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Was I A Fool To Think They’d Kiss Me Back?

You made the first move and have felt weird about it ever since. Also — needing tips on dating in your mid-30s, ’cause it’s not going well so far.

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Oct 17, 2025

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Is it Okay To Write an Apology Letter To an Ex? 10 Queers Weigh In

The concept of the Breakup Apology Letter is a controversial one! Where do you land?

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Oct 13, 2025

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OK, What If I Don’t Want To Attend My Friend’s Improv Show

Someone must really hate improv — or their friend!!! Someone else is low-key dying that their friend isn’t returning borrowed books on time. And someone else is sweating their ass…

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Oct 10, 2025

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Is There a “Right Way” To Have Public Sex?

Your girlfriend loved gym bathroom sex but you’re not so sure you wanna do it again. Also: how to feel sexier while living with long Covid.

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Oct 3, 2025

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Is It So Wrong To Pick Up My Ex-Girlfriend From Jail?

Your girlfriend wants you to go no-contact with your ex after you picked her up from jail. Also; is it ok to tell your now-sober partner about the mean things…

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Sep 26, 2025

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Help I Have a Crush On My Ex-Boyfriend’s Sister

Should you make a move on an ex-boyfriend’s sister who may or may not be your root? Also — tips on sexting A WRITER.

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Sep 19, 2025

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I’m a Cis Butch Woman, and Boy Do I Want Top Surgery!

Can you feel dysphoric about your boobs even if you’re not trans? Also, tips on how to learn to love your body as you come into your queerness.

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Sep 12, 2025

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I Feel Like Leaving When My Sexual Partners Require Me To Come

How can you convince your hookups to stop trying to make you have an orgasm? Also, tips on maintaining a writing practice for people with ADHD.

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Sep 5, 2025

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Should We Be Paying Our Friends To Babysit?

They’re doing well financially and love your kid — should you still offer money? Also; tips on giving complements to mascs and butches.

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Aug 29, 2025

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I’m 34 and Want Kids. Is It Ethical To Eliminate Older Women From My Dating Pool?

What’s the best way to approach dating when you’re looking to co-parent? And is “looking for younger women” one of those ways?

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Aug 22, 2025

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Must I Invite My Homophobic Stepdad To My Homosexual Wedding?

He was awful when you came out, but now he wants to COME OUT to your wedding. Also; how to friend an ex without sending mixed signals.

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Aug 15, 2025

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Can’t a Lesbian Enjoy a Little Straight Porn Around Here?

Your best friend is shaming you for the kind of porn that gets you off. Also; tips on having more threesomes.

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Aug 8, 2025