottest, most unforgettable version of yourself. A good first date outfit…

the team —

Sep 3, 2020

extra extra

police violence

news

Extra! Extra!: Making Sense of a Summer Shaped by Violence

The state-sanctioned violence continues, people protest peacefully and are attacked and even killed by law enforcement and vigilantes (who are also, more or less, supported by law enforcement). We also…

the team —

Aug 28, 2020

tops and bottoms

love + sex

Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: So You’re a Top/Bottom/Switch

How have you defined (or not) your role over time? Has it changed, did you at first think you “were” one thing and now you ID differently? how did that…

the team —

Aug 26, 2020

extra extra

republicans

politics + activism

Extra! Extra!: If Trump’s Administration Is So Incompetent, Why Is It So Efficient at Enacting Anti-LGBTQ Policies?

This week’s Extra! Extra! reports another bit of news that flew under the radar, this time regarding gun control (it’s not good, you guys). We also cover the heinous violence…

the team —

Aug 21, 2020

advice

into the af+ advice box

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Into the A+ Advice Box #17: Tense Workplace Dynamics on a Remote Island Homestead and More!

Dating and inexperience and some really positive advice about this, grieving while starting graduate school, coping with feelings of jealousy and more!

the team —

Aug 21, 2020

#gr82bgay

great to be gay day

community

Happy 2nd Annual “It’s Great to Be Gay” Day — We Sure Do Love Being Gay, And We Also Love You!

 Welcome to the second annual IT’S GREAT TO BE GAY DAY, an international holiday we invented… well, because we can. And also because EVERY SINGLE EFFING DAY!! is A GREAT…

the team —

Aug 20, 2020

Roundtables

love + sex

Is That a Secure Attachment or Are You Just Happy to See Me: All About Our Attachment Styles

“Wow I’m making myself sound so fucked up! I promise I got 30 whole percent in secure attachment.”

the team —

Aug 19, 2020

extra extra

news

Extra! Extra!: The GOP Just Dealt a Big Blow to Abortion Rights You Probably Haven’t Even Heard About

This week’s Extra! Extra! provides yet another look at the state of political systems the world over. While democracy might be in dire straits, people are fighting for the governments…

the team —

Aug 14, 2020

covid-19

extra extra

news

Extra! Extra!: A Race Between Education and Catastrophe

We used this week’s Extra! Extra! to revisit some not-so-distant history, examine the fucked up shit happening in the name of “Homeland Security,” take a look at some of the…

the team —

Aug 7, 2020

advice

into the af+ advice box

af+

Into the A+ Advice Box #16: Your Ex Is Getting Married, Closure is a Myth and More!

Worries about a roommate’s mental health, thinking of dating after almost a decade of being single, evangelical parents and bisexuality, what to call your girlfriend when she dominates you, and…

the team —

Aug 7, 2020

Roundtables

love + sex

What We Wish We’d Known Before We Started Gay Dating

“You don’t have to be friends with the girl you met on Tinder (even if she says “wanna be friends instead?” after two dates and some exceedingly mediocre sex).”

the team —

Aug 6, 2020