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How Do I Talk To My Family About Harry Potter?

How do you talk to your family about JK Rowling’s transphobia? And what to do about your poly kinky friend who seems bored by your monogamous life?

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Aug 1, 2025

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Should I Cut My Maternity Leave Short To Help My Coworkers?

Your wife thinks your maternity leave plan is “crazy.” Also, how to navigate potential imbalances in a slightly open relationship.

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Jul 25, 2025

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My Roommate’s Nudity Habit Is Weirding Me Out

Can you build healthy boundaries without body-shaming an unclothed roommate? Also can you teach a bad kisser to be a good kisser?

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Jul 18, 2025

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dating

Will Everyone Always Seem Second-Best to My Ex?

They checked every box, but now it’s over and nothing else seems to come close. Will it always be this way? Also, we help a reader decide if she should…

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Jul 11, 2025

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dating

I’m Moving In With My Ex-Situationship (Wait, There’s More)

She’s dating your bestie, still flirts with you, and you’re all three moving in together?! Also, a reader wonders if she’s really a lesbian if all of her exes came…

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Jul 4, 2025

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Roundtables

comedy

What’s a Normal Human Behavior That Gives You the Ick?

Listen, did we have a little TOO MUCH FUN ranting about our various icks? Maybe so. And now you can have some fun with us, too, delving into the various…

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Jun 28, 2025

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love + sex

My Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust Me to Party at Pride This Year

You cheated on your boyfriend and now he’s asking you to stay home from Pride parties — is that fair? Also, how to navigate different types of political activism.

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Jun 27, 2025

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Roundtables

breakups

The People We Miss From Breakups Other Than Our Exes

I think of all the people who exited my life because of breakups and how neither of us knew our final conversations with each other were exactly that.

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Jun 23, 2025

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Should I Stick It Out at My Christian College?

You could graduate debt-free, or you could see what else is out there. Also, we help a nonbinary reader feel more supported in this binary world.

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Jun 20, 2025

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friendship

I Actually Don’t Need to Hear About Your Trans Allyship!

Your friends are on your side and they can’t wait to tell you about it! Also, we help a trans reader who’s nervous about international travel.

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Jun 13, 2025

Roundtables

sexting

sex

8 Queer Sexting Experts on How We Digitally Do It

Voice memos, FaceTime, short videos, live photos, nudes, role-playing, classic texting — sexting can look like a lot of different things. 

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Jun 12, 2025

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friendship

My Queer Friends Are Mean About How Skinny I Am

Is it ever ok to comment on another person’s body? Also, we help a reader with a loud late-night roommate.

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Jun 6, 2025