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Should I Get Married Before Trump Takes Office?

An international couple ponders a visa marriage before Trump takes office. Also a reader wonders if dietary restrictions can be a dealbreaker.

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Dec 20, 2024

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My Straight Friend Wants Gay Attention

She’s straight but acts pretty gay at the parties! Is it allyship, or something else? Also, a reader requests some tittyfucking specifics please.

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Dec 13, 2024

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Should I Hold Space For My Ex-Friend Detailing All The Times I Hurt Them

What do you owe someone during a friend breakup? Also, a reader wonders about the right time to ask if someone’s interested in dating them.

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Dec 6, 2024

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Autostraddle + For Them’s Ultimate Team Holigay Gift Guide 2024

Get in here and see what all the gays at For Them and Autostraddle want this holiday season!

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Dec 2, 2024

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My Girlfriend Thinks Bad Service Deserves a Bad Tip, I Disagree

Your server was really bad, but is it ever ok to leave a bad tip? Also, should you give unsolicited relationship advice to a friend?

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Nov 29, 2024

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I’m Inexperienced and Panicked That I’ll Be Bad at Sex

How to navigate dating apps when you have very limited sexual experience?! Also, a reader feels isolated after experiencing profound family loss.

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Nov 22, 2024

Roundtables

house & garden

What’s Your Favorite + Least Favorite Household Chore?

Turns out a lot of us hate folding laundry.

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Nov 22, 2024

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Should I Dump My Trump-Loving Girlfriend?

Your girlfriend just straight up voted for Trump, so now what?? Also, a reader feels conflicted about Trump voters throwing her baby shower.

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Nov 15, 2024

Roundtables

lesbian dating apps

14 Queer People Share Their Favorite Dating Apps and Sites of All Time

For pretty much as long as the internet has existed, queers have used it to find each other. We were online dating before it was the norm.

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Nov 13, 2024

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How Can I Convince My Girlfriend To Accept Her Shot at Financial Freedom?

Your parents can help your girlfriend achieve some financial freedom, but she super doesn’t see it that way. Plus, a reader wonders if cis people can use “they/them”?

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Nov 8, 2024

Roundtables

community

The Recurring Dreams and Nightmares That Haunt Us

Gay people talking about their dreams? How groundbreaking.

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Nov 2, 2024

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My Ex Would Rather I Rearrange My Entire Life Than Be Friends

Your ex doesn’t want to see you at public spaces, but is that your responsibility? Also, a reader wonders if it’s empty flirting or something more?

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Nov 1, 2024