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into the af+ advice box

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life

What If I’m Totally Fine with the Space Between Us?

Your mom wants to braid friendship bracelets and you want to disappear into adulthood. Also, we help a reader embrace queer romance novels!

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May 30, 2025

into the af+ advice box

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sex

Is There a Chill Way To Tell Your Girlfriend They Smell Bad?

This is a touchy subject! What should you say? When should you say it? Also, how to deal with body dysmorphia on video calls.

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May 23, 2025

into the af+ advice box

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dating

Hold Up, Can My Friend Date My Ex?

She broke your heart and now she’s dating your friend and everyone says it’s 100% legal, like what the fuck. Also, we help a reader gently set some misophonia boundaries…

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May 16, 2025

Roundtables

community

The Horrors Persist, but So Does Queer Community

If you’re struggling to find your queer community or just looking for other avenues for deep connection, our team shares our own approaches and the unexpected places where you can…

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May 16, 2025

featured

polyamory

dating

12 Queers on Where We Fall on the Polyamory/Monogamy Scale

Monogamy and polyamory exist on a spectrum and often aren’t fixed black-and-white categories.

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May 10, 2025

into the af+ advice box

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love + sex

Please Stop Telling My Older Girlfriend Not to Date Me

How to cope when social commentary has your older girlfriend wondering if she’s a pervert for dating you. Plus, what if your brother’s line in the sand is not yours?

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May 9, 2025

Roundtables

breakups

Our Best Memories With Our Worst Exes

Even bad relationships contain good memories.

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May 6, 2025

are straight women okay

into the af+ advice box

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dating

She Won’t Date Me Because I Cheated on Someone Years Ago — Ok Miss Perfect!

She dumped you after finding out you cheated on a past girlfriend! Also, how can you interact with straight women without seeming like a man-hating lesbian?

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May 2, 2025

into the af+ advice box

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relationships

Capitalism Is a B*tch, but I Can’t Help My Friends Anymore

Should you keep recommending your friends for jobs, when they keep dropping the ball? Also, we help a reader whose younger friend isn’t taking their dating advice.

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Apr 25, 2025

into the af+ advice box

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af+

Literally Dreaming About Sex With My Ex

The sex you’re having now is fine, but the sex with her was incredible (unfortunately). Also we help a reader whose girlfriend won’t stop singing show tunes!

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Apr 18, 2025

into the af+ advice box

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af+

HELP! I’m Trapped in a Fartless Relationship!

Nearly two years of cohabitation and you still haven’t farted around each other?! Also, a reader’s gf might be exhibiting (and triggering) some disordered eating habits.

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Apr 11, 2025

into the af+ advice box

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af+

My Girlfriend Hates That My Family Is White, But I Can’t Fix That

She roasts your family for being so white, and you’re like… yep we are, that’s true! So now what? Also, let us plan your trip to Italy!

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Apr 4, 2025

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What If I’m Totally Fine with the Space Between Us?

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Hold Up, Can My Friend Date My Ex?

The Horrors Persist, but So Does Queer Community

12 Queers on Where We Fall on the Polyamory/Monogamy Scale

Please Stop Telling My Older Girlfriend Not to Date Me

Our Best Memories With Our Worst Exes

She Won’t Date Me Because I Cheated on Someone Years Ago — Ok Miss Perfect!

Capitalism Is a B*tch, but I Can’t Help My Friends Anymore

Literally Dreaming About Sex With My Ex

HELP! I’m Trapped in a Fartless Relationship!

My Girlfriend Hates That My Family Is White, But I Can’t Fix That