Summer Tao

relationships

‘I’m Married, My Ex Just Said She’s in Love With Me, and I Don’t Know What To Do’

“I’ve done a lot of processing, but I am super confused. I don’t know what feelings are memories from the past and what is today.”

Summer Tao

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Aug 13, 2024

health

Why We Shouldn’t Be Overly Dismissive of Self-Diagnosis

The healthcare system has a longstanding reputation for mistreating queer people, and self-diagnosis can provide agency even with its shortcomings.

Summer Tao

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Aug 1, 2024

sex

How To Reframe Masturbation As ‘Solo Sex’

Like all sex acts, masturbation isn’t just about sex.

Summer Tao

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Jul 31, 2024

sex

‘I Only Want To Top During Sex and My Partner Is Taking It Personally’

“I recently mentioned to my partner that I want to have a (temporary) break from receiving during sex in order to give myself space to be with my body fully,…

Summer Tao

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Jul 23, 2024

relationships

‘My Wife Is in the Early Stages of Transitioning, and I Feel Weird About Keeping Her Identity a Secret’

“It feels like she’s never going to be fully out and that this is just how the rest of our life together is going to be.”

Summer Tao

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Jul 16, 2024

health

What Comes After Surviving Suicidality?

What I’ve found to be near-universally helpful is talking to people about it.

Summer Tao

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Jun 20, 2024

lgbt book reviews

‘Why Are People Into That?’ Asks Incisive Questions About Kink

Tina Horn’s new book will challenge some of your problematic notions no matter how confident you are in your sex positivity.

Summer Tao

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Jun 19, 2024

relationships

‘The Lack of Physical Affection From My Girlfriend Is Becoming Unbearable’

“I just feel like a huge 30-year-old crybaby thinking about asking for more physical affection and, on my worst days, starting to think ‘maybe moving in was a mistake.'”

Summer Tao

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Jun 18, 2024

health

How To Be a Better Advocate for Victims of Sexual Violence — Especially Yourself

Every small act of kindness to ourselves and others is a crack against the foundations of rape culture.

Summer Tao

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Jun 12, 2024

dating

4 Questions To Ask Yourself When Entering an Age Gap Relationship

People in age gap relationships often have to defend our relationships. But there are some questions we should ask heading into one.

Summer Tao

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Jun 7, 2024

dating

It Feels Especially Bad To Be Ghosted When You’re Neurodivergent

Here’s how to deal with it.

Summer Tao

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Jun 5, 2024

dating

I’m a Hopeless Romantic Who Keeps Falling in Love With My Friends

“I have strong sexual feelings for another good friend of mine. They have a partner already and are poly.”

Summer Tao

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Jun 4, 2024